https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 19:56:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-106875 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 15:00:36 +0000 googly-eyes 106875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww! I love that update! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-106846 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 14:22:56 +0000 birdofafeather 106846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: that update made me tear up! you look great and i'm glad your hubby realized that the jokes were hurting your feelings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105306 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 14:46:22 +0000 calsmom 105306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: What a great guy! Good to hear that he realized he messed up and will think next time before he speaks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105302 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 14:42:16 +0000 MsMini 105302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so glad he apologized! I was worried we were going to have to form a angry pregnant lady mob to school him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105259 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 13:59:20 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 105259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE:</p> <p>I just got a text message from DH that says:</p> <p>"I am sorry for hurting your feeling last night. I should have thought before I spoke. I had no intentions of being malicious or mean. You are so gorgeous, and if anything, I feel that throughout this whole pregnancy you have only become more beautiful to me. I love you."</p> <p>Man, even the nice stuff makes me cry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105055 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 12:02:08 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 105055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to add that he does say very nice things about me often, and I know he does like my baby bump and think that I look cute. He is very affectionate. However, when joking mood starts, the fat jokes come flying and I know he doesn't mean any harm. Im just sensitive to them now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105053 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 11:59:52 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 105053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: you're exactly right. This was kind of the dynamic in our relationship before, the jokes didn't use to bother me at all before preggo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105016 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 11:28:38 +0000 DillonLion 105016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No you are definitely not crazy for being offended. I'm extremely sensitive to those kind of comments (always have been), so DH knows to avoid them at all costs. I also get upset if he tries to rough house or play pranks on me. I'm boring. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-105011 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 11:27:10 +0000 Nskillet 105011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: yeah not cool. Maybe come clean about how you're struggling with your body image and that his jokes don't help that or your blood pressure! You need his support to feel beautiful right now, and constantly nagging you about getting back to the gym post baby with fat jokes make you feel really bad about yourself.</p> <p>DH and I always joke with one another but never about physical attributes or putting one another down. We are both way too sensitive for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104962 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 10:30:10 +0000 Goldilocks1107 104962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm angry at him for you! My parents made a few comments that made me cry, and I think DH wanted to punch them.<br /> He's realized that if he wants another baby, then the only appropriate comments are "you look like the cutest pregnant lady ever" and "your bump is so cute". Anything else gets him a swift punch to the arm, a glare, and a threat to never do this again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104734 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 07:59:04 +0000 heffalump 104734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You should talk to him about it. If you're used to joking like that, than he doesn't know any better. I bet if you tell him about your insecurities, he'll find something else to joke about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104731 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 07:56:23 +0000 Mrsbells 104731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You should just tell him, you dont want him to joke about your weight or looks.. there should be plenty of other things to joke about. I definitely wouldnt want someone making fun of my insecurity </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104699 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 07:30:45 +0000 chopsuey 104699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope.. We're the same way. Whenever DH's joking gets out of hand and borderline hurtful, I let him know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104687 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 07:19:26 +0000 tequiero21 104687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it's hard because you guys had that kinda dynamic to your relationship (sounds like).... but yeah, tell him that until you have the baby and lose it all, no more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104668 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 07:01:48 +0000 winniebee 104668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to smack him upside the head for you! I'd be upset, too! Jokey comments are hard enough when NOT pregnant - and are just kinda mean because now you are very pregnant AND on bedrest b/c of medical issues! And you are a hot, fit pregnant mama! You need to nicely find a way to tell him to put a lid on the body comments (and the comments about getting you back to the gym immediately post-baby). I agree with a PP about maybe even having the OB explain your post-baby recovery in front of him so that he has some understanding about what you are going to go through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104646 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 05:37:46 +0000 mediagirl 104646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, that's not funny anymore. I'd say mentioned something to him when you're not in joking mode, like when you're at dinner. He needs to know you're serious about it. Hey, it's okay if you cry when you tell him, you're sensitive about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104645 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 05:32:58 +0000 aunt pol 104645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Poor you, that's never nice to hear, especially when pregnant. We always have mess fights, but I'm just not able to hold back the tears of frustration anymore! It came to me with my hands around his neck, holdin him against the wall before he realised I was really not enjoying the scrap anymore! Wow just as I typed it I saw what it looked like- we don't hit each other, honest! But he did actually need me to do something totally obviously nuts to see I meant it.<br /> You need to catch him on a good day, if possible, and find a way to make him see that you're serious. Or, alternatively, you pack your bags and go to your mum's/sisters/friends house and stay there until he acknowledges he's been a dickhead and apologises extensively. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104637 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 03:08:40 +0000 DigAPony 104637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not crazy. That is totally unacceptable, pregnant or not. (But especially pregnant.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104631 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 02:42:50 +0000 googly-eyes 104631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I definitely think you need to tell him how it affects you. You are not crazy and I think I would just sit and cry if my DH said that to me! I wasn't really happy with my weight/body before I got pregnant but now that I have a person growing in me, it's out of my control and I couldn't change it if I wanted to, or at least not in a healthy way. What a coincidence that I am reading this post right now because I just opened an email from whattoexpect.com (or whatever it is) that said something like "dads, you need to banish the word 'fat' from your vocabulary." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104622 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 01:09:45 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 104622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I need to tell him (when i am not a crying sensitive mess) that the jokes are NOT OKAY! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104610 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 01:00:11 +0000 Penny Lane 104610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww, no you're not crazy, I totally understand.</p> <p>If I were in this situation, I would just tell him straight up that he's not allowed to make any more jokes about my body. I'm sure he'd understand...</p> <p>If it's making you cry, even if it's the hormones fault, it's not "all in good fun" anymore... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-please-rant-for-a-second#post-104605 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 00:43:45 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 104605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my DH soooo much, but he has been driving me bonkers lately. We are both super goofy people and we joke around A LOT. We are constantly playing pranks on each other and rough housing... he makes me laugh until I pee my pants!</p> <p>However, his teasing has gotten out of hand, and mixed with my raging hormones right now, it is just not okay anymore.<br /> Earlier this evening I was singing under my breath the lyrics "I can't live...." and he cut me off and asked "without a cheeseburger?" And then proceeded to call me "a beef cake." I know this may make you laugh, but I am super sensitive about my body right now and those kind of jokes hurt my feelings.<br /> Later, I was getting dressed in front of him and he said "geez, put that away, no one wants to see that!!!" He said he was just joking and that it was all in good fun, but it made me cry! I already feel horrible about myself... I don't get why he thinks it is okay to make fat jokes just because I am pregnant.<br /> He also comments on the size of my butt on a regular basis.</p> <p>Am I crazy for being irked about this?? </p>