https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 07:29:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1696137 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 16:14:38 +0000 googly-eyes 1696137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Just saw the notification in my email. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1693193 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 11:57:43 +0000 Greentea 1693193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: :heart: !</p> <p>There is certainly hope! The more women do it the better and easier it will become as people become more familiar and accepting. I think lack of BFing acceptance can contribute to ppd. It is such a double standard- pressure to BF and the idea women are supposed to be locked in a dark room or bathroom stall alone to do it :( Who wants to be alone all day nursing indoors? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1693187 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 11:56:15 +0000 Adira 1693187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: And maybe if I get baby #2 used to being breastfed in public, he/she will be less distractable! With Xander, I ended up always having to go somewhere quiet because he just wouldn't FOCUS on the task at hand! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1693171 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 11:53:24 +0000 Arden 1693171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1693169 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 11:52:44 +0000 Adira 1693169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Yes!! Love this!!! This makes me want to go out and breastfeed baby #2 (assuming I'm lucky enough to be able to breastfeed baby #2) everywhere and anywhere! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1693166 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 11:52:35 +0000 Arden 1693166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: @mamamoose: I do think (and hope!) that there is hope of our culture changing and becoming, as a whole, more accepting of breastfeeding. I've been in several countries where "public" breastfeeding is encouraged and celebrated by society and no one gets dirty looks or whispers. I do think it's possible here... it will just take time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation/page/2#post-1693150 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 11:45:53 +0000 Arden 1693150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5409722" rel="nofollow">http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5409722</a></p> <p>"Do we really need to see it?"</p> <p>Yes.</p> <p>My answer is yes.</p> <p>Yes, we need to see mothers breastfeeding in restaurants, subway stations, waiting rooms and local parks.</p> <p>Yes, we need to see mothers breastfeeding newborn babies, infants, toddlers and preschoolers.</p> <p>Yes, we need to see pictures of mothers breastfeeding on social media sites, newsstands and billboards, as well as on TV shows and in films.</p> <p>We need to be so familiar with breastfeeding, with seeing it, talking about it and understanding it, that none of the scenarios above would raise a single eyebrow.</p> <p>Because if we continue to treat it as a secret art form, reserved for private rooms and hushed conversations, it will remain a taboo. It will become lost in the passage of time, further misunderstood and out of reach for future mothers."</p> <p>I encourage everyone to read the whole article. It's beautiful, powerful, and inspiring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692194 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 01:56:20 +0000 lemondrop 1692194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Perfectly said- a moment between mom and child. </p> <p>She was obviously looking to make a stir with social media, and she got one. I am all for breastfeeding in public, but I am not a fan of showboating it either.</p> <p>Normalizing breastfeeding means you do it in your every day activities- nursing during errands, when out to eat, etc. Graduating in front of a huge audience is not a normal occasion. I can't even imagine having my infant or toddler on the floor with me during my graduation- there are times and places where having your kid with you is not appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692157 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 23:24:10 +0000 jedeve 1692157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This reminds me of those Vagenda headlines going around a few weeks ago, where they rewrote tabloid headlines without the sexism. </p> <p>"Baby is in a place and gets hungry."</p> <p>Also applicable, </p> <p>"Someone does something. People on the Internet get mad." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692108 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 22:29:46 +0000 birdofafeather 1692108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: i took it to mean informing the general public and normalizing it there, not just moms?</p> <p>i think it's rad that she graduated as a mom because i can barely keep my business running as a mom! it's not my cup of tea to post BFing pics, but i certainly don't mind seeing them from others! rock on momma! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692090 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:56:07 +0000 MamaMoose 1692090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: we have an accord :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692089 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:55:59 +0000 MsLipGloss 1692089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I totally agree! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692086 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:54:47 +0000 MamaMoose 1692086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: yes, I suppose you're absolutely right that it's unrealistic... But that doesn't mean it's not my ideal. I don't think that working to educate that breastfeeding is natural and normal means that we can't also work against other societal issues such as sexism. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692084 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:53:49 +0000 MsLipGloss 1692084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: "The bottom line is this - it's all judgey bullshit, every family should have the right to make a well informed decision about how to feed their baby without worrying about backlash from anyone period." WORD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692081 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:52:27 +0000 Madison43 1692081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I think I made reference in the previous thread about being bummed that the pendulum has swung so far towards breastfeeding that a well informed mama has to worry about being judged for her choice to formula feed or justify that choice to anyone. That doesn't mean that I think breastfeeding moms don't have their own share of public opinion battles. </p> <p> The bottom line for me is this - it's all judgey bullshit, every family should have the right to make a well informed decision about how to feed their baby without worrying about backlash or feeling like they have to explain that choice to anyone. Period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692080 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:51:32 +0000 googly-eyes 1692080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Yes to educating those groups! I