https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 21:45:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839731 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 16:10:24 +0000 Sams Mom 2839731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: Depends on if you're north or south of I-44 in Missouri :P We have had 60 degree days for a week and then snow and ice the next week over the last few winters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839727 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 15:55:27 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2839727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: I'm sure you will be fine - and you could bring a shawl to cover your shoulders if you get there, look around, and decide you feel uncomfortable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839714 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 14:34:51 +0000 psw27 2839714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yes, I'd imagine its going to be freezing! Although, black tie at least means my legs get to be covered! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839713 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 14:34:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 2839713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: you can also bring a shawl to cover up and keep warm in church- I’m sure you’ll need something anyway. In dec. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839706 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 14:12:42 +0000 psw27 2839706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLonghorn: That is sort of part of what I'm thinking about! What if my dress is too "revealing" for a church setting (not that I anticipate cutouts or anything crazy! It's December in Missouri and I've had 2 children so my stomach will certainly be covered!) It just seems so flashy to wear a strapless evening gown to church, but I guess I got married in a strapless gown at a church! </p> <p>@looch: I'd probably just a wear a simple long sleeved dress to the church and then change into something more "evening" attire for the celebration part. </p> <p>I'll probably just wear my evening gown to church... Since it's winter, it will be close to dark/evening anyway at 4 pm. Ugh. Winter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839703 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 13:53:40 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2839703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I attended a Catholic mass wedding with a 90 minute break before the reception. It was a 2 hour drive away but we weren't staying in a hotel that night, so we had nowhere to go...we drove to IKEA in our church attire, shopped a bit, and I changed clothes in a remote section of the parking lot. :silly: </p> <p>However, I will say that I was totally shocked when relatives of the bride/groom got up for readings during the ceremony, and the 2 cousins stood on the pulpit (is that the right word?) wearing a neon pink + rhinestone prom dress with cutouts all around her mid-section so you could see her back/belly, and the other girl was wearing a strapless mini-dress, without any sort of shawl or cover.</p> <p>I am not a modest person at all, but I am also not Catholic and so I was hyper-aware of my appearance and behavior at this wedding, and concerned about being "appropriate".... there were plenty of people who did not change clothes, but managed to pick formal attire that was not as flashy or revealing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839699 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 13:42:07 +0000 Alba4 2839699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like there isn’t too much down time between the church service and the cocktail hour. I’d just wear the formal dress to the church. You can always grab a drink at the hotel bar in between. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839664 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 12:20:14 +0000 DesertDreams88 2839664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wear to both </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839632 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 10:08:34 +0000 Sams Mom 2839632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister went to a Greek Orthodox wedding a couple years ago that was black tie; everyone wore their formal wear to the church. The reception was at a hotel about 20 minutes away, with about an hour between ceremony ending and reception starting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839630 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 10:06:09 +0000 Jennibenni 2839630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wear gown to both </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839622 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:51:08 +0000 looch 2839622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What would you wear to the church if you were to change into your gown for the reception?</p> <p>That would be my deciding factor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839621 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:47:11 +0000 bloved 2839621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just went to a black tie wedding in June with a mass beforehand and it was a mix of both at the church. I just wore my gown to both for ease. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839619 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:43:52 +0000 snowjewelz 2839619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it would just depend then! I'd probably just go in my gown even if everything is close together. But if you have absolutely nothing to do for an hour and might head back to hotel anyway, then maybe change? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839618 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:38:46 +0000 psw27 2839618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Hotel, church and reception are all within 1 mile radius of each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839616 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:33:28 +0000 rattles 2839616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had two of those this summer and almost everyone wore their gowns to both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839615 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:29:12 +0000 snowjewelz 2839615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How far are the venues from each other? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839614 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:29:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2839614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: I think you will see some people change but many will just come in their fancy gowns. So I would do whatever is most comfortable for you, but if you aren’t planning to go home/ hotel in between otherwise, just wear the same dress. I went to a black tie wedding in NY that was similar timing and it was probably half and half with women who changed or not. (I did because I had to go back and breastfeed in the hotel before the reception anyway!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839613 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:23:08 +0000 psw27 2839613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Ok thanks! I was worried I'd be the only one walking into church in an evening gown. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839612 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:21:01 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2839612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: I attended a black tie wedding in Miami. The church service was a hour long Catholic mass followed by an outdoor reception at a botanical garden. I wore my fancy gown the entire time. With the ceremony and reception times being so close together I doubt the bride is expecting guests change their clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/black-tie-wedding-1#post-2839611 Tue, 14 Aug 2018 09:14:16 +0000 psw27 2839611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a black tie wedding coming up in December. The reception is at 6 p.m. at a private club. The ceremony is at 4 p.m. in a church. I've never had a black tie wedding that started with a church ceremony before - do you wear your black tie outfit to the church? Or do you change in between (since there will be about an hour between events? </p>