https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 02:16:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-341197 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:00:54 +0000 JessicaMcB 341197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: I wondered why I couldn't pull up your profile this morning to message you! Email and HelloBee communications it is ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-341185 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 11:55:02 +0000 Beebug 341185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: @JessicaMcB: </p> <p>I ended up de-activating facebook last night.</p> <p>At least until baby is here and the crazies go away.</p> <p>I was literally on facebook trying to figure out the maze they've made of locking down your own facebook, getting near fed up and a cousin of mine posted something so stupid/inappropriate on my wall that I just swore a lot and de-activated it. Safer for everyone.....definitely.</p> <p>Not responding to bbm's from the one friend, and just trying to avoid the chances the crazies can "get me".</p> <p>@JessicaMcB: I can't remember which one I emailed you about, gosh knows it's probably her!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-341176 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 11:49:43 +0000 JessicaMcB 341176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs buddy- we're almost done! Is the induction lady the same one you emailed me about? If so, she's waaaay too intense and needs to calm herself. And I like your "plain names", the Arabella/Hannah/Matilda lover needs to step away from the baby name books... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-341149 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 11:37:57 +0000 mrsjyw 341149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not an awful person and I would feel totally the same way! So rude!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339695 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 18:34:02 +0000 Beebug 339695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: LOL I am venting to DH plenty about it and saying to him what I wish I could say to them, but I am not going to go there and potentially be hurtful.....sounding off to him, and places like here.....probably best for me, ha!!</p> <p>@scg00387: You're right! I have said that to myself too, at least I am hearing from them they DO care, good call with non-committal answers, definitely have to do that moving forward.</p> <p>@JerricaBenton: lol about the name thing, my sister is like that with the middle name (thinks it should be her first name) so she will just text the name she thinks the baby should be named and nothing else....that I can laugh off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339692 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 18:30:54 +0000 Beebug 339692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: Didn't think it was unsupportive at all, not a worry -thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339691 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 18:30:50 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 339691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How on Earth do you think you're awful for that?? </p> <p>Poor thing, I think I would have let loose on someone by now. You're a much nicer persone than I could be. Hang on - You're almost there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339682 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 18:13:29 +0000 DigAPony 339682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: Oh, I hope my comment didn't come across as unsupportive--my "not like you need MORE random advice" was meant as an apology of sorts for saying "I say ignore these weirdos." Vent away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339680 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 18:10:30 +0000 immabeetoo 339680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not awful :) Sounds annoying, and completely vent-worthy - but if you need a positive spin, at least they're thinking of you and your baby! I've found that with text messages/conversations the best way to cut people off is one word, noncommittal answers like "nope" and "yup" or if I'm feeling wordy, "we'll see". I think the names would drive me the most nuts - I don't know why baby names bring out the crazy in everyone. Hope they all chill out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339670 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 17:54:49 +0000 JerricaBenton 339670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would find that stuff annoying - especially all that at once! I think the letter is very weird too. Like, maybe if it was from an older family member but it would annoy me to get such 'advice' unsolicited from a friend who just happened to have a baby a year or so before me! </p> <p>We aren't telling anyone our name choice but I have a casual friend who texts me two or three times a day with random/ridiculous guesses and she is legitimately pissed that I won't tell her the name. So I can kinda relate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339664 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 17:44:27 +0000 Beebug 339664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: Yes, I guess by posting I am setting myself up for replies that I may not like. I think it just felt good to type it all out and vent. </p> <p>I love all of these people, it's just so outside of "our normal" to hear from them like this, and so interesting. Wish they could just keep to normal for now to help me stay on the better side of normal :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339660 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 17:39:58 +0000 DigAPony 339660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not an awful person! That all sounds incredibly annoying, to say the least. It seems like you're handling it well. I say ignore these weirdos (not like you need MORE random advice!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/beebugs-crazy-friends-im-an-awful-person#post-339657 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 17:34:49 +0000 Beebug 339657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cannot get over the crazy that comes out in people when you're about to have a baby.</p> <p>Today is my EDD, and while I am super excited to become a Mom, I am not the least bit anxious at this point and know she'll come when she's ready and if I have to be induced, so be it. This entire pregnancy I have tried to not get hung up or set on anything, learn and take things as they come to keep myself open minded and calm! In the last little while, my pregnancy has brought out the crazy in a few of my friends, the most recent conversation, I am seriously considering putting my phone in the toilet.</p> <p>I get they're excited, I love that I have a great group of friends around me, but seriously......act NORMAL.</p> <p>I had one friend snail mail me a four page letter on "being a Mom". It was filled with advice, experience, etc, which is great, but totally conversation worthy next time we're together (not random, unexpected mail -she lives locally) and at times made me feel like she was trying to say"oh she'll eat her words once her baby arrives" ...it didn't make me feel awesome. At times was preachy and quite frankly I'm not interested in parenting like she has. Love her as a friend, but will not model her parenting style (ie co-sleeping in her child's bed in his room, he is nearly 3)</p> <p>Another friend messages 7 times a day (not kidding) "are you in labour" "can we come to the hospital to visit". I have never said I want any visitors (I don't want any) and quite honestly don't get when in a 24-48 hour hospital stay (if all goes normal/well) who beyond family would want to come....just wait until we get home.</p> <p>And then there's one who I get fb messages from "I'm working at the hospital the week after you're due, won't it be great to have (me) a familiar face around while you're in labour?" Sorry....no, I don't want anyone I know except DH around me!</p> <p>Then there's the friend who messages once a day "have you thought about what type of induction you'll ask for, make sure you don't get pitocin". Next day "make sure you don't end up needing a c-section". Next day "have your boobs started leaking" "when I went into labour, the doctor did this, now I regret letting him do that to me". </p> <p>And then there's what just happened on bbm:<br /> Friend: Did I read on twitter you're still thinking baby names?<br /> Arabella.... Duuuh its in your wedding song! Pretty, unique but soundoutable<br /> Me: Clueless on baby names!<br /> Friend: Or it sounds like arabella anyways. Your wedding song was lost together correct?<br /> Me: I don't think we're arabella people, lol. More plain/classic names prob.<br /> Friend: Oh I like that name though! I almost didn't suggest it so I could hog, its normal enough. Coming from the plainest name ever. Nobody wants a real plain name.<br /> Me: Lol hog away! I had to look at lyrics to see where it was in song and don't see it?<br /> Friend: It sounds like it. I always say it hahaha, or maybe I'm singing another song actually<br /> Me: Hmm yah, no idea where there's a name in the song, lol<br /> Friend: I dunno. My english must be getting funny. Plus I'm mad sick and tired<br /> Me:Nothing wrong with plain names and we're definitely considering some :)<br /> Friend: I agree nothing, I hated growing up with 3 other in my class though<br /> Hannah?<br /> Matilda?<br /> _____</p> <p>WTF! Arabella, Hannah, Matilda from someone I haven't heard from in over two months.....why hello, how are you doing today/lately?</p> <p>I promise I'm not a life hating, b****, I promise I am calm, excited about this baby and typically very excited an open to suggestions about what's to come, but there are times when lines get crossed and I just think WTF....none of this is helpful. Maybe I'm the cold hearted one who doesn't know how to act around almost due preggo's, but right now, if I was in labour and I wanted to share? You'd hear from me! If they baby was here, and we wanted company/visitors? We'd be announcing and inviting! Our families aren't even all over us this much, it's crazy.</p> <p>I'm an awful person, thank-you for letting me rant! </p>