https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 00:10:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2723166 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 06:34:24 +0000 Pumuckl 2723166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did all at once on his third birthday. It was totally painfree and there was never any confusion about which pacifier is which. Same thing with DD (a month younger than your DS2) she knows which pacifiers are hers and which ones belong to the twins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2723146 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 22:50:21 +0000 littlejoy 2723146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO still uses a paci (only at home, for naps and nighttime) and she's 3.25. We made it 7 days without it when she was 2.5 (forced, because one of her teeth was almost knocked out, and she had to stop using it) ... unfortunately, it happened right when we were transitioning to her big girl bed, and she lost her shit (understandably). We ended up giving the paci back, with plans to wean her a few months later. (Obviously doing great with this whole situation, ha). </p> <p>My vote is bed first ... then paci. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2723111 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 20:33:11 +0000 travellingbee 2723111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we did bed then paci but it was back to back. Bed was nbd. Paci was pretty terrible. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2723103 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 20:10:13 +0000 nana87 2723103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't do these transitions at the same time, but neither one was a big deal for dd! With the paci (at just over 2) she cried at sleep times a couple days and we transitioned her bed 2x (converted crib at 2.5, to toddler bed a few months later) and no issues at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722978 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 13:58:17 +0000 KayKay 2722978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably just do it all at once right now. That way hopefully everything is a-ok and he is back to sleeping fine once 3.0 gets here in the summer. </p> <p>I was going to suggest maybe just doing big bed now, and then paci once 3.0 arrives ("babies are the only ones who get pacifiers! you're a big kid!") but having two potentially bad sleepers at the same time would be ick. So I guess you'd have to be ok with pacifier until some number of months AFTER 3.0 is born then.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722910 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 12:01:47 +0000 winniebee 2722910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: I just mean taking the side off the crib -- we don't have a toddler rail for the crib either so I would have to figure that out! Oh, I'm terrified. He has high sleep needs so I'm just hoping that the urge to sleep will win out in the end!! His brother has low sleep needs, so if there are shenanigans, he can survive it...for at least a few days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722907 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:58:33 +0000 MamaG 2722907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: You'll have to change it to raise the mattress ;) I get it, I'm not sure I'd want to do all the work either. Maybe a floor bed? Use his new big bed mattress on his current floor? </p> <p>The thought of my two kids in a room together absolutely terrifies me with the non-sleeping shenanigans. So I was trying to find a way to protect T from the changes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722905 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:56:31 +0000 winniebee 2722905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: It does convert but I think he'll actually be excited about the bed part (big comforter etc) and frankly I'm too lazy to change the crib and then change it back for the baby, ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722903 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:54:17 +0000 MamaG 2722903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does his crib convert? Is there a possibility of doing all the transition in his current room without disturbing big brother? If you can convert his crib, I'd probably do it all at one time. Convert the crib, take the paci and get him adjusted. Then move him to the other room. Or if the crib doesn't convert, could you do a temporary floor bed in his current room?</p> <p>Also, FWIW, we ditched the paci at a younger age, but it was considerably easier than what I worked it up to be in my mind. I'm hopeful you experience the same. That it will be mostly a non-event that you overthought. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722893 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:43:01 +0000 winniebee 2722893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: I'm probably completely overthinking this, but I didn't want him to hate his bed and demand to go back to his crib....so I was thinking of separating the two? Again I should just pull the trigger in SOME way since I've been blabbering about getting rid of the pacifier for at least a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722885 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:32:45 +0000 LBee 2722885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Ha, sorry, that does sound pretty harsh. It was about 7 days for DS to finally be cool with going to bed without paci and sleeping to his normal time. A friend just big boy transitioned and she said it was 2 weeks for things to be 100% normal for her son (and he was a rockstar sleeper). </p> <p>I think you maybe present it as he's getting a big boy bed and big boys don't have pacis. Maybe he'll think of the big boy bed as like a reward for giving up the paci? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722884 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:32:07 +0000 ShootingStar 2722884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Yes, but mostly because daycare stopped giving it to him at nap. And then because he napped fine there, we stopped giving it to him for nap at home. We were really afraid to do bedtime. We tried it once and it was a disaster, though partially for other reasons. Then we tried again a few weeks later and it was no big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722883 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:30:30 +0000 winniebee 2722883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Did you do nap and bed separately? I was thinking to do it all at once so there is no confusion with it (and if he refuses to nap, at least he'll be extra tired for bed and possibly conk out?!