https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 19:35:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2705556 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 12:40:13 +0000 psw27 2705556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave her at home. I'm always inclined to leave my LO at home if I have a good babysitting setup. I just don't find it fun to wrangle a toddler in situations like that. DH somehow always ends up in some nice conversation and I'm chasing a kid around in high heels. No thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2705543 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 12:02:00 +0000 mdf106 2705543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the dynamics of that side of the family. My husband's family would think it was weird not to bring the kids, and would miss them, but my side would not find it weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2705471 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 09:49:03 +0000 JCCovi 2705471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't see whether the wedding was local or not, but my favorite option is to attending the wedding without the kids then have them brought for the first half of the reception to eat, talk to people, and dance a little, then get picked up so I can stay late. </p> <p>I've done this a couple times with either my mom watching or a hired sitter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704116 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 21:41:40 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2704116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not bring my LO. If I'm given the option, I almost always leave them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704115 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 21:41:27 +0000 birdofafeather 2704115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 was a flower girl in my SIL's wedding at 2.5 and even with my parents and siblings there, it was crazy. I haven't brought her to a wedding since, even when people asked why! But a cousin had a wedding and other kiddos were there and no one ate dinner until 9 pm. The adults were miserable and so were the kiddos. I would have been crying if I brought my kid! Leave her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704097 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 21:07:36 +0000 SweetiePie 2704097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh yeah, if I have the option I'll pretty much always leave him behind for a wedding. I'd rather make it a night out (or at least a night without stress). Especially if you'll be pretty pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704084 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 20:32:35 +0000 LemonJack 2704084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! You confirmed what I was thinking. It'll be more relaxing for us, and much more fun for her to play with her cousins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704081 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 20:26:04 +0000 Alba4 2704081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally prefer NOT to take a 3 year old to a wedding. I say take your sister up on her offer! Date night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704074 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 20:04:02 +0000 caterw 2704074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>100% would leave her. I did this for a very close family friends wedding- lots of people wanted to see her but they made it through the wedding g anyway hahaha. The timeline for weddings is the perfect setup for poor behavior and a melt down- sit quietly for 45 minutes and listen to boring grow ups babble on and on about something you don't understand, then sit quietly for a while longer and eat weird grownup food, then get stuffed full of cake and sent to right bed and the dancing really gets going. My kid would lose her mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704066 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:37:39 +0000 erinbaderin 2704066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave her - everybody will be happier. We left our 2.5 year old at home for a wedding this summer even though we took the 4 month old - we just thought it would be too tough for him to sit quietly through the ceremony, and he would be much happier with his grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704063 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:33:57 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2704063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would def leave her with family. She will have more fun and so will you guys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704062 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:33:41 +0000 MrsSRS 2704062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave her if I was pregnant. If anyone asked I would say she was getting her wiggles out with her cousins and we were enjoying a date night before adding in another baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704060 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:21:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2704060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is just a totally up to you scenario. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704057 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:18:13 +0000 SweetCaroline 2704057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be the outlier, but I would definitely bring my toddler to a family wedding that I was going to leave at a decent time. My family would be upset if they didn't get to see her.</p> <p>That being said, I'd bring a ton of bait and sit in the back at the ceremony :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704052 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:41:33 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2704052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely wouldn't take my LO. I'd have more fun and be able to relax without her there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704050 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:39:13 +0000 youboots 2704050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have something similar coming up and DD who with be a bit over 2 is coming with. But it's a reeeeeaaaaallllllyyyy casual wedding and lots of family wants to see her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704049 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:36:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 2704049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's weird at all. It sounds like a more enjoyable evening for you if she is at your sisters, and really it sounds like more fun for her too! The only ones who will be disappointed are possibly the other family members at the wedding, but they aren't the ones responsible for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704046 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:30:38 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2704046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>since I would do the same if a viable alternative existed I don't think it's weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704043 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:26:41 +0000 autumnlove 2704043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave my kids if I had a babysitter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bring-welcome-toddler-to-wedding-or-no#post-2704040 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:23:04 +0000 LemonJack 2704040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has a cousin getting married in a couple months, and kids are welcome at the wedding. DD will be nearly 3 at that point, and is often a relatively well behaved little girl, but she's still definitely a toddler and we're still not super excited at the thought of bringing her, mostly because I dread having to keep her quiet and entertained during the actual ceremony and speeches. </p> <p>If we were planning on staying lat I would definitely NOT bring her, but that's not the case. Whether she's with us or not, we probably won't stay late. This isn't a relative we are particularly close to, and I'm also going to be pretty pregnant at that point, so I'm sure I won't be up for staying as late as normal.</p> <p>We have the option of having DD stay with my sister's family, so I've been leaning toward that. She LOVES her cousins and they adore her.</p> <p>My question is, is it weird not to bring her to a family wedding? There will be other kids there her age (although none she is super close to or knows well). Just wondering what you would do in our situation.</p> <p>Thanks! </p>