https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 02:19:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-770632 Thu, 09 May 2013 14:40:56 +0000 lilyann 770632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh! I do this all the time :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-770629 Thu, 09 May 2013 14:40:46 +0000 runsyellowlites 770629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I should update this!</p> <p>Since finding myself in this moment of being mad at DH for 20 minutes for something that he didn't do, and recognizing it in myself, I've taken to praying much more about &amp; really trying to let that part of me DIE! </p> <p>Even if he's not around for me to "take it out" on him, I'm tired of being upset all within myself! Hopefully over the coming weeks &amp; months I can let things roll of my back more quickly &amp; easily! And hopefully that will help change the tone for our whole family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-770625 Thu, 09 May 2013 14:39:51 +0000 Modern Daisy 770625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not that I shift blame, it's just that nothing is ever my fault ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-770620 Thu, 09 May 2013 14:38:21 +0000 loveisstrange 770620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is HORRIBLE about this. Makes me so mad! I do it too, but he's much worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-770613 Thu, 09 May 2013 14:37:42 +0000 MrsTiz 770613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I do this. Often. Sorry DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-770600 Thu, 09 May 2013 14:35:51 +0000 StbHisMrs 770600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will do this too, sometimes I'm verbal about it and other times I just stew about in my head! </p> <p>My husband on the other hand has perfected the art of blame shifting and can turn anything and everything into my fault. It drives me insane, he's doing it right at this very second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-763426 Mon, 06 May 2013 12:07:37 +0000 MrsRoo 763426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely am, and I hate it! Had a very similar situation when I broke our brand new crockpot after I washed it because he left it "soaking" in the sink for 3 days instead of just washing the darn thing in the first place.</p> <p>Haha, at least your DH was okay with it, although I know that it makes you feel worse. Mine still teases me about the crockpot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/blameshifting-do-you-do-this#post-763396 Mon, 06 May 2013 11:54:06 +0000 runsyellowlites 763396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll admit I am HORRIBLE about doing this internally &amp; lately it's been a common tone in our home, with all of us (G included). </p> <p>To be completely honest, I JUST did this when *I* broke a sentimental glass that DH &amp; I used for communion in our wedding. *I* am the one that knocked it off the counter while putting up some clean dishes, but *he* is the only one that uses it for regular drinking. I know DH will be a bit upset when I tell him (I'm generally the clumsy one &amp; only one that breaks things) but I couldn't help be mad at *him* while I swept it up... even though it was ME that broke it. Sigh</p> <p>I'm generally really good at not verbally shifting blame BUT I know that my thoughts &amp; feelings definitely dictate my reactions &amp; demeanor towards the one I've "shifted blame to". Gotta get better about that!</p> <p>So are you a Blameshifter? Is your DH?</p> <p>ETA: DH told me "Ok no biggie". Now I really feel like a butt! Grrrr. lol </p>