https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 04:16:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2383341 Wed, 09 Dec 2015 16:40:17 +0000 wrkbrk 2383341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is two weeks old and I am in a wedding next week. I am dreading it. I would rather be pregnant although it would be super uncomfortable. This schedule, even though I opted out of hair and makeup, is ridiculous and I will have to drag my pump along, leave DS with bottle and the in-laws, etc., etc. Ugh. Not ideal at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2383295 Wed, 09 Dec 2015 16:02:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2383295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: my one good friend was born ON Christmas and my best friend was born Dec 28th. They both hate it because no one is ever around to celebrate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2383291 Wed, 09 Dec 2015 16:01:23 +0000 SweetiePie 2383291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been totally fine being very pregnant and a bridesmaid as long as I didn't have to travel too far (fly).<br /> But as a new mom, I would have been a train wreck! It would have been fun for nobody and memorable for all the wrong reasons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2383288 Wed, 09 Dec 2015 15:57:32 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2383288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: yes, i agree! My mom's birthday is the beginning of December and she encouraged me to wait also. I feel a lot better about my decision to wait too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2380822 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 17:32:43 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2380822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd most definitely rather be pregnant than with a newborn. Yes, you might feel a little uncomfortable, but you won't have to be worrying about all the things that come after the baby is born (sleep deprivation, pumping, child care, etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2380740 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 16:32:01 +0000 HabesBabe 2380740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnant &gt; newborn. And not like it's a huge issue, but I wouldn't want to have a baby near a Christmas birthday. My MIL was born on 12/26 and she HATES it. So maybe another good reason to wait a couple of extra months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2380699 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 16:05:12 +0000 tjlove54 2380699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in one sisters wedding at 34 weeks pregnant and in my other sisters when my son was 5 months old. It was hands down easier being pregnant than dealing with the logistics of the baby. Honestly though, you make it work either way when you love the couple getting married. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377282 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 16:55:47 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2377282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done both.<br /> It was fine. My pregnancies have been easy and my newborns have been easy....so who knows with a difficult pregnancy or a colicky newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377263 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 16:40:53 +0000 kitty 2377263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would rather be very pregnant. I was very active in the last few weeks of my pregnancy, building the baby furniture, hosting a 40th birthday party and having out of town guests. Newborn days and c-section recovery were a blur. I did go to one event at 2 weeks pp but I couldn't have assisted with anything, I could barely stand up for 20 mins in a row. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377242 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 16:33:57 +0000 Charm54 2377242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a BM at 38.5 weeks this fall in a wedding 4 hours away. It was stressful worrying about delivering out of town, but I feel like it was easier than having a newborn. I just took it easy and everyone was very understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377238 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 16:26:01 +0000 Pirouette 2377238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would DEFINITELY rather be pregnant than be recovering from a c section! I honestly can't even imagine going to a wedding within a month of having a c section, let alone being in the wedding! and I had an easy recovery. I guess I just don't count on it being as easy with #2... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377181 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:49:14 +0000 BandDmommy 2377181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd rather have newborn. Pregnancy with me is a wild card and I go into labor prior to 37 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377175 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:46:36 +0000 daniellemybelle 2377175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Emotionally/mentally I would much rather be super pregnant than have a newborn. Neither would be easy but I was a crazy person for months after having LO and would not have been able to be a bridesmaid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377109 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:11:12 +0000 rattles 2377109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote pregnant. I had an easy time with a wedding at 36 weeks and a hard time with one at 3 months postpartum. (I wasn't in either, but DH was in both.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377104 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:09:06 +0000 Torchwood 2377104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousin had a 5 week old when she was in my wedding. She didn't have any major issues. I think I'd rather have a newborn, though I never carried to term so I'm just basing that on how I guess I'd feel hugely pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377093 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:03:30 +0000 Foodnerd81 2377093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I think for a very very select few people, it's worth TTC around a wedding. For me that's pretty much only my sisters at this point, but for you sounds like it's worth it for your BFF. I am 38 weeks pregnant right now and while I definitely wouldn't want to put on a fancy dress and heels and stand around all night, I would be willing and happy to do it for someone really important. Well, maybe not the heels but the rest of it. :). