https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 20:30:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice/page/2#post-626419 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:21:15 +0000 Caly 626419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice/page/2#post-626380 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 07:39:35 +0000 Pirouette 626380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: exactly what you said! Your dad is wise ;)</p> <p>My parents always told me to marry the man who didn't just want me to pursue my dreams in life, but pushed me to get there. It sort of goes along the partnership idea, but has a certain element of keeping your individuality which also resonated with me.</p> <p>I think it is very important in a long term marriage never to lose sight of your goals and dreams, but to pursue them together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice/page/2#post-626350 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 07:03:43 +0000 lomom 626350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never forget the love you feel today. </p> <p>As in, like on your wedding day. So much can come your way throughout life that really tests your patience and your love for your spouse and this little gem really resonated with me and any time I'm struggling, I remind myself of how much I love him and why and I'll look at my favorite picture from our wedding day. It doesn't solve whatever issue we're having but it reminds me that it's worth working through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317909 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 20:36:08 +0000 anonysquire 317909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: Lol, laugh your wife. I like that one. I am going to go laugh my husband.</p> <p>My husband actually recently told me I am the funniest girl he knows. He could just be saying that but I felt like it was nice lol. I am going to go laugh him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317902 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 20:34:20 +0000 PrincessBaby 317902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pick your battles.</p> <p>As we've settled in to each other over these last couple of years, I think that's the best thing that both of us do on a regular basis, and why we have so few arguments. I know that if my husband disagrees with me about something enough to bring it up to me, then I need to take a second look, because he doesn't give me a hard time over small stuff. It has to be important to him to bother with. I am the same way. At the end of the day, he adores me and I know that everything he does is with me and our family in mind. So it has to be something totally ridiculous for me to be bothered or to make it an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317897 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 20:32:23 +0000 pastemoo 317897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: :) Someone wrote in our wedding guest book madlibs for DH to "laugh your wife daily." So every night he comes to bed and says, 'I don't know if I laughed you today, so..." and they he does or says something until I laugh. It is pretty wonderful. I love that advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317883 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 20:26:31 +0000 anonysquire 317883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My favorite advice is to always laugh, and never go to bed angry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317654 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 17:19:54 +0000 Silva 317654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always keep a room of one's own. (from my aunt).</p> <p>My husband and I believe strongly that the key to a healthy relationship is maintaining a healthy self- having your own friends, interests, self esteem, etc. You can't care for the other person, or care for the relationship, if you don't also prioritize your own needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317623 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 16:25:59 +0000 coruscations 317623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I agreed that if we have any doubts/frustrations/problems with our relationship, we will always talk about it with each other before talking about it with anyone else. I've heard so many friends complain about problems in their relationship that they never even discuss with their partners. So I told my husband that if he's ever dissatisfied with anything in our relationship or is annoyed by anything I do, I need to be the first person to hear about it, and vice versa. </p> <p>And my favorite piece of marriage advice: Sleep naked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317566 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 15:28:28 +0000 SugarplumsMom 317566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: Lol! You're right! Hahaha! That's what I get for writing while I watch TV! ;P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317540 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 14:58:27 +0000 Mrs. Pen 317540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: pretty sure that's backwards hahahaha. "Happy wife; happy life!" lol!</p> <p>i love this thread... totally favoriting it!</p> <p>@SusieQ: I learned that as a kid... my mom used to have one of those business consultant home-businesses (like arbonne or mary kay) and always had tons of people over for social get togethers and I remember as a 9-10 year old listening to these women bash their husband for the entire night. Even as a kid it totally made me uncomfortable; perhaps because my mom NEVER talked about my dad like that. Even if I heard them fighting, my mom never said anything negative about my dad ever. I didn't realize how much that meant until he told me sister a few years ago how special and important that was to him and their marriage. It really reiterated to me that there was a reason that makes me so uncomfortable! </p> <p>Even as an adult, I worked in settings where I listened to women bash their spouse and then expect me to agree that their husband is stupid, and instead I'd say something in favor of their DH, they would be so caught off guard, and then huff off. Or I'd counter with a positive story about DH when they would ask if my DH was stupid lol. That is really important to me, to have that mutual respect. I know DH would NEVER say anything bad about me.</p> <p>That being said I DO have a few VERY close friends I confide in, but not gossip to.</p> <p>My advice goes along those lines, and it was actually something I learned doing a marriage study last year: Decide with your spouse who your confidants will be when it comes to your marriage. When you are mad, hurt etc about your spouse and need to "talk to someone" - have a list that your spouse approves of.</p> <p>So, I chose a few men in DH's life that I am comfortable with him going to in times of marital strife. And he chose women in my life that he is okay with me seeking counsel with. We mutually agree these people will counsel us wisely, not gossip and be supporters of our marriage. It has been the best for us - because we know that if we're in an argument, neither is going behind the other's back.</p> <p>And then I always tell him when I do talk to those friends, and there is never any anger because that's what he expects :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317528 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 14:44:01 +0000 SugarplumsMom 317528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy life; happy wife! