https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 03:32:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-159950 Wed, 16 May 2012 07:59:02 +0000 Sammyfab 159950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't start exclusively breastfeeding until 4 weeks due to supply issues. We were bottle feeding and I didn't even bother to offer the boob because getting DS to latch was so frustrating! I pumped around the clock at that time and I always felt like I was chained to my pump and couldn't leave my home for longer than a couple of hours.</p> <p>We have been exclusively BFing for the past 7 weeks and while I don't love it, it is waaaaay easier than pumping, making bottles, mixing formula, washing everything, etc. </p> <p>Things were really painful at first for us as well (milk blister, blocked duct, poor latch) but they got easier and easier. Give it some time...with that said, there is absolutely no shame in wanting to end BFing at 3 months. Happy mama = happy baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-159850 Tue, 15 May 2012 23:56:52 +0000 littleveesmommy 159850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BF was really tough the first few weeks! My milk came in quick and plentiful but my nipples were cracked and sore from the constant nursing. I literally had to grit my teeth every time she latched during the entire second and third week - I was so close to giving up! Thank goodness for lanolin. Things got easier after my nipples healed and I got the hang of positions / latching but I agree with pp above losing the freedom to just go out. I have to plan our outings around pumping if we leave LO with a sitter or deal with engorgement. BFing also wasn't something that my friends stuck with for long so I'm constantly questioned about my decision to BF because it's so much work. I also got mastitis a week and a half ago and this past weekend, was in tears from the immense pain that I was THIS close to quitting. Good thing the meds kicked in finally. LO is 3.5 months now and I really look forward to the bond with her during her morning and bedtime feedings, especially now that I'm back at work and away from her the majority of the day. I'm making mini goals to get from month to month so I don't overcommit and get disappointed. If I get to 4 months, then I will try to see if I get to 5. Seems less daunting that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-159835 Tue, 15 May 2012 21:48:44 +0000 runsyellowlites 159835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in week 5 and I certainly don't always like bf'ing, much less love it. =/</p> <p>Thankfully we haven't had any painful latch issues but we've had our fair share of other things...... ie. DD seemingly being sensitive to dairy protein and being tongue tied and me having overactive letdown. All of these issues cause DD alot of frustration while eating &amp; tummy issues. I HATE IT! =( Then there's the whole DH not being able to do any feedings b/c I'm still waiting on a smaller flange for my pump &amp; once that gets here I get to start the am I pumping enough issues =/</p> <p>Right now I'm sticking with it till I get past the 6 week hump. That was the one piece of advice I read &amp; got more than once.... "Don't make any decisions to quit until you get past the 6 week growth spurt hump".</p> <p>We'll see how it goes... if we can get some of the issues taken care of then we both might enjoy it more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-159796 Tue, 15 May 2012 20:53:41 +0000 irene 159796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind breastfeeding when we are just hanging out at home all day! I actually enjoy it. However, I HATE to lose the flexibility because now wherever I go, I have to keep in mind that I have to go home and pump or feed the baby in 2.5-3 hours. Or we have to plan the outing around the feeding schedule. We can't even go out and run errands for more than 3 hours. I lost interest in going to, say, a yoga class because it clashes with my feeding/pumping schedule. </p> <p>On top of that, I don't like to have to constantly worrying about supply, and the pressure that my baby is relying 100% on me for his well-being. On top of that, I hate that stress makes me make less milk, and I do need to work under stress a lot of times (There was one time I pumped 0.5 oz in 16 minutes because I was under stress at work!). I also HATE pumping, and I hate having to stop working and pump every 3 hours.</p> <p>Not to mention that since there is no way to predict when and how many times my baby wake at night (he wakes 1-2 times randomly between 12am-6am, at some rare nights he may skip the feeding altogether), so there are still nights that I woke up in pain, then spend 30 minutes to an hour wondering if I should hang in there or if I should pump. Then once after you pump there you hear the baby cry. Argh!</p> <p>I have to say I truly enjoy breastfeeding when we don't have much to do, but because of all those things I hate, I think I will be the happiest woman the day I wean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-146058 Thu, 03 May 2012 12:37:37 +0000 lavender 146058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: The thing I hate the most is the latching. It hurts...5 weeks later it still hurts. And it's not enjoyable for me but like @enjollah says it's cheaper than formula and that plays a huge aspect in why I'm still bf. