https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 13 Nov 2026 19:38:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304874 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 10:03:00 +0000 Mrsbells 304874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its is definitely not something that I could do </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304867 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 10:01:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 304867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: wow...that is incredible. I am so happy for you!</p> <p>I have to say after some consideration: the ONLY person I'd even consider this for would be my sister. I have 1 sister and if she needed this: i'd do it despite my inhibitions. </p> <p>My mom considered this for her best friend seeing as she is done having kids, but my dad was like "NO...This family can't handle it. We will all be way too attached." So, she didn't do it. I agree with him. If I saw my mom carrying someone else's baby I would be on an emotional roller coasters between "wow, she's a saint" and "oh no, that's my mom's baby!" &lt;&lt;even though it wouldn't be her egg or anything, but that's the crazy way I'd feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304838 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:49:47 +0000 Crisark 304838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: That's amazing!!! You are truly blessed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304791 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 09:33:54 +0000 however briefly 304791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister is going to be a surrogate for my husband and I using her own egg. She has her first IUI cycle next month and I am very excited. She's an amazing person for being willing to do this for us and I wish I could be with her through the whole journey. Unfortunately though she lives across the Atlantic from me so I'll have to settle for just being there the last few weeks of the pregnancy and seeing the rest over the internet.</p> <p>Someone mentioned worrying about what to tell the child but we're planning on being very honest and very open about how my sister gave us the ultimate gift of being a parent. My sister is going to be a very awesome and indulging aunt though, I can already tell :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304657 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 08:44:36 +0000 looch 304657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My pregnancy wasn't difficult at all, but the recovery was, so I wouldn't be able to do it. Plus, I think I am too old! My husband would also not go along with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304632 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 08:34:49 +0000 brownie 304632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope to be surrogate someday. After having to go through fertility treatment I have a taste of how hard it is. I would not use my eggs but I could definitely give the baby up. I didn't feel a strong bond in the womb. I would hope to have some contact as the baby grew as it would have a special place in my heart. I found pregnancy and childbirth not to be difficult for me. I would do it many times but that isn't in the cards for our family.</p> <p>My first surrogacy hopefully will be in 3 years for a close friend. She has adopted her first child and hopefully I can help her have a second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-304535 Fri, 21 Sep 2012 07:50:39 +0000 heffalump 304535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to be a surrogate, I think that if I knew from the beginning it wasn't my baby I'd be able to separate myself from it. But I wouldn't be able to do it for health reasons. I get really bad migraines during pregnancy so I'm forced to take a lot of medication. It's hard enough to take meds and feel like I'm harming my own baby..... I wouldn't want to do that to someone else's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302994 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 16:05:40 +0000 Foodnerd81 302994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been pregnant, so I can only say how I feel about it now, but it could change once I've been through it. If I already had my kids and my family was complete, and pregnancy and labor wasn't too bad for me, I would consider it for a sibling but I think that's it. And, only gestational-- i think using your own egg would make it way too personal. </p> <p>But, I actually brought this up with my husband at some point and he was really opposed to it. He said he would be too worried about me and possible complications and it wouldn't be worth it for anyone else besides our own kids. It was sort of sweet and selfish all at once, but I realized his opinion would be very important in the matter, since we would have pretty young children that I would be the primary caregiver for at this point in the future. </p> <p>I think it's a wonderful thing and people who do it must be really special. I'm glad that the Rancics story is getting people to think about it and talk about it more openly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302986 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 16:02:26 +0000 lawbee11 302986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've actually thought about this before. If I were going to be a surrogate, it would have to be after I was done having my own kids. But after that I think I would be open to it. My best friend is currently having infertility issues, and she recently mentioned that if she had to choose a surrogate, she would choose me because she knows I would take care of myself and treat it like i was carrying my own. It was a shock, but I was also so flattered! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302983 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 16:01:22 +0000 Lozza 302983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved feeling baby movement, but I wouldn't really say I bonded with the baby... if I felt really good about the family that the baby was going to, I think I'd be totally cool with surrogacy.</p> <p>That said, I would never ever EVER want to do it because I hated pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302975 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 15:57:23 +0000 Running Elley 302975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that it’s a great thing for people to do. I wish I was selfless enough to do it!</p> <p>I never could. I’ve bonded so much with my baby during this pregnancy and I can’t imagine having to give that baby up after spending so much time “together.” I’m also selfish and pregnancy has been beautiful but not my favorite experience ever. I’m an anxious, self conscious mess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302969 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 15:55:15 +0000 anonysquire 302969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it because I know I would change my mind and try and keep the baby. And that wouldn't be right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302964 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 15:51:12 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 302964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gestational carrier: maybe.<br /> Half the reason I'm bonding with baby is because it's mine and my husbands creation. So mate if it were another persons egg and sperm mixture I wouldn't be as attached. Plus there would be no baby showers or nesting or preparing so that would help.<br /> I still wouldn't do it because I personally don't think pregnancy is all that;) I think those who can do it are amazing,amazing women. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302959 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 15:47:29 +0000 regberadaisy 302959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same as you. I loved being pregnant and really bonded with baby during pregnancy in my own way. Labor was .... a miracle is the best way I can phrase it. I don't think I can give a baby I birthed and nurtured for 9 months away.</p> <p>I do think surrogacy is a beautiful thing. The only people I would consider doing it for are siblings. But then how do you possibly explain that to the children? Do you keep it a secret?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-a-surrogate#post-302955 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 15:44:57 +0000 mamabird 302955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love to be a surrogate, but I think I'd be too attached once I was pregnant and giving birth. I loved being pregnant and giving birth wasn't terrible or horrifying. How do you seperate your feelings of them being your baby? What are your personal thoughts on surrogacy? </p>