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-317406 Sun, 30 Sep 2012 11:11:14 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 317406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. blue So true &amp; so hard to remember that when you have battled for so long. </p> <p>Like looch I have to put myself first &amp; my husband second. I am a caretaker (its not just my "job" its who I am) so I put everything I have into others then there is nothing left for me to give because I am on empty. I can't remember what book I read this in, it sums up to this, Give yourself or your spouse the time out they need. Ex) your a stay at home mom and all you want is a break when your spouse comes home, all they want is a break from a long day at work. Giving your spouse 30 min to wind down when they come home from work can make a world of difference. They will be grateful and more willing to return the favor in a loving manor. It can apply in just about any area of your lives (especially those big fights). You just have to work it out with your spouse, it can turn in to intimacy and in a sense foreplay which will boost things even more :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282974 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 13:32:40 +0000 blackbird 282974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, i love what yoursilverlining said. </p> <p>mrs. blue, that is so, so true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282962 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 13:28:14 +0000 Mrs. Blue 282962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousin told us, "Your marriage will have hard times. And when those hard times come, know that they usually last a year or so. So, just buckle down, hold on tight, and don't give up because when you come out of that time your love will be stronger and your marriage better for having weathered the storms."</p> <p>I love this because I think people tend to think of hard times in a marriage being more brief. I needed to hear that just because it's not better in a week or a month or six months, doesn't mean it won't get better eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282874 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 12:46:32 +0000 mrs. bird 282874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm loving these!</p> <p>Best advice I never took (didn't realize it was great advice until much much later) was to marry a nice orphan!</p> <p>Then ,to want what you already have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282697 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 10:29:14 +0000 mamimami 282697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Orvis18: A good version of this one that I heard: "Do you want to be right? Or do you want to be married?" - good to remember during those arguments.</p> <p>Also, always assume the best. If your spouse says something that sounds terrible or does something that hurts you, always try to assume his intentions were good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282591 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 09:05:36 +0000 Turd Ferguson 282591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh, love this thread! Keeping it all in mind for the future--I especially love the "putting your marriage first" part, I think it really encompasses all of the other fabulous advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282541 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 08:21:46 +0000 MrsBrewer 282541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I too agree with this that your marriage/husband should be put first above all things! I was told this by our pastor during our marriage counselling before we got married. It's the one thing that has really stuck with me the most! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-282498 Wed, 05 Sep 2012 07:33:21 +0000 T.H.O.U. 282498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: My mom tells me this all the time. She says the best thing we can ever do for our daughter/future children is to put our marriage first. </p> <p>It is really hard to know that sometimes I need to put the baby down and spend time with my husband and focus on him/us. It really helps him know I still love him and he's still just as important as our cute little demanding baby. Plus I think it makes us both better parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134617 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 20:02:02 +0000 pastemoo 134617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my husband's is : never go to sleep angry<br /> mine is: this is a best friend relationship, never forget that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134615 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 19:59:45 +0000 pastemoo 134615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>from my mom: "Never turn him down for sex." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134590 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 19:49:26 +0000 sandy 134590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I heard this at my friend's bridal shower - if you want to be treated like a queen, then make sure to treat your husband like a king. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134527 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 18:50:31 +0000 pelikila 134527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love hearing advice like this. It always helps me re-ground myself and put the focus back where it should be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134225 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:10:23 +0000 bushelandapeck 134225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: DH and I both tend to be pretty stubborn so it has come in pretty handy a few times for us too. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134223 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:08:06 +0000 banana 134223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@orvis18: "You can be right or you can be happy". haha. Brilliant! I always have a need to be right so this will definitely come in handy for me. Thanks!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134197 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:52:11 +0000 bushelandapeck 134197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"You can be right, or you can be happy". This came from our officiant who is also DH's uncle. He's been happily married for 25 years and we can only hope to have as strong of a marriage as he does with his wife. </p> <p>"Make sure you never stop doing things together". This one is from my dad. My parents are divorced and he said that was the biggest mistake they made. They stopped doing things just the two of them once kids came along. They grew apart and became resentful. This has really stuck with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134184 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:40:28 +0000 shinystraps 134184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: I love that one! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134170 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:33:58 +0000 littlebug 134170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Yoursilverlining: I love it! Your dad sounds like a wise man!</p> <p>My sister had my bridal shower guests write down marriage advice. One of my favorites was from my college roommate: "Never curse at each other." And my sister wrote "Wear the pants. [then crossed it out] Keep laughing." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-marriage-advice#post-134167 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:32:55 +0000 banana 134167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lozza: Thanks for clarifying and I totally agree! I wouldn't (and never have) said things that were demeaning about him but I DEFINITELY share my frustrations with my friends. :) As do they with me. I would go nuts too if I didn't! Actually, same goes about anyone in my family...and friends too. I think a bit of venting is definitely healthy to keep your sanity! </p>