https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 17:49:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2405514 Thu, 31 Dec 2015 09:27:15 +0000 snowjewelz 2405514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We def want 2, even tho sometimes I am so obsessed with DD that I can't imagine sharing her, haha. </p> <p>And I'm around other big families a lot, so sometimes I feel like we can even do 3... But most likely cap at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2405430 Thu, 31 Dec 2015 08:45:05 +0000 cat620 2405430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought I would just want one, maybe two max. But now I'm considering three. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400348 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 06:37:39 +0000 bloved 2400348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted 3. Then infertility happened. Now after 2 losses, 2 Ivfs and 3 FETS I am done at 2 provided this one comes as planned. I just can't take trying to get pregnant anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400305 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 00:00:45 +0000 ALV91711 2400305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: This. We've always wanted two and kind of fgured it would be a two year age gap. Well, DS is almost 3 and we are now feeling ready to talk when we will have #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400290 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 22:18:54 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2400290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always said we would take it one kid at a time, but knowing we would have more then one, and likely more then two. We will aim for 3-4 I think. At least 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400286 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 22:13:33 +0000 JenGirl 2400286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about this a lot before getting engaged. Because my husband would love 2-3 and I wasn't sure I'd I wanted any. I eventually decided I wanted one and he ahreed. We just had our son 3 months ago and I think we're still one and done but I'm waffling a bit. I really enjoyed pregnancy and I've loved having a newborn, thus far. But it's the 2-3 age I worry about, so we'll see if I would consider another once we get past that with our son. I still think we're probably one and done, but I'm getting a Mirena so we have 5 years to figure it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400281 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 21:53:23 +0000 artsyfartsy 2400281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I originally thought 4 or 5 kids would be fun.</p> <p>:meh:</p> <p>Now I'm pretty set on 2, and it took a lot of back and forth to decide on having a second. :silly:<br /> Never saying never on 3+ but it seems highly unlikely at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400206 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 18:09:44 +0000 Torchwood 2400206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 100% one and done. DH mentioned last week that he might want another, and now I want to go for it. We have to talk to the high risk doctors a LOT though before making that decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2400013 Fri, 25 Dec 2015 09:29:11 +0000 ineebee 2400013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me it has more to do with how long it took to conceive our DS and my age. I wanted 2, or 3 max, but now I'll be happy with our DS and NTNP for a second for another year, and then we're done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids/page/2#post-2399802 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 16:18:46 +0000 HLK208 2399802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought 2-3 but 4 is a good number for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399800 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 16:14:48 +0000 lamariniere 2399800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sandy: :heart: :heart: </p> <p>Always wanted 2 and we are done at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399783 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 15:23:39 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2399783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sandy: Ava will love looking down on her baby sister or brother! A piece of her presence will be felt in her future siblings. :) &lt;3 &lt;3 :)</p> <p>I always thought I wanted 3-4. DH was 2-3. Now that we have 3, we are firmly done at 3, but I would have a 4th if I could skip the first year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399685 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 12:13:08 +0000 MsHangry 2399685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I'm not coming out of the same situation, but my feelings are the same. I really can't imagine having more but I know we will eventually. </p> <p>Before kids we wanted 3, with at least a 3 year age gap. For months after DS was born I couldn't understand why anyone would ever have more than one child. It was all just so overwhelming. If I could just have 6 month olds right from the get-go then I definitely think we will have three kids. I'm sure after a few more years (DS is 7m now) I will have a clouded memory of the newborn stage and will sign up for it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399669 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 11:58:13 +0000 Finfan 2399669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we ever really discussed a certain number of kids before our first was born. We both knew we wanted at least one. For a long time, I had planned on just having our first. But then I got baby fever and now we have DD2. I never thought I would want more than 2 but now I'm considering fostering when our kids are older. I have rough pregnancies and had a rough delivery this time around so I don't want to go through that again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399461 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 02:43:47 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2399461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before, I ideally wanted 3-4. Then we had #1 and for awhile didn't even want a second. For a couple years we've been saying we want 2 but then we're done. We recently had #2, and now we're thinking maaaaaaaybe (most likely not if we think realistically...) a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399458 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 02:40:44 +0000 Nutella 2399458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We discussed having two