https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 08:28:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657997 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:28:38 +0000 yoursilverlining 657997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, oh yes my friend, the last week/weeks of pregnancy are another ring of hell. Honestly, this is a big part of why I got a c-section. I was just DONE. DONE, DONE, DONE. After 40 long weeks, I felt like I was literally going to go mad if I was pregnant for 1 more minute. I was so uncomfortable, so irritable, so crabby and cried all the time at the end. I just wanted that baby OUT and when my OB was like “how about we schedule something?”, I was like “you are a miracle worker!” </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657982 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:25:56 +0000 Andrea 657982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh yeah! I would much rather labor with out drugs again than be pregnant again. Pregnancy is much harder. It's so darn long, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657951 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:20:17 +0000 lovehoneybee 657951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would have been a gross, crying mess every day I was overdue (DS was 2 days early). Those last weeks were HARD. I couldn't breathe, couldn't bend over, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, was swollen all over, snapped any time anyone even LOOKED at me. I had a sit down on a bench breakdown one night because I was waddling and not walking at my normal quicker pace and I was upset that DH had to slow down for me. I yelled at the cat for sleeping in the bed (where she always sleeps). I yelled at my mom when she nicely suggested that baby wouldn't mind if I could pry the damn top well off the water filter so I could clean the basin. I was so very, very miserable and took it out on everyone (without wanting to). </p> <p>But it's totally worth it, and it won't be long now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657936 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:17:40 +0000 MsMini 657936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's funny! Having a c-section has made me wonder why so many c-section Moms are so wimpy (LOL - kind of). I was up and walking within 12 hours, and my c-section was at midnight, people in a wheelchair 3 days later will no longer get as much sympathy from me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657926 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:15:49 +0000 mrskc 657926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: That's so awesome! Hope your baby arrives soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657907 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:12:18 +0000 mrs. wagon 657907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: that's awesome... you are gaining on-the-job knowledge AND you get a baby too. :) congrats on making it this far and good luck with the rest!! You're gonna do awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-657894 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 13:10:32 +0000 birdofafeather 657894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally agree! I can't relate to women past their due dates but pregnancy is no joke! Once you go through it, you'll always have empathy for those at the end! But it's so exciting when they finally arrive!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-656709 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 07:53:25 +0000 heartonastring 656709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: That makes perfect sense :)</p> <p>When I was considering hiring a doula (we ultimately decided against it, because we couldn't find someone who was a good fit) I knew that I wanted someone who had had unmedicated births of her own. I just felt like, if I were to go the doula route, I needed someone who had been there and could truly empathize with the pain of labour. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-656657 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 07:21:14 +0000 sea_bass 656657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Nothing pertinent to add... Just good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-656654 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 07:20:05 +0000 matador84 656654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So true. Being a mom has made me look and feel so differently about things now that I have a child!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-656652 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 07:15:35 +0000 Dandelion 656652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since ds was born early, I always was the same way ("oh, it can't be that much more uncomfortable those last few weeks!")</p> <p>Yep, yes it is, it's awful. And now I know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-656650 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 07:14:04 +0000 Happygal 656650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bet you're an awesome doula already, and I'm glad your own experience has made you an even better one! </p> <p>I remember watching the business of being born and the midwife talked about the first delivery she helped with after she had her own first baby. She was so sympathetic for the poor laboring mom.</p> <p>My mom told me she thought she became a better teacher after she had her own children. More patience, more of an understanding that even the most obnoxious student is someone's child that a parent loves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/being-pregnant-has-made-me-a-better-doula#post-656563 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 03:03:46 +0000 Arden 656563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always had a huge amount of respect for women in labor. I knew that I had no idea how difficult their labors were, how much they were struggling, or how much it hurt.</p> <p>I have never ever once thought "Oh come on, tough it out, it's not THAT bad" when a woman was in labor. I felt nothing but sympathy and the desire to do anything possible to help them get through.</p> <p>But pregnant women? Oh yeah, I silently judged. I see a lot of women in their last week of pregnancy, and some of them would hobble clutching their legs as they complained of sciatica, burst into tears over the barista looking at them funny, grab my hands and beg me to give them the magic potion to make an overdue baby come out. </p> <p>I'll admit, I was thinking "Oh come on, dramatic much?" when a woman told me she would rather have a c-section without drugs then be pregnant another week. </p> <p>But now? Dude, the end of pregnancy is hard. It's difficult to be rational. Panic attacks over nothing are apparently normal. Pain is muscles you never knew you had is excruciating. It's a mental punch in the face every morning when you wake up and remember you are STILL pregnant. </p> <p>So I will never judge another woman again. I'll give a death glare to anyone who makes an overdue woman's life even a tiny bit harder by a thoughtless comment. I'll try to explain the magnitude of what they are feeling to their husbands. I'll hug them and say "I know!!!". </p> <p>Because I already knew labor was hard. But pregnancy is hard too. Ladies who have made it through? Much respect. </p>