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377069 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:53:42 +0000 Greentea 2377069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES, given the choice, I would choose to be pregnant instead of have a newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377060 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:48:52 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2377060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for the input! I think pregnant will be easier too. Especially if I end up with a c section and breastfeeding. It kind of sucks having to wait a little longer, but a 3 year gap will be good I think. We are also going on a trip early this summer with dh's family so it'll be easier to travel not pregnant! </p> <p>Thanks all :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377017 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:33:36 +0000 snowjewelz 2377017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I feel like either if you are super pregnant, or had recently given birth, it will probably be uncomfortable either way, lol! But I agree with everyone; ultimately being pregnant is still easier.</p> <p>I guess it will just depend on if you think it's worth waiting to TTC for that little while to make sure you can be in the wedding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377007 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:30:05 +0000 Adira 2377007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: Yeah, I think if you might have a c-section again and want to breastfeed, being pregnant will be easier than dealing with recovery and a newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2377001 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:27:16 +0000 mrsrain 2377001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to a wedding at 36 weeks pregnant and was miserable. Swollen feet, achy back, etc. THAT SAID, I'm not sure I could have handled doing it with a newborn... I think a lot depends on whether or not travel is involved, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376997 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:26:39 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2376997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was MOH in a wedding this summer at 35 weeks pregnant. It was hot, and my feet hurt, but it wasn't terrible- still enjoyed the day. I think doing it with a newborn when you're worried about nursing and everything would be tougher. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376995 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:26:29 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2376995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @snowjewelz: it will be local, no more than an hour drive probably, depending on where she picks the venue. And she knows everything that's happened this year, so she'd be understanding (I hope! ) either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376992 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:24:35 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2376992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I had a c section with DD and recovery was...OK. ... I do plan on breastfeeding with the second baby. Breastfeeding went well, except for she was mspi. I'm leaning towards being super pregnant. But being on my feet would suck,but with my first I was pretty active till the end and was only really really miserable after 36 weeks or so. </p> <p>I just don't know if it's silly to plan ttc around a wedding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376979 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:21:37 +0000 snowjewelz 2376979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Will the wedding be local? Does she know your TTC plans? </p> <p>Def easier still being pregnant (provided you're not far away from where you're supposed to deliver), but if it's your BFF, and you have a newborn, I guess it's not THAT terrible to have to go too, again, given that this will be a local wedding and someone will for sure be able to watch LO for you and assuming you will be able to pump, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376973 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:20:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 2376973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is travel involved? Assuming it's local, I think being less than 36 weeks pregnant would be a lot easier than having a newborn. I wouldn't want to be more than 36 weeks because I'd be afraid of missing it entirely being labor or something, and having a newborn would be really really hard I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376969 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:20:40 +0000 ElbieKay 2376969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I would rather be very pregnant than dealing with a newborn at a wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376967 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:20:20 +0000 Adira 2376967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you plan on breastfeeding at all? And how was your postpartum mental/emotional health after your first child? If you're not breastfeeding and you think you'll feel okay emotionally, I think it might actually be easier to be a bridesmaid with a newborn, assuming your husband and/or other family could take care of the baby. Running around and standing on your feet for hours while 30+ weeks pregnant sounds dreadful. Although perhaps easier than having to nurse every 2 hours while doing all that... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376965 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:19:34 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2376965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF got engaged and was planning for a June 25th 2016 wedding. After our miscarriage we tried the month that would have me due in May, but planned to take the next off so I didn't have a new born. I was ok being super pregnant at the wedding! But, she ended up moving the wedding a year so she could buy a house.... And now I'm due June 30th! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bridesmaid-while-very-pregnant-or-with-newborn#post-2376961 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:16:48 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 2376961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF (finally!) got proposed to last weekend and is planning a Jan/Feb 2017 wedding. I'm going to be a bridesmaid, not throwing any showers or parties, but I am planning on being involved as much as I can. I've never been a bridesmaid before and this will probably be my only time. I would've been Matron of Honor if her sister didn't want to be. Anyway.... we've had 2 losses this year, a miscarriage in July and ectopic in Oct. We're taking a break and was planning on ttc in Jan or Feb which would be a Nov or Dec baby. I'm OK with waiting a few months to have the baby after her wedding if it would be easier. DD and baby would be 3 years apart. </p> <p>I guess it just boils down to which would be easier? Being 30+ weeks pregnant, right? </p>