https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 10:44:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297353 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 13:38:50 +0000 SleepyMonkey 297353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: not mean! i would feel the same way. if you make any progress on overcoming the phobia, let me know. i'd love to get over mine too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297330 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 13:07:39 +0000 Grace 297330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Good idea. A walk always helps me when I'm feeling out of sorts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297329 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 13:06:45 +0000 anonysquire 297329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: I think for right now I am finally going to sleep, if I can calm down. And then maybe a walk somewhere. We are on vacation so I don't know anything around here but even a walk would do me some good :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297323 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 13:03:07 +0000 Grace 297323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I assume that he doesn't think he's done anything wrong because it's not that unusual for him to have been that drunk. And probably thinks you are crazy for worrying about him. And on your end, you aren't used to it and it makes it all scary, plus you are already anxious and he's not understanding. I'm sorry - it's a sucky situation. Is there anything you can do today to distract you? Shopping, massage, pedicure, walk in the park? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297307 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 12:28:27 +0000 anonysquire 297307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: He just woke up, showered and left with friends to watch the football game at the bar. He promised he wouldn't drink but I don't think I'll be that lucky.</p> <p>He doesn't even think he did anything wrong, didn't care that I have not slept all night. Oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297263 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:36:18 +0000 anonysquire 297263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Thank you. I will look into that also! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297262 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:36:17 +0000 mrbee 297262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I would definitely see an expert in phobia extinction. Also, anxiety medication combined with CBT is often better than either alone. I didn't use the meds though, because the autogenics was so useful to me. I also tried hypnosis, but didn't find that helpful.</p> <p>Not sure if you exercise, but that's hugely useful too. What I discovered is that anxiety starts in your mind, but it's basically a physical response that is triggered by your mind. If you work out, that can have a HUGE positive impact. I would actually jump on the treadmill and think about my phobia extinction ladder, and it was so much easier than it would have been otherwise.</p> <p>Phobia treatment is for real. There's no reason to suffer these days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297253 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:29:42 +0000 mrs. bird 297253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I have had a lot of issues with anxiety/depression/ and some other issues &amp; I had great success working with a therapist &amp; using this as my workbook. Looks like it was really helpful for other people too just looking at the reviews on amazon. Just a thought :)<br /> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1572245131/ref=pd_sim_b_1" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1572245131/ref=pd_sim_b_1</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297249 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:23:25 +0000 anonysquire 297249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thank you. As someone who has been scared of vomit for like 100 years it would be amazing to get rid of the fear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297247 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:21:54 +0000 mrbee 297247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: A phobia is just a specific type of anxiety disorder. It's all related!</p> <p>There's a great overview of phobia treatments (by success metrics) in this really useful book, What you can change and hat you can't:<br /> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/What-You-Change-Cant-Self-Improvement/dp/1400078407/" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/What-You-Change-Cant-Self-Improvement/dp/1400078407/</a></p> <p>CBT is excellent for phobia extinction.<br /> <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy#Anxiety_disorders" rel="nofollow">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy#Anxiety_disorders</a></p> <p>I also found autogenics to be hugely useful for self-treatment... especially when I felt high levels of anxiety:<br /> <a href="http://www.guidetopsychology.com/autogen.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.guidetopsychology.com/autogen.htm</a></p> <p>Phobias are very very easy to treat! I was very skeptical, but I've reviewed a lot of the studies and literature and tried almost every treatment out there, and it's definitely possible to get relief! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297241 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:16:24 +0000 anonysquire 297241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I have not. Does a therapist do this? I have really horrible anxiety as well that has yet to be treated with medications, therapy and meditation so I am not convinced I can be cured! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297239 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:11:00 +0000 mrbee 297239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you have to deal with this situation!</p> <p>Have you tried getting treatment for your phobia? Phobia extinction is a pretty common treatment these days! I've had several phobias extinguished by treatment, and it's been such a relief not to have to deal with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297237 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 11:07:59 +0000 anonysquire 297237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: Well I make my own schedule, so I guess it is my fault that I am working all these hours. But usually I can say I am available 4 days and they end up calling me off or something so I only work 2 or 3 12 hr shifts. Last week I worked 4. Good luck on your pregnancy! Hopefully you can relax soon!!!</p> <p>@JessLC: Not mad at him for drinking, just mad that he threw up, I know I am mean. </p> <p>@autumnlove: Thanks!</p> <p>@Grace: Ya, I have never seen him like this so I didn't know if I needed medical attention or what people do in these situations lol. At my work we get the drunk people and hook them right up to IVs and let them sleep. Ya I am probably just going to chill here today and kick him out when he gets up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297203 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 10:15:51 +0000 Grace 297203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Wow. I would so not be doing that for him. I have no sympathy for people that get that drunk. I mean, yes I'd pick DH off the road if he were out there, but once he's asleep? Then he can deal with the ramifications himself! Is it daytime there for you? Maybe you could go for a walk or plan something to do today (cause if your hubs is like mine, he'll be useless today). Hugs.</p> <p>And sorry about the puke... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297170 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 09:36:16 +0000 autumnlove 297170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww! I'm sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297141 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 09:08:24 +0000 SleepyMonkey 297141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: sorry :( you know i can relate to your fear. i have had to do that a couple times too. are you mad at him, or are you going to let it go? