https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 16:49:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722747 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 08:31:55 +0000 gilmoregirl 2722747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: some strategic rough housing helps my son settle as well. Ideally, we'd spend the afternoon and evening outside but that's not always realistic. We do a good bit of rough housing and physical play in the evenings - my kid likes to do what he calls "attack hugs" where he runs at us and jumps in our arms. The goal is to "fall is down" which is usually what he yells while running at us. Lots of bouncing onto the couch or bed - he does "tall man" where he climbs up onto my knees and flops backward onto the couch or bed. He comes up with silly ideas with some encouragement from me or DH and it lets him be silly and physical and get some of that energy out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722709 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 07:49:30 +0000 bhbee 2722709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I really like the physical play idea. I want to help him deal with his afternoon crazies not just discipline him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722659 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 03:21:18 +0000 Kemma 2722659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I've read the same strategy about physical play and rough-housing and I do think it works!</p> <p>@bhbee: just an idea but have you thought about reducing the amount of preservatives / additives etc that your wee guy might be eating? My brother was a borderline hyperactive child but was almost a different kid once Mum worked out which foods and additives were triggers for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722647 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 23:04:32 +0000 gingerbebe 2722647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 2.5. We had a lot of tantrums around 2 years old and we instituted a timeout chair in the formal living room. What we did was pick him up, put him in the chair, but sat next to him while he had the fit (leaving him there just got him to leave and then it spiraled into a second argument). </p> <p>Once he calms a little bit, I tell him what I expected of him and what I did not want him to do. Then I ask him if he understood. He has to say "yes" or "okay Mommy" Then I make him apologize for whatever he did wrong. Then I say "I forgive you" and then offer a hug and say "I love you very much." We do this as many times as necessary.</p> <p>Now at 2.5, I will ask him if he needs a timeout. He can either fix it, or we go to the chair. Usually now he doesn't flip out completely and wail unless he's in major trouble. Instead he kinda fake cries or snuffles or just sits there and listens to me correct him and calms down a bit. </p> <p>One thing that really helps him settle is physical interactive play. Not just getting him outside and running around (which is important), but physical play that involves touching from me or my husband. Wrestling, throwing him over our shoulder and spinning, hanging him upside down, tickle fights, blowing raspberries, etc. We play a game called "Jaws" where DH or I sing the theme from "Jaws" and make pincer hands and chase him around the house while he screams until he "catch" him. We also do something called "Hug Monster" and we "attack" him out of nowhere and yell "HUG HUG HUG!!! HUG HUG HUG HUG!!" while squeezing him really tight and rolling him around. I also do a version with kisses where I tackle him and start kissing his face and yelling "I love you so much! I love you so much!" I don't know why, but these things really help.</p> <p>Also, we have a strict predictable evening routine and use a kitchen timer for transitions if he's lagging over something. That way when he has a tantrum, we try to reason with him by saying we do this every single night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722629 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 21:08:48 +0000 bhbee 2722629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: I put him to bed at 6:45 tonight, I was so done! Not helping my diet though to hit the Easter candy :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722626 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 20:32:40 +0000 bookwormmama 2722626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I used an outline because I've heard the book is a bit dry but it has really helped, even though we aren't as constant with it as the author tells you to be. The consequences we chose were the ones that seemed to bother him the most. He didn't care about most consequences, but he hates losing toys. He also seems to hate being shut in his room, even though timeouts in his crib were inaffective 🤷🏼‍♀️ I often give him a chance to earn the toy or activity back, but if he gets to another count of 3 he loses that chance and it is gone for the day.</p> <p>We started this after one particularly horrible night when we couldn't get him to calm down or listen to us at all. Since then I've noticed he stops and listens a lot more after he hears me tell him 1. We still get to 3 a lot, but I am impressed with how much it has helped.</p> <p>Also, we make sure to leave the house everyday (I SAH) and he does a physical activity (we live in the Midwest, so during the winter it is indoor mall playgrounds, McDonald's play places, etc). If he doesn't get enough energy out during the day he is a nightmare in the evenings and bedtimes can be bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722614 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 20:14:12 +0000 bhbee 2722614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bookwormmama: ordering now thanks! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722613 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 20:12:06 +0000 MrsSRS 2722613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mini trampoline? Earlier bedtime? Wine and chocolate for you 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722610 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 20:08:12 +0000 runnerd 2722610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Joining in to look for tips too, because - yea, that's my life too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722609 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 20:06:23 +0000 bookwormmama 2722609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been trying to do 123 Magic with my wild, energetic 3 yo. He sounds a lot like your son. Super sweet, but not a lot of control over his attention and emotions. He's not a great listener and has big emotions that cause physical outbursts when he doesn't get his way (he hits and bites us when we tell him no). If he doesn't listen we've been giving him 3 chances to follow directions or he loses a toy or activity for that day. If he hits or bites (or anything physical) after 3 counts he goes to his room for a timeout. He needs to be separated from us when he gets physical or he will continue to hit, etc.</p> <p>I like 123 Magic and I feel like it's helping him make better decisions. It really gives him the chance to correct his behavior before consequences kick in. It feels more "real life" to me since we as adults often get second chances to correct our behaviors. There is a book, but I think if you google it there are a lot of great outlines. You can also use it to encourage good behaviors, but the only thing we've done I that category is working on cleaning up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/booksmethods-for-wild-physical-2yo#post-2722600 Mon, 10 Apr 2017 19:48:38 +0000 bhbee 2722600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm out of my depth with my 2yo son. He is just so physical and wild (I've had a 2yo before but his sister was different!). I think right now he may be sleeping poorly from allergies so that's probably a factor but after nap into the evening he just loses it (he goes to bed by 7 usually). He can be crazy and physical anytime so I try to provide outlets for that as I can but esp as he gets tired it can get out of hand and we can't always be outside. </p> <p>My best idea for the moment is to gate off his room and give him calm down time in there when it gets too dangerous or destructive. Not sure it will work!</p> <p>Any books or methods that helped you with this stage? He's so sweet a lot of the time but his impulse control is, well, a 2yo boy's :happy: </p>