https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 19 Jun 2026 11:23:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-171762 Tue, 29 May 2012 09:15:05 +0000 LivsMama 171762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I was ADAMANT against BFing before Liv was born. I wanted nothing to do with it, wanted equality in me and DH feeding her, and I was grossed out by it. I never took a class before the birth or even at the hospital after (I did hire an IBCLC to come to my house when I got home to walk me through it. My hospital didnt have any LCs let alone IBCLCs, just the nurses.)</p> <p>I have to tell you, the second I heard Liv cry after my c-sec, some sort of maternal switch turned on and I KNEW I had to try to BF her. Shes 10 months and 1 week old, and we;re still going at it strong. I LOVE it. You figure out how to BF in public without whipping your whole boob out if you are worried about privacy, etc. </p> <p>Truly, Im no lactivist. If someone wants to formula feed their clid because its best for them, then awesome. You gotta do whats best for you. No judgment on my part-I was going to do that. But based on my experience, I am SO glad I tried it out, because I cherish that time every day with her. It makes me sad that we're nearing the end of it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-171672 Tue, 29 May 2012 08:04:14 +0000 T.H.O.U. 171672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always planned on BFing and had great support from my husband to do so as well. As much as I wanted it to work out, I wasn't really excited about it. I think I had all the same nerves/questions (what will it feel like, will it hurt, will it be too stressful, will I have enough, will I be to uncomfortable to do it i public). I was so nervous that after reading through the first chapter of a BFing book I had nightmares and didnt research/read anything else. We didn't even take a class. All I knew was that the baby was supposed to start as soon as possible after being born. </p> <p>Right after she was born and on my chest we finally had a few minutes in the room by ourselves so my husband and I put her to the breast. We had no idea what we were doing or how to do it but she latched and started sucking right away. It is one of my fondest memories. </p> <p>I agree that modesty does go out the window a lot after giving birth and you read/learn what you need to. </p> <p>I agree that right now, one of my big reasons for trying to go to a year is the cost factor. Our budget has been a bit more flexible without the $20/week formula expense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-171088 Mon, 28 May 2012 14:05:55 +0000 aunt pol 171088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was all gung ho to ebf before the babas were born (two weeks ago tonight) and life got in the way. Evelyn was in the special care unit the first three days, and Sive was down on the ward with me. I certainly didn't have enough colostrum for both, never mind the logistics of running up and down a dozen times a day. So both had varying degrees of booby and formula. Ev needed the formula- her blood sugar and her body temp were poor and she had no appetite so she wouldn't have put in the work to get enough nourishment from me. </p> <p>Two weeks on, we're kind of half and half. DH is still at home, thank god, I'd be in the mental hospital if he wasn't. When I'm bf he looks after diapers etc, and we split the bottle feeds then as well, and he's doing all the chores as I'm on strict bed rest for the next few days- infection in my c section scar:( </p> <p>Basically I'd feel terrible if I gave up bf, but it would be so much easier. The little divils can tell the difference already and comfort nursing is a bit of a nuisance when there's two of them! </p> <p>It's handy in one way- DH went grocery shopping today, which we knew would take a couple hours, so after changing the babas he popped them in the bed with me and I fed on demand until he came home. It works and it is satisfying, and I'm really sorry for being the Debbie downer poster, but it is difficult.</p> <p>ETA<br /> I would never have thought I'd be happy to have a nurse hold my nipple to guide it correctly into baby's mouth, but it's funny how little you care post-partum! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170777 Sun, 27 May 2012 23:05:17 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 170777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I'll admit it was weird for the same reasons you listed. But going to a breastfeeding class before the baby came helped tremendously! Also, I'm a pretty modest person, so baring my boobs in front of nurses was a little weird. But then again, they just helped deliver a baby out of my whooha, so what's a little boob to them?</p> <p>It is difficult in the beginning but it does become a bonding thing. I mean you get special boobie powers, such as being able to calm, comfort, and put your baby to sleep like no one and nothing else can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170776 Sun, 27 May 2012 23:02:32 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 170776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't grossed out, but I was very nervous about it. Worried that it would be hard to figure out. And it was a bit, and it hurt a bit, but only for a little while and then it's easy and natural! Just knowing how great it was for my baby girls helped a lot. </p> <p>Now it's nice snuggly bonding time but it wasn't at first because it was stressful, so don't feel like you're failing if you don't get the warm fuzzies right off! