https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 19:46:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328643 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:57:24 +0000 Kimberlybee 1328643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes absolutely! My DH is a true mama's boy through and through but not in a weak, whiny way. He's a mama's boy in a protective, caretaker kind of way. He loves her so much, praises her, and just wants to give her the world if he could. I knew he would be a great husband just by how respectful he is to his mom. He's the reason I would want a boy. I want that same relationship too. I am super close to my mom so that's why I was more partial to having a girl first. One of each would be a dream come true! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328626 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:53:21 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1328626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is very close to his mom. His dad wasn't around so she was his only parent. He confides in her, calls her to chat, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328562 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:32:23 +0000 lawbee11 1328562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally agree with @MamaMoose. I think sons can be close to their mom, but in a different way. My DH is close to his mom in a "take care of her" kind of way. He'll call to check up on her and do any work around her condo that she needs (replacing lightbulbs, fixing things, etc) but he doesn't confide in her like I do with my mom. I text/call/email my mom throughout the day but whenever DH needs someone to vent to or confide in it's always me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328523 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:19:13 +0000 MrsKoala 1328523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is incredibly close with his mother. More so than with his father. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328504 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:13:51 +0000 MCD919 1328504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope so! I'm having a boy and had the same thoughts/ concerns. I also come from a family of lots of girls, so I was surprised and a little disappointed when we found out, because I always imagined myself having a little girl. I've come around during the pregnancy, and I'm so excited to meet my little guy! DH is close with both of his parents, so I think it depends on the relationship... It may be a different kind of closeness than mother-daughter relationships, but still special. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328499 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:11:58 +0000 mediagirl 1328499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Katrocap: my husband and his mom gossip like little girls. It's crazy. BUT - she is not one of those overbearing, dominant moms. She stays out of his life. When he calls her or when he sees her, they spend a lot of time by themselves, chatting like fools. </p> <p>They don't talk about private things, though. It's not like they're talking about their sex lives or anything. I have a girlfriend who tells her mom all about her .... experiences. And that's just too weird for me. (reference: my friend is 36...not an inexperienced, just heading off to college teenager). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328482 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:06:27 +0000 lamariniere 1328482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely possible! My best friend is a guy and he is super close to his mom, much more so than with his dad. </p> <p>I'm hoping I will stay the light of my little boy's life for a looooong time to come. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328455 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:00:14 +0000 yoursilverlining 1328455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think more often, boys ARE closer to their moms than girls are. Sure my mom and I are friends now - but puberty through about age 25? Hells nah, we were not close! (And we have a healthy relationship, just normal not getting along stuff). My brother though; he's always loved on mom. He was never embarrassed to hug her in public, etc. they are closer than we are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328426 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:50:23 +0000 doodlepoodle 1328426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is 100% a mamas boy!!! I keep watching her so I can learn from her. I think the key is being very supportive but not smothering, he respects her opinion and lives her DEARLY. I encourage him to call her a lot more now that we have J because I hope j will learn from him ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328419 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:46:47 +0000 MoonMoon 1328419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Awww, I love hearing that! </p> <p>I'm following this thread with interest because I also assumed I was having a girl, but I have my beloved boy now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328400 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:40:26 +0000 Dandelion 1328400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 6 and loves his mom! We're very close :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328375 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:32:31 +0000 Greentea 1328375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All I know is I am 0% close with my mom! Was always closer with my Dad... so it has to work the other way around too.. right? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328366 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:29:30 +0000 artsyfartsy 1328366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grown husband did everything with his mom before she passed away. They were super close!</p> <p>I always pictured myself having girls. I'm one of three daughters and close to my mom. Surprise! We are having a boy! I've been wondering this too but DH and his mom were super close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328363 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:28:07 +0000 Mae 1328363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is possible, just not as common. Also I think that the relationship is just different. My husband loves his mom and enjoys spending time with her and cares about her, but he's a guy so he's just not all about chatting all the time. And I think that his mom and him maintain a good relationship because she totally gets that and doesn't push him or guilt him to call, she just accepts him for who he is and enjoys the time they do spend together. On the other hand, my husband's step mom guilts him like crazy every time he calls about not calling more, and he can't stand her. So.. yea. I think guys usually just aren't as chatty/involved as daughters are and it's better for the relationship to accept that than to try to guilt the relationship you want out of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328356 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:26:02 +0000 mrsjyw 1328356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is an only child and very close to his mom. </p> <p>My younger brother is also very close to our mom.