https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 03:13:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823897 Mon, 21 May 2018 22:34:10 +0000 Alexandra603 2823897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: agree, in my experience most people who actually come RSVP quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823840 Mon, 21 May 2018 14:57:39 +0000 looch 2823840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am only slow to RSVP if I have to call someone for it. If you send me an evite or tell me that texts are okay on the number you provided, I pretty much respond right away. I have had similar experiences when I was planning, I would send out the email and I would get the most responses right in the first few hours after sending. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823837 Mon, 21 May 2018 14:49:36 +0000 PinkElephant 2823837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: yikes! It used to be like that when we still lived in the city where my oldest was born - June/July were insane with bump club events! I also just realized that 5/10 girls in her class are June/early July birthdays! With 7 kindergarten classes, you have to wonder how that happened!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823835 Mon, 21 May 2018 14:47:42 +0000 macintosh 2823835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave it. I invited a lot of kids from DS's class assuming that most wouldn't show, but we ended up with 9 kids! (2 and 3-year-olds) I wouldn't be too surprised that ppl wait to the last minute to RSVP. I had to change time and location for my son's party, so I just slipped a note in the cubbies of the kids whose parent's I wasn't already in contact with. All but one texted or called me to RSVP at least a week before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823828 Mon, 21 May 2018 14:26:31 +0000 Mrsbells 2823828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave it. Parties are tough some years everyone rsvps yes and other years you only get a handful. I would only reschedule if your child really wants a bigger crowd </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823825 Mon, 21 May 2018 14:04:27 +0000 Ajsmommy 2823825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd leave it as is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823820 Mon, 21 May 2018 13:57:51 +0000 NorthStar 2823820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I would leave it too. It's at a different time than the other party and I'm sure the kids would love to go more than once if they were invited to both! I wouldn't worry too much and like someone else said, if you changed it, what if you had a conflict that day as well? it's going to be impossible to find a time that works for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823819 Mon, 21 May 2018 13:56:22 +0000 NorthStar 2823819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I agree. We are not inviting the whole class to DD's 6th birthday party. It would just be too much and this stressed mama would not be able to handle 25 kids. So, we are limiting her to 6, since she will be turning 6. The rule is that you send them in the mail and we received the whole class's address list at the beginning of the school year.</p> <p>I also know that DD has been invited to several birthday parties where only a few of the kids were invited. I can't imagine going to all these birthday parties and buying for kids that I don't even know what they look like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823816 Mon, 21 May 2018 13:47:31 +0000 skipra 2823816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope it works out! Last year we had LO's party the same days as one of the kids in his playgroup but everyone made it to both parties. If only a few of the kids were invited to the other party then it probably shouldn't be a big deal anyway, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823809 Mon, 21 May 2018 13:17:03 +0000 Truth Bombs 2823809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I would leave it. Lots of people are slow to RSVP. And honestly, my husband and I would take our kids to both of these parties. We'd go grab some food or something in between the two and our daughter would think it was a super fun day! Better than two back to back parties on opposite sides of town! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823808 Mon, 21 May 2018 13:16:03 +0000 Truth Bombs 2823808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I've had multiple play space parties for my daughter and not invited the whole class. I always send out invitations in to mail so they are not distributed at school. I don't think that's strange at all. Those parties are expensive and inviting a child that I don't know and my daughter doesn't have a close friendship with seems odd since I'm paying for their ticket, they are buying her a present, and I can't even name one of their parents. Plus we invite lots of friends from outside of her class and it would just be too many kids to handle if we invited all 23 classmates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823806 Mon, 21 May 2018 13:13:40 +0000 Truth Bombs 2823806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I totally feel you on the need for coordinating. My friends and I are apparently super weird and all have fall babies born Sept-Dec so it is like a very well orchestrated dance to schedule all the parties without conflict!! November is the absolute worst because we have 11/17, two on 11/20, 11/24, 11/26 and Thanksgiving to work around (and two of those dates are my kids so it's double confusing for me!