https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 13 Jun 2026 13:54:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-796002 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:46:03 +0000 tororojo 796002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I'm in the same boat as you! We have done it twice...but both times I cried uncle out of pain. That's at 11 weeks pp. I promised I would try more but have no desire to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-795258 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:12:02 +0000 ladyfingers 795258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, every few days? You're doing better than me (or maybe your DH is just better at reminding than mine is lol). I'm 15 weeks pp and we have only done it once, like 3 weeks ago. </p> <p>:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-795199 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:49:34 +0000 cascademom 795199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>STTN, weaning, and scheduling brought back the sex drive for me. My sex drive is low on HBC too. I can't wait to get off of it because for me, it's a drive killer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-795193 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:47:12 +0000 plantains 795193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine has just come back the last couple of weeks, and like everyone else it seems to have coincided with AF returning last week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-795175 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:39:42 +0000 mrsjyw 795175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The one plus side to having AF return, sex drive picked up when she came back at 4.5 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794337 Sun, 19 May 2013 19:35:50 +0000 mamabolt 794337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around 9 months it really picked up. It's still not like it was pre-baby but it's so much better than it was a few months ago. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794323 Sun, 19 May 2013 19:26:06 +0000 lamariniere 794323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my low sex drive was more related to the mini pill than breastfeeding. I BF until DS was 13 months and was on the pill about 9 more months until we started TTC again. Within about 2 cycles of coming off the pill I was back to maybe 80% of my old self whereas with the pill I never wanted to have sex. It really put a strain on our marriage because, like you, we were very hot and heavy pretty much until DS was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794309 Sun, 19 May 2013 19:17:32 +0000 Weagle 794309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was completely gone until AF came back at 11.5 months. I'm still not all the way there, but probably 80-85% </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794308 Sun, 19 May 2013 19:14:14 +0000 MrsStar 794308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pre pregnancy we were every-day sort of people, now it's more like twice a month and has been for 8 months since lo was born. Haven't had AF yet so I wonder if that has something to do with it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794300 Sun, 19 May 2013 19:08:57 +0000 mediagirl 794300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It came back around 8 or 9 months pp. No period yet and I'm at 11.5 months. Still bfing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794288 Sun, 19 May 2013 18:55:23 +0000 Ree723 794288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another one here also in the camp of not seeing a return of my old sex drive until AF came back at about 8.5 months pp, and even then, it was a gradual return. I'm still BF'ing exclusively, other than solids, and LO will be 11 months old tomorrow, but I can safely say our sex life is 100% back on track now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794282 Sun, 19 May 2013 18:49:01 +0000 sarac 794282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine went way up. WAY up. Still up there 20 months in, tiredness permitting. I think that I'm the exception, though, because having a decrease is way more common. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794255 Sun, 19 May 2013 18:08:07 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 794255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think BFing really affected my sex drive. We were doing it at 6 weeks pp and we got into our usual "routine" about 13 weeks pp. Certain positions still hurt, but we got creative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794254 Sun, 19 May 2013 18:06:17 +0000 Maysprout 794254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BF didn't seem to effect me besides for normal postpartum recovery. Now that I'm 16 weeks pregnant and LO1 still wants to nurse sometimes I do get that touched out feeling but I never had it before. Intimacy is important though so he just gives me more back rubs which seems to help things out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794249 Sun, 19 May 2013 17:56:15 +0000 lemondrop 794249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same as the ladies above, it took the first pp period at 10 months. One if the few benefits of getting AF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794222 Sun, 19 May 2013 17:29:42 +0000 PrincessBaby 794222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I hope that the hiatus revs you up:). I am the same as you- after all the shenanigans involved in bedtime, I just want to unwind too!<br /> @Mrs. Twine: @photojane: No AF yet! Hopefully she'll get me going again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794196 Sun, 19 May 2013 17:04:57 +0000 Smurfette 794196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: Haha! I just got Mirena on Friday, hope it gives me the same affect but doubtful since I am still BF. Another reason I am ready to be done with it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794180 Sun, 19 May 2013 16:36:02 +0000 HLK208 794180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>10 months! I started weaning a little so that might be the reason.</p> <p>Oh and I have to agree that after my period came back (8.5 months pp) I started to feel a little more normal but not 100% until 10 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794176 Sun, 19 May 2013 16:32:43 +0000 kml636 794176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get annoyed with him for little things that make him seem less sexy to me, if that makes sense (like playing golf on his day off and staying at the bar after) that I then don't want anything to do with him, where as before it didn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794151 Sun, 19 May 2013 15:45:41 +0000 mrsmenow 794151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hhhmmm I am not really sure it has correlated with BFing in any of my pregnancies. More so a relations to STTN and a regular schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794137 Sun, 19 May 2013 15:18:02 +0000 photojane 794137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you had your period yet? I'm not BFing, but my sex drive came back with my first PP period (just like @Mrs. Twine). Obviously mine just came back sooner -- 8 weeks. I don't know if it's the Mirena or my hormones leveling out, but girl... I'm like a freakin' cat in heat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794134 Sun, 19 May 2013 15:13:45 +0000 Mrs. Twine 794134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me it coincides with my first pp period. So this time around I had about zero sex drive until Lowly was 13 months (I know!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-794099 Sun, 19 May 2013 14:31:06 +0000 hilsy85 794099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're at 7 months pp...things got more normal around 6 months pp, but still not like it was before baby for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-793817 Sun, 19 May 2013 10:39:16 +0000 PrincessBaby 793817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I'd say I'm likd 25%? I'm hopeful thatwhen we start solids and do more FF as we prepare to wean over a several month period that I'll be my old slutty self with DH, lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-793816 Sun, 19 May 2013 10:38:29 +0000 travelgirl1 793816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 6 months pp and mine hasn't returned yet but DH is horny as ever so it's been a real problem for us. We have talked about it a lot and did start doing 'something' every other day but it got too much for me honestly and I was feeling so touched out after getting the baby down that I just wanted some me time, not sexy time. In the end we agreed to have a 2 week break from it as I was feeling hassled and he was feeling rejected and neither of those feelings are fun. I'm hoping that break spices it up a bit and turns it around. I do really fancy him but I just don't care about sex right now. Breastfeeding is great for mum and baby but not so great for husband and wife, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-793810 Sun, 19 May 2013 10:34:51 +0000 chopsuey 793810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Man I don't remember!<br /> I got pregnant with no 2 at 12 months pp though. :D :P<br /> I'd say it was back completely around 7 months pp?<br /> At 5 months (today!) I feel like I'm 50% there </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfers-did-your-sex-drive-return-while-still-bfing#post-793794 Sun, 19 May 2013 10:25:49 +0000 PrincessBaby 793794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok so it's not that I have ZERO sex drive, it's just a lot lower than before...Pregnancy slowed things down for us, obvs, but we used to be hot and heavy, having sex at least every other day. And I totally loved it!</p> <p>Now, I'll look at my husband with his shirt off and think "Damn. He is a hottie." Because he really is- but I dont get that fire like I used to, and I know it's all thanks to good ol' "nature's birth control." </p> <p>When did your hormones rage again, lol?</p> <p>I'm 5.5 months PP.</p> <p>DH and I have talked about it and he's very understanding. He just "reminds" me when it's been a few days and I need to "give it up." Because he knows that I just really dont think about it very often, even though I'm very attracted to him. He is a Hot Dad. I feel guilty that I'm not throwing myself at him like he pretty much deserves. </p>