still think the reaction being mostly positive is meaningful in terms of where the "pendulum" is right now, but I agree that there is still work to be done in that area. Hope that makes sense, and sorry (OP!) for getting off topic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692073 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:45:26 +0000 hellocupcake 1692073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's super inappropriate. There's a time and place for everything. If she were in the stands or after the ceremony I wouldn't see a problem, but it looks like she's sitting with the rest of her class, not cool. This coming from someone who is totally open to BFing in public. If my kid were fussy at a graduation/wedding/whatever where I was part of the center of attention, I would sit off to the side and feed her. I would be pissed if a bridesmaid were at the alter feeding her kid, sit in the front row but get out of the way. Same here, she could have sat with her mom while she fed her baby and then took her position back with her class after. I feel like it does give breast feeding a bad name. And yes, it is natural, but we should still be discrete. Sex is natural, should we be doing that center safe too? But, that's just my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692071 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:43:36 +0000 MsLipGloss 1692071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I don't know that that will ever change . . . there is still--obviously--a ton of room for improvement, but there will never be 100% acceptance of public BFing. I think that expectation is unrealistic, actually . . . just due to human nature . . . we are still fighting older, and much more (widely socially) detrimental issues (like sexism, for example). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692068 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:41:57 +0000 Aimed 1692068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: your post is food for thought for me. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692065 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:39:26 +0000 MamaMoose 1692065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I agree that where you live makes a big difference and that's sort of my whole point. If any certain geographic or cultural groups still believe breastfeeding is gross or unacceptable (in public or private) then there should be continued education out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692063 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:37:24 +0000 Maysprout 1692063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Aimed: If she was bottle feeding though the first thought would be happy graduating momma with hungry baby not she's grandstanding. She made a choice on a different way to feed so how does that make her trying to make a point? </p> <p>I get sad sometimes looking through pictures of my daughter. I have pictures of everyone else feeding her. I have zero pictures of me feeding her even though I was a SAHM who nursed constantly with a baby who rarely took a bottle. It's because people thought it would be embarrassing or inappropriate to take our picture. So I have pictures of our extended family feeding LO but zero pictures to solidify the sweet memories of my time feeding her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692061 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:36:06 +0000 MamaMoose 1692061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: In my personal opinion no matter what the majority of people are saying if any one is still calling breastfeeding "gross" or anything other than completely natural there is still education to be done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692056 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:32:51 +0000 googly-eyes 1692056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Idk, I've seen this on fb and maybe just the source was different but I've seen way more support for this than people disagreeing with it.</p> <p>eta..Not to say there aren't a**holes out there just throwing insults around and what not. Just where I specifically saw this outside of hb. :) I think the whole public breastfeeding thing is way different depending where you live. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692052 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:30:58 +0000 MamaMoose 1692052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Her friend wanted to take the pic. The girl wasn't being militant about breastfeeding, her child was hungry and she chose to feed her in the way that she was most comfortable and that was best for her baby. I think the reaction to this photo is proof positive that public opinion has certainly not swung "too far" in favor of breastfeeding as has been stated on other threads recently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692037 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:20:25 +0000 Madison43 1692037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm.....I think it's fine she's breastfeeding at her graduation but the picture initially struck me as odd because I don't love when people take breastfeeding pics for the sake of saying that they breastfed in X location. But then I read the story and she says her baby was being fussy, so she took her from her mom and started to nurse her and then a friend asked if she could take a pic of them. Seems perfectly ok to me. It also love her cheesy, happy graduation grin :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1692016 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 21:05:28 +0000 Aimed 1692016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a great achievement for her. That said, I feel like there can be a certain amount of grand standing around breast feeding sometimes, like constant pics of 'look I breastfeed in the classroom' 'look, I breastfeed in church' and so on. I'm not sure such hoopla's normalize breastfeeding as much as just add heat to the topic - cos here we are debating it.<br /> My biggest issue with this pic is that it's all over the place and I wonder how that baby will feel about it when she's 15. This is coming from someone who is very conservative on pics etc though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1691966 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 20:23:05 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1691966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: agree :)</p> <p>Good for her for graduating with a baby! And I guess good for taking the pic, I would never do that though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1691948 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 20:16:27 +0000 Smurfette 1691948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I agree!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1691932 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 20:13:02 +0000 Dandelion 1691932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: I know what you're saying and I agree. When I nurse M it's between me and him. If we're out and about I am discreet about it. People notice me and can tell what I'm doing but I'm not doing it to make a statement or help normalize breastfeeding. I'm doing it because he's hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-at-graduation#post-1691919 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 20:08:31 +0000 Anagram 1691919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally support this girl. Honestly, I think she rocks. </p>