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-145444 Wed, 02 May 2012 21:51:06 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 145444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>breastfeeding my first still fully sucked at 5 weeks. I think I was still on painkillers? It gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-145417 Wed, 02 May 2012 21:15:34 +0000 Mrsbells 145417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is hard, I'm only in my 2nd week but I can say its gotten easier, The first few days I pumped most of the time because it ust seemed easier to tell how much she had eaten and it was faster. But I'm getting the hang of it and will keep going for now. For her night time feedings I give her pumped milk or formula because she is really slow at nursing and usually falls asleep before she is full </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-145415 Wed, 02 May 2012 21:10:21 +0000 Grace 145415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: that makes sense. Good for you for toughing it out. It must have been hard, not knowing if it would get easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-145390 Wed, 02 May 2012 20:45:57 +0000 skibobrown 145390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still taking breast feeding one day at a time. I don't produce enough milk to exclusively breastfeed, and every day I think that this will be the last day before we switch over to 100% formula feeding. I sincerely doubt that we'll make it past 3 months, but who knows... I think 3 months is a great goal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-145383 Wed, 02 May 2012 20:33:32 +0000 Rosie Girl 145383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have really struggled with breastfeeding. I'm not sure I am going to make it to 3 months even, though that has been my goal. I enjoy the closeness and the fact that its the one thing that only I can do for her, but it is so painful for me, and kind of a pain period! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-145367 Wed, 02 May 2012 20:17:26 +0000 HLK208 145367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: For me, his latch always hurt until he was able to support himself a little bit more. I was so uncomfortable for the first 6 weeks also. I didn't know how to go out in public without pumping before hand because I wasn't use to covering him up or feeding in the car. When I would pump, I'd only get about 2 ounces and felt like that was nothing! It was just completely frustrating until we both got the hang of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-144523 Wed, 02 May 2012 07:21:56 +0000 Grace 144523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is pure curiousity here (not judgement), but what were the things that you hated? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-144433 Wed, 02 May 2012 00:24:03 +0000 HLK208 144433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really, really hated it. I wanted to quit at 3 weeks, then at 6 and I told myself 3 months and that.is.it. But after 3 months, it started getting easier (for me at least) maybe it was routine? It was easy to calm DS down with the boob, he got a lot better at it and I felt like I was the only one who could connect with him as if it was "our time". After he started solids, then it got even easier and I was able to go until 13 months<br /> Don't get me wrong, I missed having my body to myself! I say do what feels right, sometimes setting short goals helps to realize if it's right for you and baby. Good job for sticking it out as long as you have. I'm really worried that I'll hate breast feeding even more with my second munchkin! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-144389 Tue, 01 May 2012 21:44:05 +0000 sandy 144389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't like it in the beginning either and thought there was no way I would make it to 3 months but it did suddenly get easier around then...baby started feeding more efficiently. Now she is almost 6 months and I can't believe it. I think breastfeeding is so hard and will never ever judge someone for whatever option they choose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-144199 Tue, 01 May 2012 18:26:03 +0000 heffalump 144199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated it so much I only lasted a week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143649 Tue, 01 May 2012 12:36:24 +0000 lemondrop 143649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: so nice to know you aren't alone- I love HB! </p> <p>I still don't enjoy pumping, but giving my husband a bottle to feed the baby and taking a break or letting him take the night shift is so worth it! And feeling empty and being able to lay on my stomach is nice. Also that hands free pumping bra is so 100% worth the cost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143616 Tue, 01 May 2012 12:21:40 +0000 enjollah 143616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not the only one here. I don't love it either but I keep telling myself that it's cheaper than formula. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143603 Tue, 01 May 2012 12:16:05 +0000 Lozza 143603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't like it for a while, then I hated it (@lemondrop - that 6 week mark is the WORST- I was staying with my parents for a week and would call my husband at home crying telling him I was DONE with this whole breastfeeding thing), then it was ok, and then I actually started to like sharing that with LO. So while I think it's cool to do it for however long you want, whether that's 3 days or 15 months, I concur with the others who've said that the first couple months are way harder, and you can always get to the 3 month mark and decide "hey, maybe I'll skip pumping but continue to nurse at night and in the morning" or "maybe I'll do this for another week." