https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 05:57:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350471 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 10:34:08 +0000 looch 2350471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it would be the person that can medicate that should take over the parenting duty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350412 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 09:57:13 +0000 yoursilverlining 2350412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A pregnant person out of work because of exhaustion gets an automatic pass - how is this even a question for your husband?? I think your husband should have taken over because you always are the one who seems to be required to step up. </p> <p>(not trying to be mean!) :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350397 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 09:43:43 +0000 travelgirl1 2350397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: that's how it works in our house too, whenever I get ill, he does at the same time so I never, ever get a rest day :sad: Hope you all feel better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350389 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 09:41:07 +0000 AggieDaze 2350389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: You are a trooper! </p> <p>I'm keeping my fingers crossed you don't catch the stomach virus your DH and LO had!! I had one at 36 weeks pregnant and it was seriously the most miserable I've ever felt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350184 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 06:56:34 +0000 JCCovi 2350184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is the biggest baby in the world when he's sick so I would always take care of the kids in any situation where he doesn't feel well. This winter we had a stomach bug that started with him and DD throwing up one night and then being weak the next day. I had to clean up after both of them and tend to them while also nursing and taking care of DS who was 3 weeks old. Two days later I got sick but DS was still feeling weak so he couldn't/wouldn't watch the kids for more then 30 minutes at a time. I would have to literally go from throwing up to feeding our daughter because he was so tired. I was so mad that we clearly had the exact same thing at different stages and he wasn't supporting me 1/10th of what I had for him.</p> <p>He's a great dad and husband when he's not sick, but man oh man I hate when he's sick! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350156 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 05:59:30 +0000 Cherrybee 2350156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: @AggieDaze: I was person A. Full of cold, chest infection but genuinely not as ill as DH so I took care of LO. </p> <p>I didn't mind - he was so weak still - but its so flipping typical, every time I am ill he comes down with something worse (genuinely, he is not faking). You'd think pregnant, anaemic, exhausted, full of cold and with a chest infection would guarantee me some rest! :wink: </p> <p>I love that so many of you think pregnancy should equal a free pass! :silly: I wish it worked that way in my household! I'm about to go and bleach the bathroom to get rid of DH's germs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2350112 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 00:25:03 +0000 lemondrop 2350112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We take turns throughout the day to give each other breaks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349959 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 21:33:34 +0000 AggieDaze 2349959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I'm dying to know which one you were. Full disclosure... I'd probably be pretty annoyed no matter which sickness I had if I was pregnant and had to take care of LO1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349892 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 20:46:38 +0000 PawPrints 2349892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnant person always gets a pass.</p> <p>DH and I both had a stomach virus last week, I worked from home and he took a sick day and cared for LO. But that was mostly because he was only a couple days back from paternity leave and therefore not hard up on any deadlines yet, whereas I was in crunch time on a project. I expect next time, it'll be me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349774 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 19:29:10 +0000 sarac 2349774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously the non pregnant person, for god's sake. But also I'd be doing a highly abbreviated version of whatever parenting was called for. I'd be putting on tv and ordering pizza without thinking twice about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349759 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 19:23:34 +0000 babypugs 2349759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, I see both cases, but still think the pregnancy is the trump card! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349737 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 19:10:30 +0000 MoonMoon 2349737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would be a whole different question if I were pregnant! But in our current situation, I think we'd both kind of do it, but not well, if that makes sense! Like, he'd have canned soup for dinner, no bath, and a late bedtime, haha.</p> <p>Feel better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349725 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 18:56:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2349725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnancy sick person gets a pass!<br /> Are you person B haha?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349629 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 17:14:43 +0000 Ms. RV 2349629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Diarrhea is the trump card. Hard to take care of a LO if you have to suddenly run to the toilet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349600 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:41:14 +0000 AggieDaze 2349600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm that's a tough one. Typically, I'd say stomach virus beats out cold/fever virus because it's really hard to watch a toddler when you have to bolt to the bathroom at a seconds notice. Also, typically the cold viruses in our house don't come with high fevers and if you don't have proof (ie vomiting or a high temperature) than you better buck up. </p> <p>In this instance, a pregnant sick person always wins out over a not pregnant sick person. I'm 38 weeks and my husband "doesn't feel good" ie. his throat hurts and he's tired... He is not getting any special treatment from me, that's for sure!