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297115 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 08:07:14 +0000 Cherrybee 297115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you :-) </p> <p>I don't think it has sunk it yet - I'm not letting it sink in until at least 8 weeks; I'm terrified of getting myself all excited and then losing it. I just feel like I've been so lucky so far - when's it all going to come crashing down? Wow, I'm cheerful, huh?! </p> <p>How are you (apart from the hubby situation tonight)? You said work has been super busy of late? I hope they're not over-working you?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297109 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:53:07 +0000 anonysquire 297109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: Well thank you. And congrats on the BFP :) How are you feeling? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297108 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:51:33 +0000 Cherrybee 297108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's ok, vent away. I'm glad you're not alone with it (although you technically are... but I'm here for you on the other side of the world). It's only 2pm here and I'm not going anywhere.....</p> <p>Urgh. How horrible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297102 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:42:25 +0000 anonysquire 297102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sorry to vent out on you guys like this. Just having a really bad panic weekend and don't have anyone else to turn to. I really apologize! I have never had to take care of a drunken or throwing up loved one :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297101 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:38:45 +0000 anonysquire 297101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: Nevermind, he just threw up. I want to hide somewhere away from him. I am a horrible person, but I can't be around it.</p> <p>Yes a nurse with a vomit phobia, I really am terrible! I can clean up the vomit but I can't hear or watch them throw up or I just die. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297100 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:33:37 +0000 Cherrybee 297100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ahh, he hasn't been sick?! Ahh, he'll be fine - especially now he's had some water. Try and get some rest - the best thing for him is sleeping it off. xx</p> <p>PS - you're a nurse aren't you?! A nurse with a vomit phobia? Wow, I have some serious respect for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297093 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:20:09 +0000 anonysquire 297093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Ya I keep waking him up like every hour to drink water and he opens his eyes and grumbles and talks. I am scared he is going to throw up so that is why I am anxious.</p> <p>@Ali: I don't want him to throw-up!!! That is why I am watching him. I have a terrible phobia of vomit. I am just shaking right now and sick to my stomach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297092 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:15:57 +0000 Cherrybee 297092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anonysquire: I really feel for you. sweetie. My ex used to do this quite often, go out with his friends and come back really ridiculously drunk. I like a drink myself - but it was scary, some of the states he came back in. One night, he called me at 2am and said he was lost. He was rambling about being covered in sick and kept insisting it wasn't his sick - and he was getting more and more distressed. I called his friend up - who was also insanely drunk - and he said that S had gotten into a taxi to go home and, at that point, there was no sick on him. I could only surmise that he had been thrown out of a taxi on the way home for being sick (and then not realised it was his vomit??) and so I got in my car and drove into town, the way way the taxi would have come. Sure enough, about a mile away from home, I spotted him staggering up a main road, veering onto the path of (fortunately infrequent) oncoming cars. I got him into the car and he was promptly sick all over the inside of the passenger door. When I got him home, I couldn't get him upstairs - he fell asleep on the sofa and then vomited in his sleep, nearly choking in the process. I sat up all night watching him..... </p> <p>We broke up a few weeks after that. He refused to understand why I was so upset about it and refused to stop getting into those kind of states. This meant that I'd lie awake any time he went out, worrying, until he was home safe. </p> <p>So, yeah, just to say, I feel for you tonight. It's scary - and it's also so frustrating. Once he's got over the puking stage, you can let him sleep it off fairly confidently. I'm sure he'll be fine. Hugs. x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297091 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:11:55 +0000 mrs. bird 297091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: oh sweetie go to sleep! You poor thing! I know you're anxious, but if he hasn't had anymore to drink in 4 hours, just roll him on his side, has he woken up when you've tried (I mean not like bouncing out of bed but mostly open eyes &amp; grumbling at you)? If he has, I would try to get some sleep. No sense making yourself more miserable. You are a very attentive wife! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297090 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:00:50 +0000 anonysquire 297090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Ya, I don't have a problem with it and he doesn't have a drinking problem for sure. I am just frustrated because this adds on more anxiety to my already bad anxiety from this trip and I feel like it would be irresponsible for me to sleep while he is like this. So I have been up 4 hours just waiting for him to sober up. I have no idea how long that takes lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297089 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 06:56:53 +0000 mrs. bird 297089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. That is annoying. DH was a frat boy &amp; picked up some less than healthy ways with alcohol. I drink, but not a ton (makes me bloated &amp; tired the next day). </p> <p>We try not to keep any in the house now, so drinking is more a social celebratory thing for us when we're out with friends. It's been hard for him to find a way to still be with friends &amp; drink &amp; be included without going over the top, but we're working on it. Like have beers first so once they go out they keep drinking beer rather than hard liquor. Or have him alternate alcoholic &amp; non alcoholic drinks. I get super frustrated with DH's drinking sometimes (like when he starts drinking in the morning...) and I have absolutely no tolerance for it if someone is driving, you wanna drink yourself to death- all the power to ya, but leave me &amp; everyone else out of it! </p> <p>Sounds like if it's just at his reunion, it isn't much of a problem for him, but still a pain in the butt. Hope your weekend gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/babysitting-my-husband-tonight#post-297086 Sun, 16 Sep 2012 06:37:10 +0000 anonysquire 297086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a drinker, never have tried it. DH drank a ton before we started dating, like pass out drinking every weekend. Anyways we met and he stopped. Tonight we are in Arizona for his high school reunion and I guess he went crazy. I stayed in and his friend stumbled into the hotel room with him at like 2am. </p> <p>I really don't care that he drinks, but this is frustrating to me. I have to keep checking that he is ok and keep forcing him to drink water. He is passed out. And it isn't helping my anxiety I have had all weekend and my phobia of throw-up..... UGH, morning better and hurry and come. </p>