https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 08:13:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2608133 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 02:57:27 +0000 Kemma 2608133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What would happen if you completely changed up the routine? Maybe starting fresh might help get your LO out of his pattern?</p> <p>My other thought is getting your LO outside and burning off any energy before you start the bedtime routine, I read somewhere (maybe Janet Lansbury?) that ten minutes of physical activity and rough-housing before you start the bedtime routine can help avoid the tantrums and dramatics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2608132 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 02:29:27 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2608132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was gonna say my only thought was to move nursing to the beginning of the routine. It makes it tough at first but that might help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2608131 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 02:27:43 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2608131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: we have some issues like this! Strangely enough, my little guy does much better on the evenings I am totally away (at work) for bedtime. My husband has a super easy time getting him to sleep on those nights. The rest of the time, I do 90% of the bedtime routine except for random help from dh. And I actually struggle some nights with a long bedtime battle like you described! But lately DS will occasionally cry at different parts of the routine asking for dada. He totally wants both of us there. I have a feeling that if I left after being there for part of the routine, he would flip out. So I am no help to you! How does your LO do when it's just your husband? I think something about the before bed nursing just makes my son want to keep nursing all evening and not fall asleep. I have to nurse and then rock him, usually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2608054 Sun, 21 Aug 2016 19:33:55 +0000 FaithFertility 2608054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: ahhh we don't anymore, she is 20 months when we did she night weaned arouand 10 months! So she had milk with dinner before bed! But before that it was always me who nursed her to bed and DH did the bath </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2607975 Sun, 21 Aug 2016 13:43:30 +0000 lilyofthewest 2607975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: @FaithFertility:<br /> How do you alternate with nursing? Just nurse downstairs before upstairs part of bedtime routine? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2607952 Sun, 21 Aug 2016 11:31:44 +0000 FaithFertility 2607952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We alternate! DH I guess actually always gives her a bath, which is great now that I am 8.5 months pregnant, but after bath either he or myself finish bedtime!<br /> Diaper,lotion jammies on a few songs and in bed!<br /> She is 20 months!<br /> She every now and then if he puts her down will call out for me, but he tells her I am.sleeping, that seems to.work </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2607951 Sun, 21 Aug 2016 11:28:33 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2607951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We alternate. So I do one night solo and then dad does the next night. I think it helps to not get attached to either parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-help-15mo-wants-both-parents-every-night#post-2607932 Sun, 21 Aug 2016 09:18:41 +0000 lilyofthewest 2607932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 15 month old LO's current bedtime routine is books on the couch, change to overnight diaper and pajamas, go upstairs with both parents to brush teeth, nurses with me for 10-15m, then Sweetie takes over and walks him to sleep (takes another 5-15 minutes most nights).</p> <p>On nights when we are both home, this is fine. But, if my partner is out for the evening it is a nightmare. From first lying down to nurse to LO actually asleep is often upwards of 90 minutes. They're not a fun 90 minutes either -- LO wails, arches, bites, and calls out for my partner.</p> <p>I'm thinking that I just have to suck it up and do bedtime alone as many nights in a row as it takes for it to stop being a nightmare. And then do it solo often enough that it stays okay. Thoughts?</p> <p>We're not really comfortable with crying it out, though I've gotten desperate enough to try it a couple times. Unfortunately, LO can (and will) climb out of his crib, and he will also scream/cry hard enough to throw up. </p> <p>Any advise or commiseration? </p>