kids when we were dating! And then after LO was born I literally wanted aaalll the babies! That settled back down to maybe three but probably two, but after a MMC and now ttc for #2 I think we will be done with two should we be so lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399454 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 02:27:03 +0000 dc yoga bee 2399454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to comment, and I'm not sure I can quite yet. I always wanted 2. After hyperemseis, being induced for pre-eclampsia, and then a colicky baby with terrible acid reflux; and I'm just not sure I could handle another. Or if I even want another. But! Now, she's starting to really show her outgoing personality, and I actually do have a handle on things, and we are in a nice rhythm. She's perfect in spite of! With that being said, M is fantastic, and I can see our family perfectly complete. I also want her to have a sibling (my brother and I are super close), and some days can actually picture three! Which, sounds crazy given what I stated above. So, not sure where the family plans will take us, and I voted other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399453 Thu, 24 Dec 2015 02:07:31 +0000 sandy 2399453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: :heart: not weird at all :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399414 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 23:47:34 +0000 coopsmama 2399414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I am so glad that D changed his mind and you got your sweet girl! So fun to see your McK family finally get a girl! 🎀</p> <p>@sandy: Your comment put a smile on my face! I can't wait to see IG pictures with another one of your babies. I really feel like your sweet Ava would want that. (Maybe that is weird to say!) :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399411 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 23:44:09 +0000 coopsmama 2399411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always talked about 4 or 5 but now that I'm pregnant with number 3 it will probably end up being 3. Maaaaaybe we'll have another one eventually but not for 3-4 years which would be a crazy huge gap for us because if this pregnancy pans out we will have three within the first four years of marriage! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399406 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 23:34:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2399406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought I'd want way more! I came from a family of six kids and DH from five kids, I knew I didn't want that many but I thought 3-4. After having one, I know I'd be happy with one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399363 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 22:38:22 +0000 Rockies11 2399363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wanted 4 but I have absolutely awful pregnancies and have developed some serious health problems as a result, so we will be stopping after 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399268 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 21:28:43 +0000 avivoca 2399268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted two until I had H. Now I want three! I hope I have twins next because I'm pretty sure that is the only way I will get three. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399265 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 21:24:18 +0000 jhd 2399265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always thought we would have two. I imagined we would have two close together. But pregnancy was harder than I thought and LO had a traumatic delivery and major health concerns and surgeries during his first year. DH said another baby is not off the table, but he's not ready to discuss it. I'm not sure what I want at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399224 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:58:57 +0000 NovBaby1112 2399224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both wanted 3-4 before kids. Now I'm totally done and happy with 2, and DH is happy with 2 but would like one more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399223 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:58:15 +0000 Me3 2399223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always wanted four, but my pregnancies are not easy so planning on three instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399219 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:57:05 +0000 lovehoneybee 2399219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before we got pregnant with E we wanted two. During/after pregnancy we were one and done. I started waffling about wanting a second when he was 6 months old. D did not. I was never desperate for a second, but I felt my family would not be complete with only one (although I thought I would be happy). When E was 2.5 D changed his mind about wanting a second, and now we have G, and I absolutely feel like our family is complete. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399208 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:49:14 +0000 SweetCaroline 2399208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we wanted 2-3. Now that we have 1, we know we want 2 still, but will wait for 2 to decide on 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399196 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:41:54 +0000 sandy 2399196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine has changed so much over time </p> <p>Always thought i would want at least 2</p> <p>Had DD1 and was super happy with 1 and thought about being done for awhile.</p> <p>Then decided to go for baby #2 and lost her shortly after birth. Had decided during the pregnancy that I was done and never wanted to be pregnant again. Either she would live and we would be consumed with taking care of her or she wouldn't make it and I didn't want to go through another pregnancy. So I had my tubes tied during my csection </p> <p>Much to my surprise ater losing DD2 I desperately wanted another baby. So we are pursing IVF for baby #3 and potentially more </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/before-kids-to-after-kids#post-2399183 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:34:37 +0000 LindsayLou 2399183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband has always said two, with the possibility that he might be open to 3 if finances and logistics allowed, and if we felt we had a good handle on things with two. I've always said at least two, three if possible. We still both feel relatively the same, but I feel more strongly that I really do want three. </p>