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Hellobee Boards Topic: BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 10:36:02 +0000 lovehoneybee on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82069 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 23:19:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 82069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I told my mom and my BFF SIL (we're living with her at the moment, and she found the +HPT--but I would have told her right away anyway) the day we got the BFP. I know they'd both keep their mouths shut. We told the whole of DH's family--parents, brothers, sisters-in-law, aunts, uncle and grandmother--on Christmas day, when we were 7w2d. We wanted to wait until after our first ultrasound, but couldn't pass on a Christmas announcement. I told my father and stepmother, and our two best friends (and engaged couple) after our ultrasound at 8 weeks Everyone else found after we announced on FB at 13 weeks. lemondrop on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82040 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 22:06:19 +0000 lemondrop 82040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yay, so exciting! After my husband, I told his sister the next day. She knew that we had been trying for quite some time and had been a big support for me. I told my work after the first doctor's appointment the next week- I work with hazardous materials, so there were some things I could not do at that point. At 7 weeks we told our parents, they all just happened to be in town right after Mother's Day weekend, so it was perfect timing. It was so hard not to spill the beans for 2 whole weeks. At 10 weeks just after our first ultrasound we told the grandparents, rest of the family, then Facebook. We were confident after seeing the heartbeat on the ultrasound that the risk of miscarriage had gone down enough. cascademom on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82034 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 21:28:07 +0000 cascademom 82034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotpink: I went home to attend a concert. I had some early hemorrhoid issues. I asked my mom about Tucks pads which she used to have at the house. That was the biggest tipoff to her. The next week during Christmas, I didn't drink and went to the bathroom a lot. I told my mom before I left for home at 5 weeks. hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82027 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 21:08:54 +0000 hotpink 82027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Darling: Good luck with all the testing. Thinking happy thoughts for you. I have a good friend who's been TTC for over a year an a half so I am trying to figure out how to tell her my good news without hurting her feelings. hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82023 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 21:05:17 +0000 hotpink 82023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @cascadecherub: Curious as to how your parents figured it out at 5 weeks. I think it's neat when those kind of things happen! hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82021 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 21:03:33 +0000 hotpink 82021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Rubies: How exciting to announce your pregnancy at Christmas! Wonderful timing ;) hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82020 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 21:01:58 +0000 hotpink 82020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Crumbs: It's our first baby too, so I want to be cautious as well. I'm 5 weeks and can't stand the waiting but trying to hold out! hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82018 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 20:59:49 +0000 hotpink 82018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Tidybee: Congrats to you too!!! :) Have fun celebrating with your family this weekend! hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82017 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 20:57:58 +0000 hotpink 82017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @cyneswith: Good luck to you! A friend announced her pregnancy on facebook last year on April 1st. I really couldn't decide to believe her or not about it, haha. When she finally had a bump I had to believe. It was quiet funny and made for some fond memories :) hotpink on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-82016 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 20:55:53 +0000 hotpink 82016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks to everyone who shared their experience. :) I like reading everyone's reasons for telling right away or waiting. I am still undecided, so currently keeping it a secret with my husband. The people that I want to tell the most inclue my parents and a few close friends. The trouble with that is my mom will not be able to keep this a secret. She will tell anyone and everyone the good news. She always gets this way when she's excited. It's adorable. But I want to make sure that everyone else finds out when I am comfortable. So I guess we'll stick to waiting out the first trimester. cyneswith on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79826 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:56:46 +0000 cyneswith 79826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm telling our moms ASAP. Also telling a close friend - but she's told me things about her husband's junk, and I've heard them having sex, so she's due for some TMI from someone else. Hubby will likely tell his co-worker, who is also a friend of mine (it's just them on his shift.) Will tell other close friends, siblings, and grandparents after we hear a heartbeat. IF I'm pregnant this cycle and we hear a heartbeat around/before 8 weeks, it'll go on Facebook on April 1st, because reverse psychology is fun. Tidybee on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79795 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 12:36:35 +0000 Tidybee 79795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congrats!! I only got my BFP on Friday after a year of TTC and a failed IUI. I immediately called my sister and 2 best friends. I also told a coworker who was aware of my struggles and has supported me throughout this. We're telling our parents and siblings this weekend when we see them in person. They are aware of the trying process and how difficult and frustrating it was for us, so we're super excited to tell them. tequiero21 on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79665 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 08:50:32 +0000 tequiero21 79665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ we wanted to wait until our first u/s before we told our parents. we told our brothers later on, around 10 weeks or so? we didn't start telling other people until after the 1st trimester. mostly cuz we already went through a miscarriage the year before. our first pregnancy, we told a lot of people at 8 weeks. SugarplumsMom on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79635 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 04:32:19 +0000 SugarplumsMom 79635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congratulations!!! We couldn't stand the wait but decided to wait anyway. My mother and friends got to know at around 10 weeks only because we were planning to visit them (an international flight away) and I didn't want anyone expecting us to be social butterflies during the trip. We waited until after our NT scan results to tell DH family at 13weeks + 3 days (which was literally the day after we arrived back home). We went FB official after the anatomy scan at 19 weeks + 3 days. I didn't plan to wait that long, but I figured I might as well. It's our first baby and we're taking the cautious route. googly-eyes on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79628 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:39:53 +0000 googly-eyes 79628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Told my immediate family around 5-6 weeks and will tell everyone else after our NT scan at about 12.5 weeks. We'll start with family and it will get around gradually! :) Kemma