https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 01:25:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927024 Mon, 09 May 2022 15:05:41 +0000 Miss Ariel 2927024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not book related, but we’ve recently implemented privileges with our two (7 and 4). Their current privileges are dessert, picking a tv show after school, bedtime story/game, and light (keeping a light on after bedtime to read/look at books quietly).</p> <p>They still come home from school on colors, so if they come home on yellow they loose a privilege, but can pick which one they want it to be. Or based on actual behavior at home, may loose one.</p> <p>It’s been working since there’s still some choice for them, and it’s actual changes we can implement and execute (unlike canceling events which can be a lot harder!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927008 Sun, 08 May 2022 11:03:28 +0000 Cait1 2927008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also recommend 1,2,3 Magic! We were having major behavioral issues with my 6 year old and it was very effective for us. Very simple and quick read. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927006 Fri, 06 May 2022 14:23:16 +0000 MamaCate 2927006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: I think you got some great advice above. I also wanted to suggest the work of Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, who use a lot of attachment and science to explain how parents need to set consistent boundaries and reflect on areas of challenge for themselves to avoid reactivity or inconsistent responding. I would probably suggest “no drama discipline” to start with as it is most specific. </p> <p>I also take the view that kids need grown ups to be nurturing, protective, responsive and consistent. There is a sense of relief and security that kids derive from knowing what to expect and that it is going to be the same (we always brush teeth before we read a story; we always eat our growing food before sweets) and seeing those expectations you set as helpful rather than harmful may help you shift your approach to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927005 Thu, 05 May 2022 19:41:32 +0000 Jess1483 2927005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like all of the suggestions above, but I also found 1, 2, 3 Magic to be helpful for breaking my yelling/talking too much habit. While I wanted to do the more calm discussion stuff, I found I needed a really clear step-by-step guide to stop the behavior and then we could talk more gently about it. This helped keep me from doing too much talking (and helped me and DH help each other with that as well.)</p> <p>Now that I'm typing it, I probably need to get back to it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927004 Thu, 05 May 2022 15:30:26 +0000 hitchhiker 2927004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m addition to many of the resources shady listed, I liked the book Hunt, Gather, Parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927003 Thu, 05 May 2022 14:01:48 +0000 SteelerGirl 2927003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bought the BigLittleFeelings toddler course and it's been amazing for us. Practical, reasonable ways to handle every toddler situation. Literal scripts- what to say, how to act, etc. And all the reasons why traditional parenting methods (time outs, punishment, shame) don't work. The best thing for us is getting me and my husband on the same page. Consistent parenting is sooo important! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927002 Thu, 05 May 2022 13:08:13 +0000 Chuckles 2927002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Aria: I also always recommend Janet Lansbury for parents of young children. I love her focus on setting boundaries in a loving and supportive way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927001 Thu, 05 May 2022 12:53:37 +0000 Aria 2927001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Resources I really like are the “How to talk so kids will listen (either version, but especially the little kid version), No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury (she has a podcast and IG/blog as well), and I love @themompsychologist on IG. She has so many videos, classes and lots of really helpful checklists/reminders. I wish I’d discovered her when my youngest was little. A lot of her stuff is free. </p> <p>And I agree with the previous poster, kids want and need boundaries. My kids do all those things (seriously, my 3 year old is in a huge throwing phase) and they cry when I tell them no. That is totally okay, and my kids know that I am there for them and I love them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2927000 Thu, 05 May 2022 12:25:05 +0000 caitcat 2927000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a book, but I really like the podcast Good Inside with Dr. Becky. </p> <p>I've also found the "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen &amp; Listen so Kids will Talk" books helpful. I think there's one that's more geared toward "little kids" for younger kids, ages 2-7. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2926999 Thu, 05 May 2022 11:38:51 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2926999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Check out @simplyonpurpose on IG. She has some amazing tips and using a lot of positive things instead of consequences </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2926998 Thu, 05 May 2022 11:04:10 +0000 erinbaderin 2926998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few things - you're absolutely not going to lose their love by disciplining them. They might not like you at times, and you're definitely going to make them cry, but they're always going to love you, it's clear from all your posts how much you love and care for your kids. You're raising them to be good adults, and sometimes that's not fun for them (or for you!) and you have to just know that they're going to yell "I HATE YOU!" and they don't mean it and they'll be ok in 15 minutes after they've thrown a bunch of stuff around in their room or stomped up the stairs or had a crying fit.</p> <p>I don't think 'threaten to tell dad' should be one of your resources, that's making your husband be the bad cop and pitting the two of you against each other, you need to be a team. </p> <p>Don't threaten anything you aren't going to follow through on. If you say you're going to do something, you have to be prepared to do it.</p> <p>I don't think there's one thing that's going to work for that age range, honestly. And I also think some of that just sounds like normal kid stuff and you're putting expectations on them that they can't support and reading bad intentions into things - they don't know you're running late, and they're not trying to slow you down on purpose. </p> <p>All that being said, I really found the book 1-2-3 Magic useful and intuitive for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/books-for-discipline-for-young-children#post-2926997 Thu, 05 May 2022 09:49:53 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2926997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am way too lenient with my three daughters, age 2, 4 and 7. They often do things like throw things at me, hit me, jump off of things, run around the house when I ask them not to. Stand on things that I ask them not to. They seem to purposely delay when it's time to go somewhere and we're running late. They make messes and don't clean them up. </p> <p>The only forms of "discipline" I use is threatening time out (which never actually happens), threatening to tell Dad (which sometimes happens) or threatening to cancel a fun planned event (which very rarely happens). </p> <p>I need a book or some other resources to help me understand how to take charge without emotionally hurting them. I hate to make them cry. I hate it when I lose my cool and yell. I just don't know what to do. I'm afraid too much discipline will make me lose their love. </p>