</p> <p>I think that it is def possible for sons to have close relationships to their moms! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328346 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:24:42 +0000 buffalove 1328346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is super close with his mom, to the point where some women I know wouldn't like it. I think it's a good example to set for our DS that he can be very close with me as an adult and have a wife who respects their relationship :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328341 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:22:04 +0000 mrs. wagon 1328341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ohhh... btw... Wagon Sr. grew up SUPER close to his mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328337 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:21:07 +0000 Alivoo01 1328337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @mrs. wagon: . I'm a HUGE daddy's little girl, and was never really close to my mom. We're "closer" now, but I wouldn't say we have that special bond I hear and read about that others have.</p> <p>I sure hope DS will be close to me. I love him to smithereens and care for him like no other. I'd be so heart broken if we aren't later on in life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328336 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:20:30 +0000 Amelieisme 1328336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is soo close to his mom. We live in their city because DH won't leave (that's a bit of an exaggeration, but its definitely his preference). We go to their house for dinner weekly. His sister lives in another country, but they are "close" from a relationship standpoint, but I would say DH is closer to her. I'm not nearly as close to my mother as DH is to his! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328309 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:10:56 +0000 mrs. wagon 1328309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a word... absolutely!!</p> <p>I grew up not close to my mom whatsoever! I was closer to my dad. I'm close with my mom now, but that didn't start until my mid 20s. So if it can go the other way around (girls being closer to their dads), I'm sure boys can be as close (or closer!) to their moms as girls. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328307 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:10:33 +0000 Katrocap 1328307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: Good points. I definitely don't want to smother DS and would be heartbroken if my efforts to be close backfired. I'll keep your MIL's situation in mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328300 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:09:11 +0000 Katrocap 1328300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yerpie110: That's funny that we have had the same concerns about opposite genders.</p> <p>@mamamoose: I think you may be right about mother-daughter relationships blurring into friendships more than mother-son ones may. Obviously there are more experiences (and body parts) that women share.</p> <p>@mrbee: Glad to hear it, especially since your mom lives far away from you!</p> <p>@looch: @lilteacherbee: @stargal: @mamaof2: It's heartening to hear that your male loved ones are close to their mamas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328274 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:03:52 +0000 cascademom 1328274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so. My brother's not terribly close with my mom but that's him. My cousins are close with my aunt. DH isn't that close with MIL. I think that she pushed too much for close relationships with DH and BIL and it backfired. She gets uncomfortably close to DH especially when I'm around. I see her a blueprint of how not to act as a mom of a boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328270 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:03:16 +0000 lilteacherbee 1328270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I definitely think they can be! My husband is very close to his mom. I've always thought it was sweet, but I didn't fully appreciate it until my LO was born. He's only 8 weeks, but I hope he'll be a mama's boy ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328266 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:02:56 +0000 MamaMoose 1328266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is very close to his mom. But I do think that mothers and daughters have relationships that blurr into friendship more than mothers and sons, if that makes sense? I confide in my mother, whereas my husband really only confides in me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328252 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:00:30 +0000 yerpie110 1328252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother is way closer to my mom than I am (I'm much closer to my dad), and the same is with my DH and his sister. He's much closer to their mom, and she's much closer ther dad. It's funny that my fears about having a girl were the opposite of yours - would having a daughter mean that we'd never be close, especially when we're older? I'm hoping my relationship with her will break the family patterns, and here's hoping that your relationship with your son will too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328247 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:57:55 +0000 mrbee 1328247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm super close to my mom!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328236 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:56:48 +0000 stargal 1328236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I def think so! My hubby is super close to his mom and my brother and my mom were always super close to. I think it gas more to do with personalities then gender! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328232 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:56:05 +0000 looch 1328232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My father was very close to his mother, and then his two much older sisters who raised him.</p> <p>I think it comes down to what kind of effort you put into the relationship, you get out of it what you put in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-boys-be-as-close-to-their-moms-as-girls#post-1328231 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:55:56 +0000 Mamaof2 1328231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH isn't close with his mom but both of my brothers are - maybe not so much as teenagers but def as adults!!</p> <p>My DS is 5 and has been a mama's boy since birth..... I feel bad for his future bride :silly: </p>