https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 05:11:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-679048 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 11:58:51 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 679048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Church was very painful for me for a long time, because there were just SO many pregnant women (and as a pastor's wife, so many people wondering why I wasn't pregnant).<br /> If you're finding that your pain/bitterness/hurt is too much, and hindering your time at church, I think that avoiding church for a little while until some of the rawness goes away would be more than fine.</p> <p>That being said, when I found that I couldn't go ANYWHERE for fear of breaking down in tears, I knew that it was time for us to take a break from TTC. Honestly, the few months that we stopped charting/temping/worrying were very liberating, and allowed me to refocus my energies on other things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678977 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:58:49 +0000 MollyTeru 678977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Avoiding bellies and babies for a while is perfectly understandable. And as for God, He sees in your heart and knows you are not pulling away from Him if you skip church once in a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678961 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:36:01 +0000 lilteacherbee 678961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've definitely been there. There have been quite a few breakdowns in the past 13 months, especially after our loss. The day before I got my recent BFP, I found out a girl at work was pregnant. Thankfully, it was after school. I locked myself in my classroom and had a good cry for a few minutes.</p> <p>We started going to a new church in Jan and its FULL of young families, babies, and pregnant women. Somehow, no matter where we sat, there ended up being a pregnant lady in front of me EVERY Sunday for a month. I was like, "really God?!" But I really think he was strengthening my faith.</p> <p>I totally get it. It's so rough. For me, I joined a small group of girls from my church for a weekly bible study. None of them were pregnant or trying and sometimes I couldn't get to church knowing that I would see a ton of pregnant ladies. They helped me to stay focused on having faith and their support since the BFP has been amazing. Hang in there, I'll be praying for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678869 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:20:57 +0000 singingbee 678869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard. Just remember that their success doesn't have any effect on your future success. I think it's harder for our husbands to totally get how we are feeling. I know mine was always confused why I was upset about different people getting engaged before us and things like that. I think about that episode of SATC where Charlotte learns to tune out the voices of all the advice of others. You just need to get some blinders on for right now. Hugs and hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678840 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 08:53:51 +0000 MrsH 678840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You aren't alone. I stopped going to this where I knew I would see pregnant ladies. Don't feel guilty you need to take care of yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678832 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 08:49:23 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 678832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I wish I could do that but then I feel worse for not going. Like I'm pulling away from God rather than strengthing my faith.</p> <p>I felt horrible even putting this out there. DH just doesn't understand &amp; then worries that every time I see a belly or a baby that I'm going to break down. Its not THAT extreme but it can be upsetting seeing that many babies &amp; bellies &amp; knowing we didn't get to keep ours or experience that. It feels good to hear that I am not alone! This will make my weekend go SO much better knowing I'm not crazy. Thank you thank you thank you ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678827 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 08:46:16 +0000 beachbee 678827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are definitely not alone! TTC is a very emotional journey, and that along with all the other stressors in life are just too much to handle sometimes. I remember about a year and a half into our journey I broke down at my cousins wedding because there were babies everywhere and everyone kept asking my DH and I when we were going to have kids. We had been married over 5 years so everyone thought that was plenty of "alone time". After sobbing hysterically to my mom, who did not know we had been struggling, I realized just how much stress this whole process was causing. I was trying to keep it all in and honestly it felt good to get emotional and have a good cry every now and then. Don't beat yourself up for having these feelings... they are completely normal and everyone feels the same way from time to time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678784 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 07:59:24 +0000 mlm2934 678784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You aren't alone! When my SIL was in the middle a long period including several miscarriages, she and my brother stopped going to church at all for awhile because it was too painful for her to be around the new babies at church </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678701 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 05:41:50 +0000 tequiero21 678701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I agree, give yourself time to grieve. I took a few days where I just read all these stories online, knowing I was not alone. Bawled my heart out. Read poems about babies I heaven, etc. then, I felt so much better. Still felt pangs of pain, teared up randomly, but overall, I was much better and the healing had begun. I hope you are able to get past this time of difficulty soon, with lots of love and support! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678700 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 05:31:38 +0000 cheert16 678700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww- I have definitely been there. Just remember its ok to allow yourself some time to grieve and that you are allowed to have feelings and emotions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678668 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 02:40:06 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 678668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're definitely not alone. I've had breakdowns anywhere and everywhere. You can't help your emotions, and they are valid feelings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678612 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 23:47:39 +0000 travelgirl1 678612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I remember before we had A, I used to get quite jealous hearing about family/friends who were pregnant. I hated myself for it but just couldn't help it. But I was in a different position in that I knew I had IF problems before TTC, and had acupuncture treatment for a fair few months before TTC, which helped me get pregnant when we were ready. I don't have much advice apart from don't be hard on yourself, your feelings are all natural, they don't make you a bad person, they make you human... and you've had a lot to deal with lately. Big hugs, I hope you get some answers with your DH's health and your BFP very soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breaking-down-at-church#post-678596 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 23:28:59 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 678596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didnt know where to put this one at.</p> <p>I saw a gal that was in my my RCIA class last years. She was converting and ended up dating &amp; married her sponsor before conformation that year. Well a year later and she is very pregnant.</p> <p>I told DH &amp; he said good for her, then I broke down crying. I was so mad at myself for being jealous &amp; being so ridiculous, in the middle of Good Friday mass. I was in church for heaven sakes! </p> <p>I've had a harder time seeing expecting, new moms, families in general, since the miscarriage. I've made it through a hand full of masses without shedding a tear. I can be so angry, bitter, &amp; jealous at times &amp; I feel horrible for having those thoughts, even for just a moment. </p> <p>My mood swings have been so crazy lately &amp; this one caught me off guard. (ttc, dh's health, my accident, quitting smoking, AF &amp; a full moon all at once is not a good combo) I had to step out to compose myself. </p> <p>Tell me I'm alone with these feelings. I'm very strongly considering a break from TTC. What have you done to get passed some of these things? </p>