on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79626 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:38:13 +0000 Kemma 79626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congratulations on your BFP! We got our BFP at about four weeks and are now at eight. We told our parents and DH's sister at about five weeks, a couple of really good friends at six weeks (we have boozy bbq's together) and I've told a couple of girlfriends as I've seen them over the last two weeks (both are pregnant themselves). I'm about to tell my boss at the end of this week as I've got my first midwife appointment coming up as well as some blood tests and some scans so I figure he probably needs to know why I need the time off. I'm not too worried about telling people before fourteen weeks as long as I can do it on my terms and if other people don't go announcing it for me! Mrsbells on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79445 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:43:19 +0000 Mrsbells 79445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ we told my parents at 11 weeks and then told my husbands parents at 13 weeks. I never officially told anyone else I was pregnant I just waited for them to realize. sslm on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79441 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:40:54 +0000 sslm 79441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congrats!! We told our parents a few days after our BFP, just shy of 5 weeks. Oh and also our siblings. No one else knows yet, we're going to re-evaluate after our first ultrasound at 7.5 weeks! Mrs. Pickle on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79426 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:16:41 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 79426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congrats! Rubies on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79421 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:13:33 +0000 Rubies 79421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congratulations! We waited until I was 10 weeks to tell our families (it happened to be Christmas, so it was a nice time), and we didn't tell anyone else until I was 13 weeks. mrskc on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79332 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:36:15 +0000 mrskc 79332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congratulations! So far only DH, my mom, my BF and two trusted coworkers know. Oh and my DH told his good friend. We want to wait until we're out of the 1st trimester to announce it to anyone else. cascademom on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79327 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:28:37 +0000 cascademom 79327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents figured it out at 5 weeks. We told the inlaws around 9 weeks which was after our 8 week appointment. We just had our 13 week appointments where we saw the heartbeat again and baby measured well. We've only recently started telling friends. At first, I was so gung ho for a facebook announcement at 12 weeks. Now, I'm thinking more 20-21 weeks when we know the sex. I'm super cautious by nature and also pretty private as well on FB. sulli301 on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79315 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:13:35 +0000 sulli301 79315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congratulations!!! We told our parents early, right around my first doctors appointment at 10 weeks. We felt comfortable telling them early & I also wanted my mom to come to my first appointment because DH had to go away on business. The next time around we will probably wait until the end of the first trimester unless something like that comes up again. winniebee on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79313 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:13:05 +0000 winniebee 79313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congrats! We told our immediate families and a few close friends right away. I had had a prior miscarriage and knew that I would want their support in case it happened again. I waited and told other friends and work after 12 weeks and didn't put anything on Facebook until after my anatomy scan (19 weeks). There's no right answer, though : ) anbanan15 on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79307 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:09:34 +0000 anbanan15 79307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We waited to tell everyone until after the first trimester. My mom kinda guessed before because I was talking about cloth diapers with her and she ended up telling my dad when people kept making me carry heavy items. It was just before we were getting ready to tell people anyway. I think next pregnancy we will also wait... Darling on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79226 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:39:13 +0000 Darling 79226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We agreed to tell people on a need to know basis. For instance, my closest girlfriend & I always do boozy brunches so she knew something was up when I wasn't drinking. Other than that, we're waiting until 14 weeks after all the genetic testing is done to tell our families & close friends. I'm prone to miscarriages and if the tests come back with a bad outcome I really don't want the judgement from others if we decide to terminate the pregnancy because of a severe abnormality. I probably won't announce it on facebook until the baby is born, mainly because I find it really annoying when people constantly post pregnancy updates. You never know what fertility issues your friends are privately going through and it just feels a little insensitive. But that's just my opinion. mediagirl on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79224 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:34:08 +0000 mediagirl 79224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Congratulations!!! My husband knew right away (well, after I proved it to myself with one of those digital ones...) We waited until 11 weeks, 5 days to tell everyone else. We're both pretty private people and wanted to make sure we got past the first trimester before letting everyone know. I posed on FB at 18 weeks, after our second ultrasound when we knew the sex! sorrycharlie on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79221 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:29:16 +0000 sorrycharlie 79221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ yay congratulations!! DH - right away 5 weeks - in-laws and my parents (and brother), and aunt 6 weeks - my maternal grandparents 8 weeks - best friends 9 weeks - my paternal family 10 weeks - first ultrasound, then anything goes! LuLu Mom on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79218 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:18:55 +0000 LuLu Mom 79218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We told the people who we would want support from if we end up not having a sticky baby, for us this was our parents, siblings, and my 3 best friends. We plan on telling everyone else after 12 weeks, possibly announce it at Easter to our extended families. katdevargas on "BFP! How did you decide who to tell and when?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bfp-how-did-you-decide-who-to-tell-and-when#post-79208 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:04:47 +0000 katdevargas 79208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ congratulations! :D we didn't tell anyone, including close family {moms, etc} til I was about 11 weeks along. I have a bleeding disorder, though, & have a higher risk of miscarriages & knew that I didn't want to have to go bad & tell anyone if anything happened & the husband honoured my wishes about that. when we did tell family, we had to break it down some since they're scattered: his mom & gma/my family, separately, we told during prayers his dad & sister we told we had some photos made & we thought they might want a copy & gave them pics of baby's 1st sono, which was at 12 weeks so baby was really clearly defined as a little person and his brother & sil, we skyped with