https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 04:26:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2758094 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:17:40 +0000 gingerbebe 2758094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's developmental. My little is 14 months and has been having issues at bedtime. Thrashed when it's time to rock in the glider and be sung to, cries when we leave, and then won't fall asleep for like 30-40 mins. DS1 also had wonky bedtimes and sleep from 10-13 months off and on and then again around 18 months there's a big regression. Longer to settle, crying at bedtime, some random night wakings, etc. Both boys were sleeptrained and used to sleeping on their own and they still spazzed at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2758086 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:11:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2758086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: tonight will be the sixth day in a row. The first two nights were the worse in terms of the length of the crying. Last night though LO clung to my neck as I put him in his crib. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2758066 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 12:47:43 +0000 erinbaderin 2758066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My youngest is about the same age as yours (16 months) and for us it's hit and miss. He's always been a great sleeper - I used to rock him to sleep in my arms and then put him in his crib and that was always fine, and then one day I just put him down in his crib awake and he just went right to sleep - but lately, maybe for the past month, he's been crying when we put him into his crib. Only for a minute or so, but I wonder if it's at least partly developmental? You said it's been only three days, right? When we had a sleep doula for my older son she said to give it ten days. Hopefully it will get better and better as you stick to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2758044 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 12:18:53 +0000 shellio 2758044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how old your LO is but bedtime is awful at our house. My 20 mo old and my 5yo go down great. My 3.5yo went down just fine until shortly after he turned 2, then suddenly we started having to stay with him until he fell asleep every single night or he would cry and/or get out of bed constantly. I keep telling myself he'll outgrow it. We have had a consistent bedtime hour and routine his entire life. We've tried earlier and later bedtimes. It is just agonizing because it takes him so long to wind down that bedtime has become a 1-2 hour process, longer some nights. Just offering empathy :( Hopefully it will get better at your house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2758016 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 11:23:40 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2758016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: funny you say that, we have discussed putting him in his crib for naps on the weekend. Currently he curls up like a cat on one of us, usually DH, and they take a nap on the couch. Time for a change.</p> <p>@MrsADS: once he's asleep he's all set for the evening. If that wasn't the case though my back would be ruined. The glider we have is comfortable, but not for all night! For about a month I was taking a MOTN wake up as a need for Formula. Our ped told us to stop and one night I switched to water and he didn't drink and from then on he stopped waking up. It was crazy to see how I created a habit for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2757974 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 10:27:51 +0000 MrsADS 2757974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained at 17mo and my son was LITERALLY the world's most awful sleeper. Had to rock him COMPLETELY to sleep, then transfer to the crib, every wake up he could not settle himself so repeat the hourlong process of getting him to sleep, etc. It was so bad.</p> <p>Post sleep training (now several months), he usually fusses a little when we walk out of his room, but is fine being put in the crib and with bedtime. Occasionally he cries a little more, sometimes doesn't cry at all. For the first several weeks though there were a few mins of hard crying, then he would go to sleep. So it seems like it has improved over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2757961 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 10:11:43 +0000 looch 2757961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He needs time to adjust to the fact that you were helping him fall asleep and now you're expecting him to do it on his own. Narrate what you are doing and decide on a system of checks or ignoring. Then be consistent. Don't be like me and do one thing during the day, another at night and basically confuse your kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2757958 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 10:09:32 +0000 Adira 2757958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think consistency is the key. If you have a consistent bedtime routine, it definitely gets easier. So maybe while you're setting up the routine, it's tough, but once they are used to it, it shouldn't be too bad.</p> <p>We do dinner, playtime (and some TV time), then we go upstairs (where their rooms are) and play, brush teeth, change diapers (for our younger one), inhalers, and then read stories, into the crib, sing songs, and then lights out and we leave. Sometimes my 2.5 year old will cry, but it's usually for less than 5 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2757956 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 10:07:33 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2757956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 21 months old and still cries a little at bedtime. Some nights she cries a little as soon as we go into her room, but stops to listen to stories. Then once she's tucked into bed and we leave she will cry 5 or so minutes. She doesn't do it every night. She probably cries half the time. I think she just doesn't want to stop playing and go to sleep. We sleep trained at 10 months and she's been putting herself to sleep since then. I think it's normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-tears#post-2757951 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 09:54:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2757951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is bedtime really like at your house? Are there tears?</p> <p>Admittedly, we suck at bedtime. For awhile LO was sleeping in his crib AFTER he fell asleep- pass out on the floor with DH or with in my arms sitting in the glider. Then he fought the transfer and we would co-sleep in our bed or on blankets in his room. DH put his foot down again that LO needs to sleep in his crib, which means we get our evenings back.</p> <p>This time however, we are putting LO in his crib awake. The first time he cried for about 30-40 minutes until falling asleep. The last two nights he's cried for about 3-5 minutes. Cry is an understatement because he stands up and screams bloody murder. He's definitely tired and between screams he takes a break to lay down. Now he knows it's coming as soon as I start reciting bed time prayers. </p> <p>Is this normal? When will the tears stop? We don't have a super relaxing routine, but after dinner we read and play downstairs, diaper and PJs, read and play upstairs in his room, then prayers. </p>