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349578 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:23:15 +0000 Alivoo01 2349578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted person A because that sounds most likely.</p> <p>Meanwhile, DH and I were both deathly ill one time when DS was an infant, and I had full on duty all day and night while he rested in bed. It sucked so bad I called my parents a state away to come help us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349529 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:56:37 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2349529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The non-pregnant one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349463 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:28:14 +0000 sleepybear 2349463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say person B, but only because person A currently has a fever and is at risk for catching a stomach bug, while Person B is at the tail end of being sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349460 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:27:37 +0000 BandDmommy 2349460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I would do it because my husband is a baby when he's sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349458 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:27:04 +0000 avivoca 2349458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on how high the fever is for me. I'm such a bear when I get a high fever. I literally can't function. I haven't had a stomach virus in a long time though, so I can't speak to that. Also, the pregnant person should get a pass, especially if you are anemic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349444 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:23:06 +0000 winniebee 2349444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lose / lose but I say B. BUT I think the pregnant sickie always gets a pass over the non pregnant sickie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349440 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:21:08 +0000 reverie 2349440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: hahaha when the noro virus went through our house last year we were supposed to host brunch. It was my husbands day to get up with our son and he wouldn't so I was ENRAGED. He is sooooo whiny when he is sick he is like the man who cried wolf. So anyway, after being a bitch all morning, my son thew up all over me and I realized I was in fact the worst.... and then 36 hours later I got my come-up-ance and was sick too. What a fun 72 hours that was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349431 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:19:25 +0000 ShootingStar 2349431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't really function when I have a fever, so I'd say the person getting over the stomach bug would have to suck it up. You can be weak and slow and still deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349424 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:17:13 +0000 Anagram 2349424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is like a brain teaser, haha. I think stomach viruses are the worst, but as this is day 2 and the worst is over and the other person has a current high temp, B has to do it.</p> <p>In our house, it's whoever complains loudest. If we all have colds, DH is a bit of a baby who will try to ignore that I am also sick and will try to go lay in bed at like, 7 pm which is the busiest/most stressful time of our night when LO 1 has to have bath and bedtime routine, but LO 2 is in witching hour--and leave me to deal with both kids. So I tell him absolutely not and make him stay up till the kids were in bed.</p> <p>On the other hand, once I got a stomach bug and was up for hours feeling sick and finally threw up at 3 in the morning. Right as I was falling asleep, LO 1 woke up and Dh was like, "I also don't feel good. Can you go get her?" And I was SO ENRAGED because I'd just thrown up and hadn't slept at all. So I like whisper shouted at him, and made him go--and I found out hours later (after sleeping) that he threw up on the way to her room, and then LO 1 threw up and he slept with her, both of them sick and then I knew I was the worst mother and spouse in the world. ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349406 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:05:28 +0000 NovBaby1112 2349406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: haha! I see how my wording sounded like that. I meant YOU shouldn't have to do it since you are sick and pregnant :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349403 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 15:03:11 +0000 Greentea 2349403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They both sound terrible, but I would rather be person B than A with a high fever on duty! So I say B! But really, whoever can take it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349399 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 14:58:49 +0000 reverie 2349399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ummm regardless of what person I was, I would take parenting duty b/c my husband is a baby. Last year the noro virus went through our house. Husband and baby had it sunday all day. I took care of the baby all day (obviously) and had to go to work Monday. Monday night I could tell that I was getting it, spent all night EXTREMELY sick, had to call out Tuesday and GUESS WHAT had to take care of the baby b/c husband was still "sick" three days later. Buck up daddy, can't just leave the kid in the crib b/c you'd rather nap. Not that I'm bitter or anything.... .and oh yeah, had to work Wednesday :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349393 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 14:56:34 +0000 Cherrybee 2349393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: We're not both pregnant :silly: (tee hee!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349390 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 14:55:42 +0000 NovBaby1112 2349390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tough one, but I vote person B! But really, you should not have to do it if you are both sick and pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/both-sick-who-should-take-parenting-duty#post-2349372 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 14:47:05 +0000 MrsBrewer 2349372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted person A! I think a cold is easier to deal with than a stomach bug!! </p>