https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 09:42:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1471219 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:41:13 +0000 lovehoneybee 1471219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I've ever been to one after the baby was born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1471207 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:38:05 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1471207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around here, they are very rarely AFTER the birth, even if the parents don't know the baby's sex. Actually, @sapphiresun is the only person I *know* who's had one after...it just doesn't get done that way around here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1471202 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:36:05 +0000 Sapphiresun 1471202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A mix in our area. I had a shower thrown by my co-workers before I left on Maternity leave, and one for friends and family when baby was about a month old. </p> <p>It definitely meant that all the "necessities" were on us to purchase, and I just got some clothes and books at the shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1471132 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 19:12:20 +0000 HabesBabe 1471132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All before-- the only time I went to an after shower was because the baby was a preemie.</p> <p>For our area, all showers take place before the "big event"-- so although it's *possible* that with a bridal shower, the wedding could be called off, the fiance could die in a freak hang gliding accident, etc., we still have the shower beforehand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470778 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 17:15:49 +0000 chopsuey 1470778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been to an after birth shower! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470718 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:59:40 +0000 Boogs 1470718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been to one after the baby was born, the only ones I've been two were a bit before the mama was due. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470556 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:15:23 +0000 mrsjazz 1470556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been to a baby shower after the baby was born. The only people I know IRL who had baby showers after birth are Jewish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470538 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:09:18 +0000 cmomma17 1470538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HellOnHeels: cool :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470513 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:02:52 +0000 Mae 1470513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: lol hi Jewish friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470509 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:02:25 +0000 rachiecakes 1470509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only been to one where it was after the baby was born, but the baby was born at 25 weeks. They wanted to wait until she was about to come home, but the baby didn't make an appearance at her own shower. </p> <p>Personally I wouldn't want one afterwards. I was a hot mess for a long while after DS was born!</p> <p>@Alivoo01: I like that one month celebration! It took a while for me to recover and get into the swing of being a mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470505 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 16:01:12 +0000 JoJoGirl 1470505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Who could that be?! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470501 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:59:30 +0000 Torchwood 1470501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had never heard of having one after until I joined HB. From the South (US) for what it's worth. I've also never heard of it being inappropriate to register for things like a car seat. Everyone I know definitely has registered for big ticket items, and received most of them either from parents/grandparents, or people going in on one big gift together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470401 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:36:58 +0000 Alivoo01 1470401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before. But in my culture, there's a 1 month celebration following the baby's birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470384 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:32:55 +0000 Beebug 1470384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: to each their own like I said :)</p> <p>To me carseat isn't something you register for, stroller was also something too much to register for in my opinion (ILs then gave it as gift). PnP we didn't use until months later and was a shower gift, and swing was loaned and even then not used until a couple weeks in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470361 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:28:21 +0000 kiddosc 1470361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: we received our carseat, stroller, pack and play, and swing as shower gifts. All big ticket things that were necessary in the first few weeks. Everyone I've known who has had a shower has registered for these items. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470350 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:25:27 +0000 Beebug 1470350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had all four showers that were done for us after LO arrived. From 3-6w on. Two were at our home, basically the hostesses came in and took over, which was actually fantastic!</p> <p>I am in the camp of baby only needs so much in early days as is, and anything big ticket/purchase wasn't an appropriate thing to receive as a shower gift or register for, plus they all got to meet the baby, so after was the best option for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470330 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:21:14 +0000 HellOnHeels 1470330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: @whenoceansrise: Yeah, that's understandable. I'm assuming parents/grandparents would buy the absolute essentials, put things on registry they "want" and go from there. </p> <p>Also, a lot of people that I WOULD go to a baby shower for aren't having them anymore. I doubt I will have one, even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470327 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:21:04 +0000 wonderstruck 1470327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always seen it done before. Not too early, but usually in the 3rd trimester. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470324 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:20:20 +0000 Smurfette 1470324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>never been, nor invited, to one for after the baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470321 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:19:36 +0000 Mae 1470321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only been to ones before the birth, and never heard of someone doing one after the birth until I made a Jewish friend in adulthood. (Grew up in Ohio, so not exactly much cultural diversity growing up). </p> <p>I much prefer before. The whole point of a shower seems to be to get stuff to prepare for the baby. If I had my shower after the baby was born I'd have to buy all that stuff myself and then what would there be left to buy after? Just clothes/toys? Meh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470310 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:16:53 +0000 swedishfish 1470310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only been to baby showers before the baby was born. The only reason someone around here would hold one after the baby was born is if the baby was born prematurely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470302 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:15:02 +0000 HellOnHeels 1470302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: Canadian prairies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470301 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:14:48 +0000 kiddosc 1470301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never heard of doing it after. I've always seen it done before, then the parents are all ready for baby's arrival. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470299 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:14:31 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1470299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before. I've never been a shower after the baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470297 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:13:50 +0000 HellOnHeels 1470297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: all the showers I've attended or been invited was several weeks after birth. Minimum of a month later usually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470294 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:13:11 +0000 heffalump 1470294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before. In my religion/culture it's the norm to do it after.... but now a days everyone still does it before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470293 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:13:02 +0000 cmomma17 1470293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HellOnHeels: where do you live? I have never known anyone to have a baby shower after a baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470290 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:12:25 +0000 Willow 1470290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been to many baby showers, but they have all been after the baby was born (about 2-4 weeks old). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470289 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:12:02 +0000 whenoceansrise 1470289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been to one after the baby is born. I think I'd rather have it before so that I'd have all of the gifts beforehand and if I didn't receive something at the shower, I could get it before baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-showers-before-or-after-birth#post-1470261 Wed, 05 Mar 2014 15:07:09 +0000 autumnlove 1470261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before! My mom didn't attend because she thought it was poor taste to have it before the baby arrived. :-( </p>