https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 09:17:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881827 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 15:11:31 +0000 ElbieKay 2881827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I had the same thought! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881821 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 14:12:35 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2881821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: yep, I get it. I wonder if she could have just as easily brought along the family and just met up with them after the party? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881810 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 12:52:22 +0000 ElbieKay 2881810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: The other mom had not replied to my invitation at all despite me sending several emails about it. I met her for the first time at birthday party for another member of the class, so I mentioned it to her because I didn't want her daughter to be excluded.</p> <p>When I mentioned the invitation, she pulled up her phone and read the evite in front of me. Then she immediately asked if the limitation was due to space or cost, and if the latter could she just pay to bring more people. She wanted to bring the rest of her family and make a day of it at our venue (a museum).</p> <p>Since she asked me bluntly in person I felt very put on the spot and pressured to be accommodating. If it was someone who knew my son, I might have felt better about adding more headcount. I also would have felt differently if she had a logistical challenge for instance if she no childcare available for her other child.</p> <p>I'm sure other attendees felt that way about the venue -- that it would be nice to make it a family event -- but it would have gotten complicated and awkward for me to open up the party for everyone to add guests. And once the headcount exceeded 50 I would have had to pay an additional fee for a third host from the venue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881801 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 11:58:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2881801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: can you share a bit more why the mom annoyed you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881797 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 11:20:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2881797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a 30-person limit at my son's birthday party this year. The numbers worked a bit better since he had 14 kids in his class plus two others we wanted to invite from outside of class. We also had the option to pay per person over 30, but it was pricey so we did not want to leave the RSVPs open-ended.</p> <p>I just stated on the evite: "The party size is limited so this invitation is for one child and one adult."</p> <p>People were generally respectful about it. We did have one family RSVP for two parents, but it was for a child with autism. So I let it slide. Another mom I did not even know asked if she could pay extra to bring her husband and other daughter. I was kind of annoyed that she was so forward about it, but they wound up cancelling completely so it was a non issue.</p> <p>We also invited my parents and my sister (who declined), and obviously both me and my husband attended. So, the max possible number of guests was 37 including the extra parent. Three kids declined in addition to my sister, so we wound up with exactly 30! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881794 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 11:04:56 +0000 graceandjoy 2881794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being at a pool I would absolutely understand the limit (as I would other places, but I guess even more so at a pool party). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881764 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 07:48:10 +0000 Jess1483 2881764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @misolee: 20 on the premises. </p> <p>Okay, feeling better about it—thanks, all. It looks like on evite, I can limit it so only two people can rsvp per family. I think I’ll do that as well :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881761 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 06:31:18 +0000 Foodnerd81 2881761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been invited to multiple parties which states “due to space co strained, no siblings are invited” and one that said only one parent due to space. I never thought twice about it. I do agree that as the teacher you kind of have to invite all. </p> <p>Also I laughed about changing his mind about eating while he’s chewing :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881759 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 05:41:18 +0000 misolee 2881759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it 20 people inside the pool? Or in the party premise?</p> <p>We’re having a pool party at a local swim place for my LO this year. It’s 20 people in the pool for us bc that’s the hired lifeguard ratio to ppl in the pool. Outside, it doesn’t matter how many come. </p> <p>If that’s the case, you can state something like swimming is limited to invited child and parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881752 Tue, 23 Apr 2019 03:31:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2881752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just to clarify is there a limit on the number of people on the pool deck or actually in the pool?</p> <p>For the invitation- “ Due to capacity constraints we must limit adult chaperones to one for each invited little guest and can not accommodate siblings. “</p> <p>Then, when people call just quickly go over the math for them like you did for us and be confident in your decision that you are giving your son the pool party he desires the best way you know how. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881746 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 23:09:01 +0000 ALV91711 2881746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I think you will need to state it clearly on the invite. I’d think most families would be understanding. </p> <p>At any parties we’ve thrown for DS only the invited kid and one parent has shown up. The one time a sibling and both parents came the mom asked when she rsvp’d. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881741 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 22:40:09 +0000 MamaBear87 2881741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: then I'd just put "due to space constraints or the rules of the venue we are only allowed a limited number of guests. This invite is just for Kiddo's friends and one parent. We thank you so much for understanding. Kiddo is so looking forward to seeing you!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881739 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 22:36:18 +0000 Jess1483 2881739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: We can technically go to 25 ($10 per each additional). If truly every child and parent came, I'd be okay with the additional $40. But I have one student who I'm fairly sure would not come, and generally speaking I'm willing to take that chance, just not one where we actually have to turn someone away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881736 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 22:25:17 +0000 MamaBear87 2881736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just state bluntly that unfortunately there is a limit on people allowed and the invite is only for named child and one parent. Although inviting the whole class could still put you over if everyone can come so not sure what the best plan is </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/birthday-party-numbers#post-2881734 Mon, 22 Apr 2019 22:07:35 +0000 Jess1483 2881734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, my nearly 4 year-old, who changes his mind about eating while he’s chewing ;) is dead set on having his birthday party at a local hotel that has a swimming pool and water slides. He has been set on this for 3 months. </p> <p>So, here’s the dilemma. The pool only allows 20 people at a party, max. His preschool class has 11 kids, some with siblings. To complicate things a bit more than usual, I’m the teacher of the class. So choosing part of the class feels even worse than it would if it was just about his classmates and not about my students. This also means I know the families well, which I think generally means they’re more likely to come than usual. </p> <p>But, starting with our family of 4 (I’m fairly sure they won’t count the 1 month-old), that’s only 16 “spots” left for 10 kids and parents. Surely some won’t be able to come, but I’m also a little scared that child, both parents, and little sister show up. A couple of families do this and we’re at our limit. </p> <p>So...what would you do? He’d rather have the party there with two close friends than move it (which I’m willing to do), but I’d like to have more friends there. Does anyone have awesome wording for the invitation about limiting the number of people coming? Or other sage advice? </p>