https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 20:00:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-864248 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 21:28:57 +0000 Maysprout 864248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The end of the talk was a little better but I just kept thinking whoa, this lady is making way too big of a deal out of pink and blue. But I do agree that trying to push only the 'opposite gender things' on kids just reinforces stigmas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-864040 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 19:30:02 +0000 MsLipGloss 864040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I agree . . . by trying not to make a big deal out of something it, in fact, becomes a big deal. *sigh* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-864026 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 19:27:44 +0000 immabeetoo 864026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I agree, but I wasn't sure how much of that was because I already seek out articles/work done on gender. I went to her blog/website and it seemed mostly like links to other articles. I wish I still had access to research databases to see some of the work she has (presumably) published on the topic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-864007 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 19:19:38 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 864007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a good talk, but it didn't really say much to me about solutions. I appreciate the comment about reinforcing the binary, though. I guess I wanted her to dig deeper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-863987 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 19:10:48 +0000 immabeetoo 863987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I think the fact that you as her parent acknowledge that different gender identities exist, makes it more likely that she is/will be :)</p> <p>@sorrycharlie: I disagree that it's "going overboard" by discussing gender - but I know what you mean, that's what stuck out to me most too that doing something that seems to be going against the pink/blue tidal wave actually just feeds into it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-863957 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 18:57:21 +0000 NovBaby1112 863957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>what an interesting video!!! it is really all so fascinating....it makes me think a lot about how i want to raise LO and any future LO's </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-863873 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 17:51:07 +0000 sorrycharlie 863873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I totally agree. I don't care what O is into, as long as she doesn't bully or hurt anyone else for their own choices. </p> <p>I sometimes think that by going overboard talking about genders, we do reinforce the stereotypes we're trying to ignore. Like, my brother liked my dolls when he was a toddler, so Santa brought him two of his own. But by telling that story, we're almost reinforcing information that even though he is a boy, he still could play with dolls (implying that dolls are inherently a "girl" toy). So confusing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-863783 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 17:06:27 +0000 loveisstrange 863783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is fascinating! I liked when she was talking about how us surrounding our kids with gendered items influencing their brain development. I think that makes sense. </p> <p>C wears pink and such but we are making an effort not to enforce gender stereotypes on her behaviors (ie. you're a girl, girls cant play guitar, etc). I will be happy as long as she is, at least, accepting and tolerant of other people's differing gender identities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/born-that-way-hyper-gendered-childhood#post-863734 Mon, 17 Jun 2013 16:31:55 +0000 immabeetoo 863734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a sociology major, and former "tomboy", I find myself fascinated by gender and kids... so this was interesting!</p> <p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jM-PNwUHEQ8&#038;feature=youtu.be" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jM-PNwUHEQ8&#038;feature=youtu.be</a></p> <p>I think the most valuable bits for me were at the end - talking about just switching the gender binary is reinforcing it all the same.</p> <p>Anyone else have thoughts on it? It was buzzing around my alumni FB page for a while back. </p>