https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 11:11:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488739 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 13:18:45 +0000 Mrs. D 2488739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was not ready for sex as soon as hubby, that's for sure!</p> <p>For the first while after we started being intimate again, it was mostly for him, not me, and that's totally normal when you're still post partum.</p> <p>The thing that bothered me most during the ten months I breast fed, was my normally boob obsessed husband who would TMI- lick and suck the girls- wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole. He was afraid of getting squirted in the face, lol. And wouldn't ever dream of tasting the milk, saying it was for DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488441 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 09:44:21 +0000 yin 2488441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first, it didn't come back until after I weaned (13 months). Even then, I wasn't comfortable enough with my body and felt a bit ashamed. With my second, my sex drive came back within a few months. I've also learned to accept my new body, which helps quite a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488408 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 09:23:29 +0000 avivoca 2488408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It came back after a few months but it's nowhere near what it was. I still don't like having my boobs touched. With this pregnancy, I have zero sex drive and it bothers me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488363 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 08:55:47 +0000 snowjewelz 2488363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted non-existent till I weaned, which happened around 9 months (not by choice). Boobs were def a "please not touch" area, haha! I think it was also cause DD wasn't STTN and I was just tired with work, pumping, not STTN, etc. </p> <p>After I weaned I was definitely more into it, but even now I don't really like my boobs being touched anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488357 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 08:52:53 +0000 nana87 2488357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean, I nursed until lo was almost 2, so it would have been a challenge for our marriage if it took that look for my libido to come back! I wasn't interested for a few months, but things evened out eventually. I'm not sure how long though, maybe 4 months? And I was able to compartmentalize breastfeeding from sex too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488353 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 08:49:09 +0000 petitenoisette 2488353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have very little drive these days (still<br /> BfIng a lot at 12 months) but I can get into it if my husband initiates. He basically knows that it's on him and I will never really turn him down but to hopefully not take my of lack initiating personally!</p> <p>@travelgirl1: same here, c-section but still was very painful at first and still we have to be careful. Not to be tmi but we've found me being on top helps A LOT. It basically feels like nothing to sandpaper in any other position. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488338 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 08:23:39 +0000 NovBaby1112 2488338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sex drive was non existent while BFing, and it's slowly returning shortly after I stopped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488335 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 08:21:48 +0000 catomd00 2488335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not the most driven person to begin with, but it definitely came back more closer to a year when she was nursing less often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488315 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 08:04:31 +0000 Corduroy 2488315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very little drive while BFing. After my first birth intercourse was incredibly painful for the year I bf. It hasn't been nearly as bad after LO2 but it's still uncomfortable and a barrier to having sex at 9 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488263 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 03:09:47 +0000 travelgirl1 2488263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After both my kids, my libido tanked. I cannot stand him doing anything to my breasts and it is a real problem, honestly, as DH has a very high sex drive. Despite having two c-sections, I also find post partum sex very painful, partially due to breastfeeding hormones and partially internal tightness (seeing a women's health physio over it this time). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488248 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:50:44 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2488248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't start out with an incredibly high libido to begin with, but I hear you, &amp; still feel no real drive still at 9mo pp. I didn't know whether bf is to blame, or just being tired &amp; less time to do anything, or both. I don't feel any more awkward about my breasts, though it is kind of weird when they leak during sex. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488246 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:43:33 +0000 OhCaptain 2488246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first i don't recall my libido returning unyil 12 ish months. This time my libido returned at three months, and my period returned at five. But, for the love...don't touch my boobs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488245 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:42:49 +0000 sarac 2488245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a higher libido while breastfeeding, but your experience is more normal. Things will usually go back to normal when you stop breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488241 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:29:16 +0000 HabesBabe 2488241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bra stayed on during nursing and libido hasn't really returned. Kids are 3 1/2 and almost 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488236 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:20:48 +0000 Torchwood 2488236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 8mo and basically no sex drive. DH is thrilled. 😣 I'm making an effort when I can, but it's not like it's easy with an 8mo anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488234 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:15:56 +0000 QBbride 2488234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine didn't really come back until my period returned at 14 months PP. I never really had a high sex drive to begin with though. (I didn't wean until 19 months but I was already pregnant then). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488232 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:12:49 +0000 jill_a55 2488232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It came back eventually... But I hear you on the bra, it was just the most awkward thing ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-and-sex#post-2488230 Wed, 09 Mar 2016 00:02:58 +0000 Portboston 2488230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 7.5 months old &amp; EBF. I have ZERO desire for sex. Which is crazy since I could never get enough before. And when we do have sex, the bra stays on and my boobs are off limits. They're just so not sexual right now!</p> <p>If you breastfed, how did it affect your libido? If you lost that lovin feelin, when did it come back? </p>