https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 11:44:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1305241 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 21:47:19 +0000 MamaMagpie 1305241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303667 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 17:57:51 +0000 Vegmama 1303667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMagpie: xoxo ... You're a good friend &amp; she's lucky to have you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303260 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 14:46:04 +0000 MamaMagpie 1303260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: thank you :) I was thinking about bringing something but didn't know if I should just drop it off -- now I definitely will. I'm so happy for you that your LO is almost here! What an inconsiderate thing to say, though, and I'm sorry you had to hear it :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303219 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 14:33:40 +0000 Vegmama 1303219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I appreciated friends who asked how I was feeling, and offered to be there if I needed them. I didn't have a D&amp;C, but I'm sure I would have enjoyed a friend or two dropping a meal off (not staying though). My husband and I wanted to be alone to process everything after our loss, and our friends were really respectful of it. </p> <p>I'm pregnant again now (full term), and when we announced, we had someone say something about it making up for the m/c. Inside, getting pregnant again really did help me heal, but it was such a cold thing to hear. So really, I just preferred the, "I'm sorry, I'm here for you!" kind of attitude from our friends/family. </p> <p>Thinking of you and your friend!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303202 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 14:27:02 +0000 MamaMagpie 1303202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: thank you, that's the kind of thing I needed to know. And I will definitely make sure to keep checking in.<br /> @T.H.O.U.: snacks! Good call :)<br /> @MapleMoose: thanks lady &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303137 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 13:46:03 +0000 MapleMoose 1303137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: Sending prayers for your friend and her family :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303081 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 13:15:45 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1303081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Snacks and some good DVDs were a great gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303076 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 13:14:38 +0000 singingbee 1303076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, I wouldn't say, at least you have your son or at least it was early. I know you would not say those things, but its amazing what some people think is comforting. I would let them know you are there. I would bring a meal, maybe something that she enjoys. And I would keep checking in for a while. It will hit her again a few months later. It was always nice for me when my friends would check in on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/best-way-to-be-supportive#post-1303005 Fri, 27 Dec 2013 12:33:03 +0000 MamaMagpie 1303005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Bees, I need some advice...</p> <p>One of my best friends found out yesterday that she lost her baby at 8w5d and is having a D&amp;C today. She had been on bed rest for the last two and half weeks because when they went in for their first ultrasound, there was no heartbeat and she had a bleed, but when they went back to the OB a few days later there was a heartbeat and they chalked it up to mis-dating, however her progesterone was low as well.</p> <p>I just don't know what the best way to be supportive is. She has a 2.5 year old son and this is their first experience with loss. Even any advice on what NOT to say would be appreciated. </p> <p>And if you're the praying type, please think of her on her TTC journey &lt;3 </p>