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143585 Tue, 01 May 2012 12:04:56 +0000 lemondrop 143585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a breakdown with my mom on the phone at 6 weeks pp, I hated it so much! I asked her when she started liking it, she said at 3 days. That didn't help at all, I about hung up on her. @Rubies was the one that made me feel better, she said it took her a while to start liking it. </p> <p>I absolutely hated it until about 8 weeks, and suddenly it got easier (better head control?). I started to kinda like it at 12 weeks, and now at 16 weeks I'm actually enjoying it. Amazing to go from the entire process taking over an hour to being done in 15 minutes or so now :)</p> <p>It works for some people, others it doesn't, good job for doing what you can :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143402 Tue, 01 May 2012 10:08:00 +0000 autumnlove 143402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated it until around 3 months so now I hope I can make it to 6 or 8 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143384 Tue, 01 May 2012 10:02:26 +0000 chopsuey 143384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Breastfeeding is tough and a pain! I continued and am still nursing because LO woudln't take a bottle and she still wants boob. :T </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143329 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:39:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 143329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Breastfeeding is an interesting journey and so unique to everyone. I do know for us, the 3 month mark things got easier. She stretched feedings out to every 3 hours, she would nurse in 15 minutes or so, and was only waking about once a night to feed. Don't get me wrong, its still a lot of work but as parents we have to pick our battles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143303 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:29:36 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 143303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly come the 3 month mark I wanted to quit breastfeeding. I found I was becoming resentful of my husband being able to sleep when I had to wake up. Then at 3.5 months Mavrick had a nursing strike and never went back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143299 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:27:34 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 143299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't have said it any better than @Mrs. Bee: ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143293 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:22:12 +0000 Mrs. Bee 143293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i applaud your honesty. sometimes the pressure (bullying even) to breastfeed exclusively for a year is just too much, and i don't think we should be making parenting decisions based on guilt.... we should be making decisions based on what's best for mom and for baby.</p> <p>i didn't enjoy breastfeeding with charlie, but i must admit that i am enjoying it much more with olive. </p> <p>you've given yourself a goal of 3 months. who knows? maybe you may change your mind when you reach it. maybe you won't, but you'll still have provided breastmilk during the important first three months, and that is awesome.</p> <p>breastfeeding is great and everyone knows its benefits, but i don't think it's a one size fits all for every mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143282 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:17:50 +0000 His Barista 143282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind it but I don't love it either. I will go as long as possible. DD is 8 weeks and I go back to work Monday. I won't beat myself up if my supply dwindles and I can't do it anymore but I will try as much as I can.<br /> Don't feel guilty! At least you tried, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143277 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:15:06 +0000 mrs. wagon 143277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crash806: you need to do what's best for you... if you force yourself to continue somehow, you will just resent it, and that won't make you a good mommy. If I were you, I would work on pumping as MUCH as possible up to a certain date to build up the freezer stash, then make the transition. That way baby will be getting plenty of breastmilk during the time it's most beneficial for them, and you will be happier because you're sticking with the goal and decision you made. </p> <p>All that matters is that you make the best decision for you and baby. You want to be the best mom you can be, and the only way that's going to happen is if you're happy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143272 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:12:21 +0000 purrpletulips 143272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went back and forth on this. Most of the time I enjoyed it but I absolutely hated pumping. Don't feel bad because while it is "natural" that doesn't mean that you will like it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143267 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:10:53 +0000 lavender 143267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I feel guilty because I know I could go beyond the 3 month mark but I just don't feel like it. And I know when I go back to work next month, I'll only be able to pump once a day so my supply will definately diminish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-confession#post-143259 Tue, 01 May 2012 09:05:13 +0000 mrs. wagon 143259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>neither Wagon Jr. or I were fans of breastfeeding. We did it because we could, and it was much more convenient than having to tote around bottles and a cooler for pumped milk, and I was a SAHM while he was nursing. But we never got that magical bond and special time that a lot of moms and babies experience. When we fully weaned at 7 months, he did NOT mind the bottle for all feedings and I was so relieved. </p> <p>So you are not alone! </p>