https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 18:17:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877821 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 15:13:23 +0000 MaisyMay 877821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'd take LO to a funeral yet, especially not to one about a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877818 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 15:12:42 +0000 heffalump 877818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only bring lo to funeral services for close family members. I think babies can cheer people up, but if they aren't my family I figure they don't really care about my kid so it's just a distraction. I also think it just depends on the mom. My sil lost two babies when she was pregnant with triplets and she didn't seem to mind people who brought kids. In fact my lo provided some good comic relief during part of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877813 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 15:09:43 +0000 photojane 877813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@red_seattle: Said a little prayer! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877784 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 14:55:12 +0000 sarac 877784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I wouldn't either. I think you made the right choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877735 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:57:13 +0000 Boogs 877735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your friend. :( I think leaving LO is a good call given the circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877731 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:49:31 +0000 LittleFox 877731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Praying for them. That's so sad. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877716 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:24:23 +0000 red_seattle 877716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. We're going to leave X at home. I don't want to hurt the mom anymore than she's already hurting. I don't think it would annoy/anger/offend her, but you've all convinced me that it could be a bit painful for her. So, better to leave X at home just in case it's a reminder of what she'll be missing out on. </p> <p>One other thing-- would the praying types among you mind saying a little prayer for the coworker and her husband as they celebrate their son's short life today? It will be a hard day, and strength of prayer would be a gift to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877712 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:19:45 +0000 lisa1783 877712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wouldn't either. I think in a situation like this, no one would really expect you to bring your LO. I understand it's a large setting and there would be a lot of people but it's more than likely they'll notice a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877708 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:15:35 +0000 SugarplumsMom 877708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also wouldn't. Perhaps bringing LO around during happier circumstances would be better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877707 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 13:15:26 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 877707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No.<br /> ...just don't. I am putting myself in her place, God forbid, and I'd hurt to see it. Plus: if people always ask about your baby: then you should bring him because people will be excited to see him which might draw more unwanted attention. I just think due respect can be better given if your attention is not divided between toddler/sermon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877696 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 12:49:36 +0000 Ash 877696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877687 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 12:36:47 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 877687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would leave him with a sitter. It's hard to know how your friends will react and it will be easier to talk to them when you're nor chasing down a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877672 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 12:18:05 +0000 Navy_Mommy 877672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, personally. Such a horrible situation, I feel like having kids there could be salt in the wound. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877671 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 12:17:52 +0000 Dandelion 877671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, if you have someone available to watch your LO. Toddlers won't understand what's going on, and he won't have fun at all. Plus, you can concentrate more on the service if you aren't distracted by trying to tend to your LO.</p> <p>However, I don't think it's offensive to the family to bring your LO. I've lost a baby, but I don't get mad at other people having them. Your baby is still your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-lo-to-a-memorial-for-a-newborn#post-877667 Sun, 23 Jun 2013 12:13:10 +0000 red_seattle 877667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>(I don't know what board to put this on?)</p> <p>A former coworker lost her newborn to a genetic disease last week, and the memorial is today. DH and I are planning to attend, but the question is whether to bring X or not. The memorial will be at the church where I used to work. Whenever I visit without X, everyone asks where he is, so I'd like to bring him with me. But I worry about whether it might be insensitive to bring my healthy little toddler to the service-- if it might be painful for the mother (my former coworker) to see. There should be A LOT of people there (I'm guessing 1000+), so we may not be noticed by the family at all. </p> <p>So-- what do you think? Should we bring X or not? (I should add that X will probably be in the cry room during the service, so it's not a question of whether he'll be able to handle the service itself, so much as whether it would be painful for the mom.) </p>