https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 09:25:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-177623 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 20:49:16 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 177623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I Tried for 20 months and have gone through many announcements since then.</p> <p>I think telling those who are struggling that you are close to individually before the public announcement is the most thoughtful. A couple of my blogger friends gave me a heads-up and I really appreciated it. </p> <p>It alleviates the shock of the public announcement while acknowledging that you care about those people and their struggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-177214 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 22:01:52 +0000 mediagirl 177214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my friends tried for 10 years and finally got her twins on their second round of ivf. She called her friends who are still ttc and struggling with it. I got pg after two months of trying. I also called the friends who are still ttc. It was the easiest way to tell the. They're all out of state so, calling was the most personal way. </p> <p>No matter when you get your bfp, it is an exciting and amazing time. Don't be afraid to tell people. You will be amazed, even the friends who have been ttc forever will be happy for you. They may go home and cry that night because yet another friend got pregnant but, you're their friend. They will be thrilled for you. </p> <p>I would suggest waiting to tell them or most people until 12 weeks just in case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-177179 Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:08:39 +0000 mrsjyw 177179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one close gf who has had two m/c in the last year and is still ttc... she was one of the first ppl I told (way before our public announcement). She said she appreciated it so much and honestly has been one of my number one supports before and since! She said that it made her feel good to be able to be there for me and enjoy this ride with me. She, overall, is such a postive person. While she vents when she needs to, she says that everyone's journey is different, and she LOVEs living vacariously through us as she "waits her turn." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176295 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 13:27:59 +0000 heffalump 176295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just announce it whatever way I wanted. After I miscarried it was hard for me to hear about other pregnant women, but I still tried to be excited for them and wouldn't want to have ruined their fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176274 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 13:16:47 +0000 singingbee 176274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I had a co-worker that pulled me aside and told me she was pregnant before she announced it to everyone else at work. While it was sweet she wanted me to know before everyone, we didn't have our BFP at the time, so it just made me mad. I know I didn't react well, but I just another person announce they were pregnant. Both of these pregnancies just happened; they weren't trying or even knew if they wanted to be pregnant. It just hit me at the wrong time. We ended up getting pregnant a month after all of that, but then we ended up miscarrying at 20 wks and both of their pregnancies were fine, one even came a month early. Now, I think I'm in a better place if someone announced their pregnancy, but while others preferred someone pulling them aside, for me it was worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176269 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 13:15:00 +0000 Mrs. Blue 176269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yeah, I guess my concern is more for other Hellobee peeps and the few IRL friends who know our general timeline (hardly anyone IRL really knows exactly when we started). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176243 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:47:11 +0000 looch 176243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant on our first try, and when we announced, we didn't make any reference to how long it took us. We never formally announced though, with FB statuses or emails, just word of mouth and talking to friends and family. You can never know the full extent of everyone's feelings on the topic, so a simple announcement is best IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176218 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:27:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 176218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that you should announce it normally. No one (except fellow HBers) know how long you've been trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176211 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:22:28 +0000 Mrs. Blue 176211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: Oh, I definitely wasn't thinking of you! I've just been wandering because I want to make sure I handle it right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176188 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:10:40 +0000 BSB 176188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: No, didn't offend me. I think I commented, too. Like I said, I love it when people get BFPs! I love following everyone in their pregnancy journey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176185 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:08:30 +0000 photojane 176185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope this wasn't sparked by my announcement this morning. I absolutely don't want to hurt anyone! I was just excited and have a hard time controlling myself in that state. If I was insensitive or made anyone upset I'm so, so sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176178 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:58:52 +0000 BSB 176178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Yeah, I think that's fine. You acknowledged us. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176174 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:57:29 +0000 DillonLion 176174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: The only place I've talked about it is in a blog post. But it was in the context of "we are really blessed that we got pregnancy quickly, because many other suffer for a long time in silence and I know we are lucky". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176170 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:55:30 +0000 BSB 176170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Well, I guess it, also, depends on who you said it around. If you said it among your mommy friends, it's probably not bad. If you said it among your non-mommy friends who may be keeping TTC a secret, it might be hurtful. </p> <p>I do try really hard realize that people really happy when they get pregnant and don't realize they are being insensitive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176169 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:55:20 +0000 shinystraps 176169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would announce it normally, but be sensitive to not talk about ONLY your pregnancy when you're around them. I have several friends who talk only about their pregnancy, and while I'm happy for them, talking about it for a few minutes is great - but talking about it for an hour or more? That's when it gets to be too much.</p> <p>The good news is, I'll think you'll find that your friends can be happy and excited for you even if they're having trouble! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176162 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:49:27 +0000 DillonLion 176162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Bah I've definitely broken that rule. Didn't realize that was an insensitive comment :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176158 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:48:53 +0000 DillonLion 176158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most people had no idea we were trying, so they didn't know how quickly we got our BFP. I also waited until we were out of the first tri to make our big announcement, so there was a long space before our pregnancy was known. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176155 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:48:05 +0000 BSB 176155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As someone who is on my 7th month of trying, I would say announce it normally. I'm still going to be happy for you. </p> <p>I would just ask that you try not to say something insensitive like... "I'm so glad we didn't have trouble". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176148 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:42:34 +0000 MaisyMay 176148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that it's sweet that you're concerned about this. I had a friend who I'd bonded with over issues getting pregnant and when we got our BFP, I made sure to pull her aside and tell her privately. I told her that I knew it wasn't easy watching friends get what you want because I'd been through that too, but that I wanted to let her know our news before we told anybody else. She was excited that I'd confided in her and has been really supportive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176144 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:40:59 +0000 LuLu Mom 176144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I announced it as I would normally. DH had a cousin who was struggling with TTC and I didn't want to be insensitive, however it was an exciting time in our lives and I wanted to share that with our family. She was happy for us, and got her BFP the next month! We are due 3 weeks apart, so it all worked out. As long as you aren't insensitive and say stuff abotu how easy it was, I think people will be happy for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-announce-bfp-after-short-time-ttc-to-minimize-hurtin-others#post-176141 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:38:46 +0000 Mrs. Blue 176141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that we are TTC and *hoping* it won't take long for a BFP, I've been thinking about how a person should announce a quick BFP so they don't hurt women who have been TTC with no luck yet. I know we all need to be sensitive, both on HB and in real life, of what we say and do in these situations. Luckily, my two friends who I know have had a hard time conceiving both now have a baby or are pregnant. Of course, I'm sure I know others that just haven't confided in me. Plus, I am so cheering on our HB ladies who are having to wait for their BFPs.</p> <p>So, what's the best way to share news you're excited about without hurting others?</p> <p>I hope I'm not jinxing myself by wandering about quick BFP situations... </p>