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823800 Mon, 21 May 2018 12:41:24 +0000 alphagam84 2823800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd leave it and not worry about it. Maybe email the people you haven't heard from yet to remind them to RSVP </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823752 Mon, 21 May 2018 10:37:25 +0000 PinkElephant 2823752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I'm sorry this happened to you. Last year, on the morning I was planning to send out the e-vites for DD1's 5th birthday, an invitation for a classmate's birthday arrived in my inbox. I got a pit in my stomach, worried there would be a date/time conflict, and rushed to get ours out as well so that people wouldn't quickly accept his, then decline ours because they didn't want to do two parties in one weekend. It turned out his was the day before, and both parties had great attendance. </p> <p>I was a bit miffed, because I always try to look at the class birthday list and speak to parents whose kids' birthdays are close to mine to avoid this kind of conflict - maybe that's over the top, but parties are expensive and you have to pay the deposit so far in advance...it just seems kind of smart to me to give a heads up! This kid's birthday was actually 2 months LATER (his mom didn't want to throw a party just before school started and he didn't know his new classmates), so I was caught really off guard and hadn't checked in with her to coordinate on party timing. I have one friend who I always coordinate with because my middle daughter and her eldest daughter have birthdays very close together, so at least for now, a lot of our guest lists overlap, and we don't want to screw up each other's parties.</p> <p>I've definitely shuttled my kids to more than one party on the same day. And honestly, being in one place makes it that much easier to attend both. It's disappointing to you as the parent, but I don't think the kids will care, so I wouldn't stress. And hey! :) At least your LO's party is first!! :) :) Most places I have hosted parties won't let you reschedule for any reason, including illness (I KNOW, right?!?!?!) but I wonder if given the circumstances they'd offer any accommodation, like letting you not serve pizza and taking that off your bill, or replacing it with snacks instead.</p> <p>Lastly, ditto what everyone else says on the RSVPs...people tend to hold out til the last minute, in my experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823745 Mon, 21 May 2018 10:14:09 +0000 Mommy Finger 2823745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1's 4th birthday party was held on the same day as another classmates. Thankfully, hers was in the morning and ours was in the afternoon. She didn't invite the entire class and it was held at her home. We were able to go to hers but she wasn't able to go to ours. All of the other kids that were invited to hers did make it to ours plus all of the others invited (obviously not all but you get it). It wasn't that big of a deal for us. As a parent, I would have no problem taking my kid to two parties on the same day at the same place. I mean, those places aren't super fun for me anyways so I don't see that much difference in both parties being in the same place or different places. I know that most people didn't rsvp until the very end so I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you think you're not getting responses, you can either give people an extra copy of the invite or send email reminders. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823732 Mon, 21 May 2018 09:30:04 +0000 mediagirl 2823732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd let it be. The other parent probably only invited a select few children but it is strange both parties are at the same place, near the same time. I would just enjoy the party at the time it is with the kids who decide to show up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823697 Mon, 21 May 2018 05:48:13 +0000 cat620 2823697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: I thought it was strange too that the other parent didn’t contact me, but then I thought maybe it would be awkward for her since she didn’t invite us to the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823696 Mon, 21 May 2018 04:46:44 +0000 Becky 2823696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave it. This kind of situation is crummy and having a wall with all the birthdays on it very visible in DD’s classroom makes it easier for parents to check in with each other when scheduling parties which after one mix up they definitely do now (there are several sets of kids sharing the same bday weekends in November and December and no overlapping parties this year). This happened with 2 girls in her room: one parent put out the invitations very early in the morning, the other mom came in and saw them, contacted the first mom, and they combined the parties. This way they were able to invite the entire class and split the cost. One parent had planned on inviting everyone and the other hadn’t so it worked well. Play places can be expensive—we did DD’s at the same place and couldn’t invite the whole class. It was a flat rate for 8 kids, $18 for each additional kid, and there are like 22 kids. These moms weren’t the kind whose kids hung out outside of school so I was impressed they came together to do this. Also it is SO strange the other parent planning a party or a few others who were invited haven’t contacted you. That would be my first thing: just a simple text “Hey, just wanted to let you know we were invited to a party for Sally the same day and got the invites last week.” </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823684 Sun, 20 May 2018 21:44:13 +0000 Alexandra603 2823684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, what a crummy situation. I am always nervous people won't show up - birthday parties are so tricky! I think if you have at least 3 friends who will definitely attend I would go ahead (maybe text a couple of your mom friends letting them know how it would mean a lot if they could make it). Otherwise, I'd probably reschedule. I know if someone take the time to reach out via text/person or write a little note on the invite I am much more inclined to make a effort to attend (in the case of the kids at school whose parents I don't really know). