https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 11:21:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630706 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 12:15:32 +0000 sera_87 630706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We took our bed off the frame and if im not sleeping with him put his crib mattress on the floor next to my side so if he does crawl off he lands on something soft. He starts the night between DH and I and I put him chest level so he can nurse easily. If we switch sides during the night, i scooch over to the middle and keep him within my arms. We do use pillows and blankets, but we're always very careful to not pull the blankets up past his chest level. The one time I got too drunk to feel safe sleeping with him he was about 4 months and and slept those few hours in his swing.</p> <p>ETA: we put the mattress on my side because he knows which side he gets milk from and will keep moving until he falls off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630688 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 12:11:01 +0000 oliviaoblivia 630688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @mewtill we use the co-sleeper as a guard rail. I keep my arm between LO's head an my pillow. I sleep kind of in a pocket of a blanket...a fold a blanket under my body and tuck it around back as well so that there is no loose covering....I guess I swaddle myself. She sleeps with her head at boob level and I curve around her. I very rarely have her between me and DH. The one time I did he woke up in the night grabbing at the pillows thinking they were the baby and that she had lost her head....he's a very sound sleeper and I think was not quite awake.</p> <p>We follow all of the guidelines as far as animals, alcohol, etc.</p> <p>I really like bed-sharing and here in Canada our doctor supports it. I know it the states it's a big no-no, but it has helped my sleep so much. Her one night-time feed is more of a dream feed and neither she nor I are wide awake for it. We haven't had much sleep deprivation and I think co-bedding is why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630659 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 12:04:55 +0000 lovehoneybee 630659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared a bed for the first 5 months. We pushed our bed against the wall. He alternated between sleeping between me and the wall and between me and DH. DH and I do not share a blanket, we're not cuddly sleepers and he tends not to move, so I felt comfortable with this. Also, I usually curled my body so that his feet were resting on or near my thighs (like a chair?) so if DH were to roll he would roll onto me first. </p> <p>He slept far enough down my body so that his head was at my boob and my bottom arm was between my pillow and his head (so I still slept on a pillow). I kept my comforter at my waist and wore a nursing tank and cardigan to bed. I didn't take any meds and didn't drink. I was rarely overtired because I barely had to wake up to nurse him. </p> <p>He won't co-sleep with us anymore. I tried bringing him into bed for his morning nurse in hopes that we could go back to sleep until it was time for DH to get up but he likes the space in his crib. Our bed really isn't big enough to sleep with an older infant, especially one that likes to roll around and splay all his limbs...little bed hog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630638 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 12:00:38 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 630638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We purposefully co-bed, although we try to have him sleep in his co-sleeper. I usually have him between myself and the co-sleeper (which is our "guardrail"). I lay like @runsyellowlites with his face right below my arm.<br /> Sometimes we have the covers on him, around his waist. Mostly I pull them at an angle so they're over my shoulder, but tucked between our bodies. I still use a pillow, but keep it pulled away from his face.<br /> He has slept in-between DH and I before. We pull the covers down and both face toward him. DH used to lay with him on his side of the bed, but I wasn't comfortable with their being no guardrail. Now we'll switch sides if I need a break &amp; DH will lay with him the way I do. I feel comfortable with DH laying near him and both of us always wake the other person if we're bringing DS in bed.</p> <p>We're hoping to switch to the crib soon. I do like co-bedding, but our bed is too small to do it long-term (DS is 5 months). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630631 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:57:20 +0000 littlebittyhouse 630631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bed share most of the night. LO usually starts the night next to me and ends up between DH and I. We do not have a guardrail but I am actully going out today to get one. I use half of a pillow and usually wear a sweatshirt so that there are blankets on my lower half and not on LO, Like @runsyellowlites he sleeps low enough to nurse. I typically wear a nursing tank and a cardigan or sweatshirt so that he can nurse when he wants. I don't take meds or drink and am not overtired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630559 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:41:43 +0000 runsyellowlites 630559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We purposefully co-bed part of the night.</p> <p>We have our bed off the frame &amp; pushed up against the wall so P can't fall off. She sleeps pretty far from the pillow since she's low enough to nurse (my "bottom" arm is usually between her head &amp; the pillow) and if she's between me &amp; the wall I pull the cover just to "on top of me" but not between her &amp; I and not over her.</p> <p>For the first 6 months P ONLY slept between me &amp; the wall b/c DH still wasn't used to her there... I usually ended up pushed in the middle pretty close to me so he learned not to roll over me. lol Now she'll occasionally sleep between us (she's much more demanding of her space) but she still ends up close to me since she nurses quite frequently. If she's in the middle I only cover my bottom half which basically leaves her uncovered. We adjust our thermostat to work.</p> <p>I never take meds or drink &amp; if I'm over tired..... well that actually hasn't happened since we put her in our bed. Even if I don't have "adequate" sleep I'm not ever a walking zombie like I was in the first days when we tried to not co-bed.</p> <p>So yea.. we pretty much follow the rules. If DH wasn't always cold at night we'd forgo the blanket all together... not gonna happen with him though. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630555 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:40:31 +0000 MarieJ 630555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've co-slept with dd since bringing her home. She sleeps on my side, not in the middle of DH &amp; I. I keep pillows away from her and I'll just nestle close to her where my head is just a little above her head. Ill pull the covers up on both of us but make sure they are no where near her face. I also put her close to me where I can hear any little sound. I'm also a very light sleeper so we haven't had any issues whatsoever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedsharing-in-real-life#post-630533 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:32:51 +0000 mamimami 630533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a huge fan of sleeping with my baby, but what can I say -- it happens. Especially now that she's going through post 4-month sleep issues and wants to nurse throughout the early morning. Usually I pull her into bed to feed her and then we both fall asleep.</p> <p>What I want to know is, do those of you who bedshare with a baby (accidentally, occasionally or purposefully) really follow all the guidelines for doing so? Sleeping without covers and pillows, using a guardrail and all that business? Do you keep the baby on one side of you and your husband on the other side, like some say you should?</p> <p>When I sleep with my baby, I keep her away from the pillows and I kind of scrunch down so my head is next to her head, and wrap myself around her in a little L, figuring that way I won't pull the cover up over BOTH of our heads. But no way can I sleep without any covers... it's FREEZING in our house at night. And sometimes I have her on one side and sometimes the other, depending on what side I'm nursing from. </p>