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722882 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:29:42 +0000 winniebee 2722882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: "a few weeks of potential hell" - yes, this is what I'm bracing for LOL. I can't say that I think he'll be like "oh, ok i'm a big boy, cool" but I plan to be matter of fact about it with him (while comforting him, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722880 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:24:35 +0000 LBee 2722880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a tough one. We weaned DS from his paci at that age almost exactly and I will say being honest did not work for him. He really didn't care about being a big boy and felt he wasn't too old (he pointed to older kids who still had it). </p> <p>My first instinct was to say that you should do paci first. We had to do a small degree of CIO with paci weaning because he was unable to settle. I think being trapped in his crib worked in our favor. I'm struggling a little though because you have an escape artist so it's not like he's trapped anyways. Based on that, I'm inclined to say do both at the same time and go through a few weeks of potential hell. Ultimately it's going to take a couple of weeks for both adjustments so I almost think it will be less time if you just deal with both at the same time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722871 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:12:34 +0000 ShootingStar 2722871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DD was on her way I really wanted to make sure DS was DONE with pacis before the baby arrived. We had been slowly reducing our use of them and I didn't want him to regress into wanting it full time because the baby had it. </p> <p>But I think you could probably do both transitions together. Stop giving the paci at nap time now. Then transition him to the big boy bed and a week or so later start winding down on the night time paci. The bed transition for us was pretty much a non-issue, but we did it pretty early at 20 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722866 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:05:37 +0000 winniebee 2722866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pajamas: Thanks! I know this method can be really successful for other kids, but I'd rather just be honest with him about why he can't have it anymore - too old and is a "big boy" now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722864 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:03:07 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2722864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: no personal experience but a good friend told me about slowly making the hole in the paci bigger (I guess with scissors) until her DD didn't like it anymore. Since you are worried about paci weaning, maybe try that gradual approach after the bed transition? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722853 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:49:06 +0000 winniebee 2722853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: We could try - my kids only liked the NUK orthostar though! I would really like to not have the paci in play at all when baby is born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722849 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:43:26 +0000 catlady 2722849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Just another thought, if you do give the baby a pacifier, you could choose a different type. DD always used Avent pacifiers but we gave soothies to DS so they look totally different than the pacifiers that she used to use. Obviously only works if baby takes to the new pacifier type, but worth trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722847 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:41:15 +0000 winniebee 2722847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: interesting thanks! I guess if we do the bed first, then he can get used to it for a month, then there will still be 4-6 weeks before the baby comes and we could do the pacifier weaning then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722846 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:39:59 +0000 winniebee 2722846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Hm that's a good point - paci weaning not NEEDED. I'm just worried about the antics when we wean him and what disturbance that will have on his older brother (aka, crying at bed time or middle of the night, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722845 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:39:21 +0000 catlady 2722845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did paci weaning first, then big girl bed, but our "big bed" was actually just the same crib converted with the toddler rail, so I think it was a different kind of transition. In your case, I agree with @Truth Bombs. Just wanted to say that we were terrified to lose our girl's good sleep when we paci weaned, but there were literally no issues at all. In a way, it was good to do it later because she was old enough to understand. We told her the "binky fairy" needed to take her binkies away for babies and that she was a big girl now, and I think she totally got it. She left her pacifiers out in a bowl one day and we replaced them with a toy. She slept totally fine that night and ever since. Baby brother arrived a few months later and we were worried about a possible pacifier relapse but she has no interest in them because "they are for babies". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722839 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:29:34 +0000 Truth Bombs 2722839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd do the bed first, then the paci, for two reasons: 1. It will be an easier transition to tackle first since he seems ready to be done with the crib anyway 2. It's the more necessary transition. You NEED him out of the crib so new baby brother can have it. You WANT him to drop the paci, but if it takes a little longer, it's not the end of the world. </p> <p>My son was born when my daughter was 3 and I was way too tired and pregnant to fight her over the paci. So we let her have it until he was a few months old. She knew which ones were hers and which were his and there were never any issues there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/big-boy-bed-paci-advice#post-2722836 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:25:21 +0000 winniebee 2722836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS2 is 2.4. He still gets a pacifier at nap and bed time. He still sleeps in his crib in his room (in a backwards zipped sleep sack) and takes naps. He has been a very good sleeper (typically sleeps 7:45-6:45). He got a tummy bug last week and started waking at 6....or earlier. He then also figured out how to take his sleep sack off and now takes it off and gets out of his crib and comes to our room at 6....or earlier. </p> <p>He is moving to a big boy bed in his brothers room shortly. We ordered his bed months ago and that will be here next weekend. Babiest brother arrives in a few months so we wanted to get him used to being in a new bed/room. Now, he is actually showing signs of being ready (or, at least being done with the crib). </p> <p>We also need to wean the pacifier, like, yesterday. I do not want to wait until age 3 as I do not want fights with baby brother over a pacifier, etc. </p> <p>So, my question: do we take the pacifier away first, then move him to his brother's room/bed? Or move him to the bed first? Or do it at the same time? I'm thinking take the pacifier away, then move him. Might as well take paci away given that he's not sleeping that well right now anyways? (My oldest didn't take a pacifier so this is new territory!)</p> <p>Thoughts? </p>