https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 21:12:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409587 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 15:07:21 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 409587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tearing! And pooping while delivering! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409585 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 15:05:12 +0000 sorrycharlie 409585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>if it reassures anyone, I had a horrible, horrible tear (she literally FLEW out..no cone head, and her head is gigantic!!) and though it took a few weeks to feel normal, motrin helped! after the first couple days it wasn't unbearable. it's not as scary as you'd think..i took a look and things look normal :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409569 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 14:50:55 +0000 yoursilverlining 409569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Besides serious health issues with the bebe, I was most scared about laboring for hours upon hours and not being able to deliver and then needing a c-section after my body was so exhausted and worn down. So, I just scheduled a c-section. Honestly, the mechanics of a c-section seemed a lot less scary to me than the mechanics of giving birth. Yikes!</p> <p>I was also terrified of hemorrhaging since my mom hemorrhaged after me and could have died. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409555 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 14:39:30 +0000 Alivoo01 409555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tearing!!!! I cringe and can empathy feel the pain when I read/hear about it even though I have never given birth... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409371 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 12:36:58 +0000 ladyfingers 409371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aside from the obvious baby-related fears (baby won't be OK, something will happen to him), my biggest fears are:</p> <p>Induction<br /> C-section</p> <p>like many others! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409042 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:56:45 +0000 prettylizy 409042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was terrified of tearing-- after having given a med free birth, it seems like such a silly thing now. In the moment, it doesn't matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409032 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:52:01 +0000 Mrsbells 409032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My biggest fear was still birth. </p> <p>Followed by<br /> c-section<br /> induction </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-409028 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:50:08 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 409028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Currently, I have a lot of fears about it - episiotomy, tearing in general, ring of fire, epidural, placenta birth, c-section, puking, pooping, etc.. But I have 26 weeks to get over it and relax about it so I'm hoping that happens! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-408996 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:34:24 +0000 Bookish 408996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm terrified that the baby will be in distress, or that I will need an emergency C-section, something like that. Before I got pregnant, I was worried about how I could avoid pooping, but now that I am, I'm really more worried about something going really wrong :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-408986 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:28:22 +0000 Lindsay05 408986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was always afraid that my baby would come out looking like an alien or distorted. It was weird! But I also had recurrent dreams that I gave birth to a kitten so that may explain the weirdness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-408960 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:10:45 +0000 mrs. wagon 408960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: ya, they sucked. But honestly looking back they didn't affect me in any way long term and I'm just happy both babies were born perfectly healthy. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-408818 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 00:59:35 +0000 HLK208 408818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Health issues with the baby. I can take a lot of physical pain more than emotional pain of losing my LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth/page/2#post-408814 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 00:23:50 +0000 jaguar 408814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After seeing an episode of the UK One Born Every Minute, I'm scared of baby stalling &amp; shoulder distocia. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408806 Wed, 21 Nov 2012 00:02:16 +0000 autumnlove 408806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: omg, your anesthesia issues sound so scary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408736 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 22:36:08 +0000 autumnlove 408736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Ya, happy and healthy was covered in the original post! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408735 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 22:35:36 +0000 Arden 408735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: That would suck. I have heard though that it is better to have a baby via c-section after laboring as opposed to a scheduled c-section, because the labor prepares the baby for birth and it isn't such a huge shock to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408734 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 22:35:33 +0000 mrs. wagon 408734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was scared of tearing but mostly terrified of a stillbirth. I was also scared of the possibility of a c-section-- more specifically, the anesthesia involved. My MIL claims she was put under general anesthesia for both her c-sections so she was "asleep" but she remembers everything, could feel everything, but could not talk or scream. </p> <p>I had horrible anesthesia experiences (3 failed epidurals with first, dural puncture with second which turned into spinal headache and a blood patch) but honestly, I am so so so thankful to look back and know that both my deliveries were awesome for my babies (not even any meconium or cords wrapped around anything for either!!) and I'm VERY HAPPY that I'm done. Quit while you're ahead, right?? ;D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408730 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 22:28:49 +0000 Mrs. Blue 408730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Assuming safe babies is a given, then pushing out one baby successfully and then having to have a c-section for the second. The double whammy scares the beegeesus out of me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408718 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 22:16:28 +0000 Running Elley 408718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was terrified of something happening that would cause the baby to die during birth. Placental abruption and cord prolapse terrified me. None of the gross/pain parts really scared me- I knew it would be worth it as long as LO was safe and healthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408714 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 22:10:57 +0000 Springtime 408714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was terrified of getting the epidural even though I knew I wanted it! I hate needles! Terrified of having have a C-section, and terrified of pooping while pushing! Luckily everything went smoothly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408696 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:50:00 +0000 heffalump 408696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My epi would fail me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408690 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:45:27 +0000 .twist. 408690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely tearing... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408685 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:43:49 +0000 photojane 408685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>placental abruption and hemorrhaging! i have a cord abnormality that increases my chances for heavy bleeding during/after labor, and it's terrifying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408678 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:38:20 +0000 Andrea 408678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Induction and c-section. For this second time, I also have a fear of getting another infection in my uterus pp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408672 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:34:28 +0000 dagret 408672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't even think about any of the super bad stuff...so really I know there are lots of worse things than episiotomies that can happen, I just can't go there. </p> <p>My bff's daughter aspirated meconoum and was in the NICU- full term - for weeks.<br /> And I think sherry from YHL had both a placenta abrupt ion AND a cord prolapse - it's basically a miracle that she and Clara ended up OK. </p> <p>So scary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408599 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 20:51:36 +0000 Mrs. Pen 408599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: lol that was my biggest fear until I was actually in labor and then I just didn't even care anymore!! You are more concerned with getting through each contraction and getting the baby out than anything else that happens!!! I didn't poop while pushing but I felt like I had to the whole time and at that point I wanted the pressure gone so badly I didn't care if I did or not!! haha.</p> <p>My biggest fear was not being able to deliver at my birth center - which ended up happening because I had pre-e. I was upset I couldn't move during labor, or have a water birth or anything so that totally sucked. I had a great experience overall though...</p> <p>I think for my next one I'm scared to get pre-e again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408598 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 20:51:33 +0000 Ree723 408598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was petrified, absolutely petrified, of LO having the cord around her neck. I know 1 in 3 babies have the cord around their neck and it's not usually an issue, but I was terrified of it. Fortunately, it didn't happen.</p> <p>I was also terrified of tearing - but with an epi, I never even felt my second degree tear, nor did I feel the stitches afterwards. Recovery was pretty easy as well.</p> <p>Now with future children, I am petrified that I'll have to have a c-section. Before DD was born, I thought I wouldn't mind having one if the situation required it, but now, knowing what I'd be missing out on (actually pushing her out and getting the immediate skin to skin time), I'd be devastated and scared out of my mind if I had to have a c-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408595 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 20:49:30 +0000 blackbird 408595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo, that's exactly the story i was thinking of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408594 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 20:46:50 +0000 tororojo 408594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you ever read Young House Love's birth story? She had a placental abruption and it horrifies me: <a href="http://www.younghouselove.com/2011/04/claras-birth-story/" rel="nofollow">http://www.younghouselove.com/2011/04/claras-birth-story/</a> </p> <p>Other than something crazy like that, tearing doesn't sound fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/biggest-fear-about-childbirth#post-408593 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 20:46:15 +0000 blackbird 408593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anything dangerous for the baby. Ripping aft to stern doesn't sound pleasant, but my main concerns are that she dies in childbirth or something equally horrific. The pain/gross aspect of birth doesn't really phase me too much. </p>