https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 03:21:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102312 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 18:29:48 +0000 Red 102312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely a mean mommy, lol. Kids get away with too much these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102282 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:44:46 +0000 lilteacherbee 102282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Yep, my aunt and uncle are "nice" parents I guess. I don't think my 10 year old cousin has been told no by his parents more than 5 times in his life, no joke.</p> <p>Its ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102281 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:44:00 +0000 cupcakemama 102281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I think so. Kid rules the roost and the parents wonder why the child is a terror at 5 years old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102280 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:42:09 +0000 cupcakemama 102280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: that is such a big point for dh and I. LO will have plenty of friends and won't need 2 more. Only 1 set of parents though. It's our job to equip LO to be a caring, productive member of soceity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102276 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:35:34 +0000 banana 102276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, totally sounds like normal parenting to me. I'm curious though, what is a "nice" parent then? Someone who never knows no and doesn't ever discipline? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102228 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 16:28:48 +0000 lilteacherbee 102228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a mom yet, but I'm definitely a "mean" teacher. I love my preschool students to death, but I'm not there to be their friend. Kids need boundaries and discipline and they'll respect you more for that. </p> <p>When I started in my current classroom, the other teacher would say "These kids don't..." Or "So and so doesn't listen very well." Well, they've learned to listen to me (most of the time anyway) lol. My students will get mad when I tell them to stop doing something or when I make sure they're paying attention and they'll say "You're not my friend anymore!" And i'll say "That's fine. I'm your teacher, not your friend." I adore my kids and we have a ton of fun together, but they also understand that I'm there to teach them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102227 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 16:28:05 +0000 MsMini 102227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That just seems like normal parenting to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102216 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 16:12:43 +0000 tequiero21 102216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i definitely think kids are too entitled and expect the world to cater to them. i want to be a mean mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102215 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 16:10:11 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 102215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a mean mom and I hope to be the same way. I think it teaches courtesy and respect for others as well as foster independence and resilience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102210 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 15:59:16 +0000 chopsuey 102210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't seem like a mean mom to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102196 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 15:27:45 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 102196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the author is using "mean" in a different way than is typically interpreted. I was raised in a very authoritarian parenting style, and I intend not to replicate that with my children. When I think of authoritarian parenting I equate it with "mean" (or at least uber-strict), but I don't think that's what she intended with the word mean in this article. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102190 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 15:20:37 +0000 mrsjyw 102190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: agreed. I agree with all of her points... and don't think it equates to the word "mean..." though I guess I can see from a child's perspective that it may be... but most kids I know don't think of their disciplining moms like that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102152 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:36:28 +0000 skibobrown 102152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with this. I think for the most part my parents were way too lenient w/ me, and my sister, and I shudder to remember what terrors we were when we were kids. I would rather be a "mean" mom if it means having kids who are a bit more disciplined. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102150 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:31:27 +0000 heffalump 102150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She doesn't seem like a mean mom to me. She sounds just like a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102143 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:24:05 +0000 Adira 102143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely agree with this. I have every intention of being a "mean" mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102141 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:23:30 +0000 yoursilverlining 102141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like all her points. A big one for me (and one of my mom’s parenting philosophies) is that I am NOT your friend, I am your MOM. So many parents want to be their kids’ friends and let them get away with stuff because of it. I’m not here to be LO’s friend, I’m here to be her parent and guide. She should have her own friends. </p> <p>A million yes’s to this: "Hang on to yourself. If you submerge your pre-kid personality —goals, hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes — into parenting, you’ll go looking for that self later and find no one’s home. And to raise independent children, you have to model independence." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102136 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:21:02 +0000 mrstilly 102136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with that article. All around I see kids who are spoiled, self-centered and waiting for the world to cater to them. A lot of teens I know don't seem to have many interests or life goals, outside of the newest social media site or cell phone. It wasn't how I was raised and it isn't how I plan to raise my kid(s). All the points of her philosphy fit right with my plan (and DH's) for raising our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102127 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:13:48 +0000 Mrsbells 102127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my parents were definitely strict on us and that helped a lot. I thnk the term "mean" mom can be easily misinterpreted but being firm and strict on certain things does help build discipline in children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102124 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:12:58 +0000 owlmom 102124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is only 5 months, but I'll be a "mean" mom, too. That's how I was raised as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102122 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:10:30 +0000 Andrea 102122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree. This is what I was talking about with the helicopter parents. I am definitely a "mean" mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-mean-mom-produces-good-kids#post-102116 Mon, 26 Mar 2012 14:05:18 +0000 Rubies 102116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In today's newspaper:</p> <p><a href="http://www.parentcentral.ca/parent/newsfeatures/article/1151844--why-being-a-mean-mom-creates-good-kids" rel="nofollow">http://www.parentcentral.ca/parent/newsfeatures/article/1151844--why-being-a-mean-mom-creates-good-kids</a> </p>