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823683 Sun, 20 May 2018 21:36:09 +0000 lamariniere 2823683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just leave it. While it's really unfortunately that the parties are the same day, at least they aren't at the same time. Even if you reschedule, there's no guarantee that someone else isn't having a party on the new date. Also, I really doubt at that age that the other family is singling out just one kid out of a class of 20 not to invite. Maybe they only invited half the class or 5-6 kids. Personally, at 5, I wouldn't mind my LO going to two back to back parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823681 Sun, 20 May 2018 21:31:46 +0000 Mama Bird 2823681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: the same exact thing happened at DS's 5th birthday party. We only invited a few kids from school, and half of them didn't RSVP. It turned out one of the girls had a party on the same day. He kept asking me if they've said they're coming, so when he found out what the story was he actually felt better, and thought it was pretty funny.</p> <p>The party was still fun! It wasn't just the school kids, there were also other friends and most of them were able to come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823679 Sun, 20 May 2018 21:18:46 +0000 Alba4 2823679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d Reschedule and send an evite. I think some kids don’t get paper invitations especially if they are distributed in cubbies at school. </p> <p>My son and another boy in his class last year had a bday party scheduled for the same day. It sucked and was awkward... I wasn’t sure what to do since I happened to send the paper invites before she sent her invites. She emailed me privately to let me known the situation. Anyway, it all worked out and she rescheduled since she didn’t want to have kids not show up (her time was weird too at like 5:30 PM for a 4 year old party). </p> <p>I totally get feeling nervous no one will attend the party so be to sure, reschedule it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823677 Sun, 20 May 2018 21:14:30 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2823677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t think you should reschedule. If it’s still a few weeks away, you have time to get more RSVPs. Also, I think it’s very common to get maybe 5-7 attendees out of a class of 20. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823645 Sun, 20 May 2018 17:25:36 +0000 bhbee 2823645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: that’s a tough one. How much do you think your son cares about the people there? Are there maybe 1-2 good friends that would be there regardless?</p> <p>My daughter got bad croup the night before her 4th bday and we had to cancel. I knew it would be way too hard to reschedule, so we didn’t even try, I just texted cancellations. She was still pretty shy at that point and was very happy to have the special decorations and treats with her little bro in our dining room. This year at 6 the friends would have really mattered though. At her 5th we had a small party anyway and it was a smaller handful she really played with. But depending on personality a small party might be just fine!</p> <p>ETA that party we cancelled we got everything back ($) since it was at a city Rec center. And i called them the day of! I wouldn’t have expected that from most venues but you never know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823641 Sun, 20 May 2018 16:32:19 +0000 cat620 2823641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: we did invite several non class friends, but since we sent out the invitations a couple days ago, we haven’t gotten many RSVPs yet. It’s hard to tell how many will show up </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823640 Sun, 20 May 2018 16:30:57 +0000 cat620 2823640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: @bhbee: Since we sent out paper invites, we would either have to send out new invites to everyone or create an evite. Not saying we can’t do that, but it’s extra work. Also, I’m not sure if the party venue has availability the next weekend, or if they charge a fee to change, but I could ask. I don’t want to go through all the effort if people still aren’t able to come for whatever reason. Birthday parties are so tricky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823639 Sun, 20 May 2018 16:17:37 +0000 bhbee 2823639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry that really sucks. On multiple fronts. But given you can’t change it ... I would reschedule if you think it will work. We’ve had parties rescheduled for illness and it’s no big deal (and the other parents would probably appreciate it). But I think leaving it is also fine if that works better for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823637 Sun, 20 May 2018 15:45:24 +0000 Anagram 2823637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: well, all I can say is that super, super sucks for you and your kiddo. Who would have a play space party but not invite their whole class?</p> <p>Can you reschedule? Do you have a lot of non-class friends and family to invite? I don't know what I'd do, but I'm really sad you are in this position. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-conflict-help#post-2823634 Sun, 20 May 2018 15:19:09 +0000 cat620 2823634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is turning 5 and is having a birthday party next month at a local children’s party place. We invited his whole preschool class of 20 kids and a few other friends via paper invitations. Well we’ve only gotten a couple RSVPs and one was from a mom who is a friend of mine at the school. She said her son can go, but he’s also going to another classmate’s party (we’ll call him H) later that day. I was so surprised, because I had no idea another kid in my son’s class was having a party the same day. And the crazy part is my son’s party is from 12-2 and H’s party is from 3-5 at the exact same place! There’s no way other parents are going to want to spend 4 hours at back to back parties like that. My friend asked if we got the invite to the other party that was sent out via email a few days before ours, and I said no. Then she said after looking at it again, it looks like not everyone in the class was invited to H’s party. I don’t know if just my son wasn’t invited or if it was more than that. I didn’t want to ask too many questions. But now I don’t know what to do. Do I reschedule my son’s party so hopefully his classmates will come? Should I leave it, since I wasn’t supposed to know about the other party anyway? What would you do? </p>