https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 06:43:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070264 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 22:52:10 +0000 californiadreams 2070264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: this was pretty much me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070261 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 22:50:03 +0000 ALV91711 2070261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just sort of stopped bringing it up to most people. I think a lot of people assumed he had weaned earlier than he did. He weaned at 20.5 months. </p> <p>If someone did say anything I'd tell them it was recommended until 2. If anyone asked when I'd stop then I'd just tell them we had no plans and were playing it by ear. </p> <p>I hate how people get so negative about BF'ing your toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070231 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 22:04:15 +0000 Applesandbananas 2070231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't bring it up and I don't entertain discussions. I'm so completely over the ignorance around breastfeeding. I throw out the WHO recommendation if I have to but I don't hear much these days. LO is almost 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070210 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 21:32:26 +0000 vnvdvci 2070210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only inform friends/family on a need-to-know basis. LO is almost 22 months and only nurses just before bedtime and in the early morning, so no one needs to know. I'm pretty sure my mom thinks LO is weaned. If I were you, I would just not mention it, and if your child gets fussy and wants to nurse during the day just say that you two need "quiet time" and remove yourself to somewhere private to nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070183 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 20:48:24 +0000 catomd00 2070183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just ignore it. It's not something that affects them and they're entitled to their opinion, just like I am entitled to do what I want with my kid regardless of their opinion. I don't really care what others think about what I do though so tjose types of comments don't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070126 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 19:33:57 +0000 Mary Mary 2070126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I BFed DD till 17 months and got some comments, too. Breastfeeding is difficult enough without having to deal with ignorant comments from folks. </p> <p>I just did what PP did and calmly stated the WHO recommendations as well as my own pediatrician's counsel, which was that recent research shows the benefits of BFing extend well beyond the first year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070115 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 19:12:04 +0000 Ocean girl 2070115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I'm sorry, that must be hard coming from your grandmother.<br /> DH has a cousin who's wife really struggled with BFing, and both she and her husband were very negative about my breast feeding relationship with DD from the beginning. I got a lot of "you're still nursing?!" and "just wait until she has teeth" comments from about 6 months onward. The same couple had me scared out of my mind for labour/delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070103 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 18:55:11 +0000 littleblessings 2070103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It just really got me down. My grandma was saying breastfeeding mothers only nurse in public so they can be half make and make others uncomfortable </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070080 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 18:14:12 +0000 Zbug 2070080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also give the who recommendation. My MIL is the only person who has ever said anything though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070021 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 16:56:15 +0000 regberadaisy 2070021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: oh yes, when my mom found out I was still nursing when I got pregnant she was shocked. Stating that so and so said that DD 1 is stealing nutrients from dd02 and that can't be good for the baby. A friend of a friend's daughter said this. Um. Yeah, OK mom. But believe what a friend of a friend's daughter but not your daughter! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070017 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 16:53:14 +0000 regberadaisy 2070017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: barbaric! :shocked:<br /> TBH my mom was / is not very supportive of BFing. She pressured me to stop all the time starting from when DD 1 was 4m. Four months! I just tried not to bring it up with her and eventually it got to the point where if she asked I just avoided answering. DD 1 was 25m when I weaned. </p> <p>With this second one my mom has already said don't bf her as long. OK, mom. Sure. </p> <p>Thankfully, she lives 7hrs away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2070010 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 16:45:57 +0000 daniellemybelle 2070010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Barbaric? :shocked: </p> <p>Like @avivoca: I don't talk about it much and I don't NIP. It usually doesn't come up and people often think is weaned and I don't correct them. When she pulls on my shirt though, sometimes I get questions and I just say, "The WHO recommends nursing until at least two. We worked really hard to get here" (most people know to some degree that we had BF difficulties) "so we are just enjoying it and taking it a day at a time!"</p> <p>Can I just say how we as moms can't win? I got lots of shame for supplementing with formula early on, and now I feel judged for extended BF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069971 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 15:47:45 +0000 Greentea 2069971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"The recommendations are different now. The WOH recommends to 2." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069922 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 14:49:58 +0000 Woolly Mammoth 2069922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 17 months (and looks 2) and I haven't gotten any negative comments. Of course I live in Seattle and everyone in my family breastfed.</p> <p>I am starting to feel kind of awkward nursing in public, but that doesn't happen very often anymore. I'm planning to nurse until at least two, and I really don't care what anyone else thinks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069913 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 14:42:12 +0000 Sunshine710 2069913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Baby Boy Mom: agree, I used the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069861 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 13:34:36 +0000 Foodnerd81 2069861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't gotten any blatant negative comments, only vaguely disapproving but subtle enough that you can't argue- like, oh you are still breastfeeding. How... Nice... How long will you keep that up? </p> <p>I usually just say there are still health benefits and it's still working for me and her, so we will see. I also rarely bring it up and she only nurses when she wakes up in the morning and before bed, so it's less obvious. </p> <p>I did find that when I was feeling insecure about it, people questioned it or made comments more. Once I felt more comfortable about it, I think my response reflected that and people accepted it. If that makes sense. </p> <p>The annoying thing is I feel like I can never complain at all about it because people will just tell me I should stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069857 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 13:30:11 +0000 Bao 2069857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started getting crap at 4-6 months. I just don't bring it up much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069855 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 13:28:16 +0000 Rockies11 2069855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just say "it's totally trendy right now" and then go about my business. Both grandmas are the most judgey. My LO is 19 months, and I am 31 weeks pregnant, and they both think that I am a barbarian. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069829 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 12:49:12 +0000 MCD919 2069829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's terrible :( I'm still BFing DS at 13 months, and I'm just waiting for the comments to start.... I wish people would just MYOB!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069824 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 12:41:10 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2069824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used the WHO recommendation. Nobody argued with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069783 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 12:00:45 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2069783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Barbaric? To breastfeed past one? That's the most awful and ignorant comment I've ever hearD. I'm sorry. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069768 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 11:37:49 +0000 Maysprout 2069768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It feels disrespectful to be blunt with parents / grandparents but sometimes constant comments just need a blunt emphatic response. I'd ask her to please stop, it works for the two of you, is healthy, and encouraged by many health organizations. </p> <p>I've had comments so I answer their 'concerns'. I think some of the concerns just come from not being educated about breastfeeding, I certainly wasn't before becoming a mother, and hearing my younger sisters they were even less informed. So I do try and explain a bit and hopefully make people less judgmental about people who nurse longer than they would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069763 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 11:29:59 +0000 bisous 2069763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh. That is just mean! People asked me all the time in a judgy way if I continued to breastfeed--I just would say "yes-times have totally changed and this is the norm." That usually worked because it was often people over 50 or 60 who were asking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069762 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 11:28:12 +0000 danda 2069762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I fortunately never got remarks that negative, but my response was usually along the lines of any of the following:<br /> -breastmilk is the healthiest food there is...she gets so many fewer colds/recovers so quickly!<br /> -thank goodness she was breastfeeding when she had that awful stomach bug, as it is the easiest thing for her tummy to digest<br /> -the World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding until at least the age of two<br /> -it doesn't bother her or me, and we'll keep going until that changes </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069760 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 11:27:10 +0000 avivoca 2069760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stopped bringing it up. My dad went so far as to say that I'd quit once she got teeth, and I told him that that wouldn't stop me. We're down to one session at 16 months and I just don't talk much about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/breastfeeding-past-1#post-2069754 Sat, 14 Feb 2015 11:22:23 +0000 littleblessings 2069754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you handle negative remarks? I mostly get said marks from family. I don't know how to handle it because it's constant. My grandma went so far as to say is barbaric today. </p>