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170755 Sun, 27 May 2012 21:33:17 +0000 googly-eyes 170755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies!!!! I think maybe part of it is that I don't really know HOW to do it, but maybe when I learn how I will feel better. Glad to know it's not just me and that BFing can work out anyway. The range of responses has been interesting..I am trying to be realistic in my expectations, but still hope for the best. </p> <p>@Missdaredevil, I've been thinking about the hospital situation too! I know they are used to doing this type of thing, and I figure after giving birth showing boobs will be nothing, but still..I hope I "get it." I'm glad it turned out to be a good bonding experience for you, hope it goes that way for me too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170514 Sun, 27 May 2012 13:08:59 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 170514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was very nervous before breastfeeding. Not going to lie, first couple times in the hospital it was super awkward and I had no idea what I was doing. I felt humiliated because the nurses basically had to hang out with me with my shirt off until I could get the baby to latch on. HOWEVER, two weeks into it I couldn't imagine not breastfeeding. I have never felt so bonded to anyone in my life, and sitting down and feeding my LO is actually very relaxing and soothing. The pain and soreness in my nipples has already gone away and I feel no discomfort while nursing. It is normal to feel apprehensive, so don't feel bad. Give it a couple weeks when your LO comes and I think you'll love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170502 Sun, 27 May 2012 12:54:34 +0000 duckduckkristen 170502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I had my baby I thought that I would hate BFing, be really weirded out by it, and that I would wind up feeling like my breasts were for baby and not for my husband. I'm 3 weeks into BFing and so far I don't feel any of those things. I'm not in love with BFing, especially at night, but I don't hate it and will probably keep it up for at least a few months if not longer. It did hurt a lot the first week but now it just hurts when LO latches wrong. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170487 Sun, 27 May 2012 12:32:06 +0000 Andrea 170487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was never weirded out by it and it felt like a natural thing to do for the DD. I think it's great to try it out but just go with whatever option works best for you and the LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-170484 Sun, 27 May 2012 12:26:08 +0000 Maysprout 170484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I planned on it but was surprised when my sisters seemed a little weird about the thought of it (even though they also plan on doing it). I haven't really been able to figure out what they're grossed out by but I'm around them a lot and they seem over it now and we're a pretty frank family so I think they'd tell me if they were still a bit weirded out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-169873 Sat, 26 May 2012 14:01:13 +0000 Mrsbells 169873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To be honest breastfeeding can be hard especially in the beginning so if you already not excited about it, it would be easy to give in and quit. I was very excited and determined to breastfeed but it was a lot harder than I had anticipated and very frustrating in the first couple of weeks and I did consider giving up, but having a pump and formula helped me through it and now I'm exclusively breastfeeding and its going great because I've got the hang of it and so has my baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-169855 Sat, 26 May 2012 12:45:28 +0000 lemondrop 169855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't exactly call it the warm fuzzies, but I don't mind it at all anymore. I was hell bent on breastfeeding prior to giving birth for the usual reasons you listed above (and heck yeah for the weight loss, I have no issues using it for my own selfish and vain reasons!)</p> <p>I started out squeamish, and while it is a completely natural thing, it is not easy, but I got over it. After the first 2 months I didn't want to quit every time I fed anymore. Be prepared for a lot of emotions and frustrations, and have a good lactation consultant that you can call when you are ready to give up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfing-moms#post-169839 Sat, 26 May 2012 11:53:39 +0000 googly-eyes 169839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did you feel BEFORE you started breastfeeding? </p> <p>I am going to be attempting it because it's healthy for baby. Yes, I KNOW in my head it's natural, but I just feel a little grossed out by it. I also don't feel it's absolutely necessary for bonding, but it could be a good opportunity and works for some people. Before getting pregnant I thought I would never breastfeed, but both losing baby weight (yes I know, selfish, but I'm being honest here as to what really caught my attention first, not saying it is the most important, but attention catching) and health benefits to our little one make me want to try it. Still, it freaks me out!!</p> <p>I'm also a little worried because I have always had sensitive boobs to the point where I really don't want them to even be touched.</p> <p>I guess I'm just hoping to hear there were others who felt this way before having their baby and ended up being successful and having the warm and fuzzies instead of the sort of squeamish feeling. </p>