https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 22:09:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit/page/2#post-2213295 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 09:26:09 +0000 psw27 2213295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yikes! Glad you said something, she is not being a good role model with her body issue if she thinks a birth mark is something to be ashamed of and thinks permanently covering it is necessary! Is she going to tell DD to get a boob job too? </p> <p>The pool safety issue is super concerning... I would not trust her with the kids either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit/page/2#post-2213254 Fri, 19 Jun 2015 09:10:04 +0000 Keybee 2213254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can't let her undermine you like that. Good job for saying something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit/page/2#post-2212799 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 21:03:27 +0000 irene 2212799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ouch. I am so sorry my dear.</p> <p>True, who does that? You should look out for a baby if they are about to fall into a pool even if you have absolutely no relationship with her at all! Maybe she is very drunk and even intoxicated...? I mean, she has the idea of taking a 3.5 year old to dye her hair and take her to get a tattoo at 16... I just can't help but think she is more of a wild child when she was younger and probably took/smoked something when she was drinking at the pool?</p> <p>If she says once again that she will take your child to get a tattoo when she is 16, just respond, OK, let's see if you can live long enough for that day. HAHAHAHAHA.</p> <p>Gah I would have left during the middle of the party. Sorry I would have totally flipped, grabbed my kids and go. Maybe between the 2nd and 3rd incident. And I wouldn't have talked to her or take my kids to see her ever again. You handled it with a lot of grace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit/page/2#post-2212560 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 17:21:40 +0000 birdofafeather 2212560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yuck. she sounds toxic and selfish and dangerous honestly. i would not be able to be around her again for a long long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212544 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 16:53:02 +0000 Ree723 2212544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy shit, she just let your baby go head first into the water without trying to stop her or grab her once she went in?!! WHO DOES THAT?!? I'm so glad you said something to her, and like others have said, there is no way in hell she'd be getting grandmother privileges anytime soon. Maybe once the girls are teenagers and can sort of fend for themselves, but until that, no way.</p> <p>I'm sorry, she sound awful :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212507 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 15:47:09 +0000 MrsH 2212507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:shocked: That is insane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212503 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 15:44:27 +0000 Truth Bombs 2212503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Forget grandmother what HUMAN wouldn't save a baby from falling into a hot tub?? I think you were absolutely right to say something to her and your husband should too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212496 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 15:38:47 +0000 Freckles 2212496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! Good for you in saying something. I'd be so pissed!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212493 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 15:36:25 +0000 bunnylove08 2212493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my... I really dont know what to say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212407 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 14:13:02 +0000 FaithFertility 2212407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate to say this but I think you just made all other MILs saints!!!!!!<br /> I am so so sorry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212384 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:59:13 +0000 rosegold 2212384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: omg!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212292 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:04:27 +0000 Kimberlybee 2212292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a crazy lady! Is she going through a midlife or personal crisis? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212284 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 13:00:52 +0000 mrbee 2212284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't trust her either. Glad you said something!!</p> <p>I think it'd be great if your DH also had a serious talking to her about how out of line she was! Just so she knows it's not just you who was upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212280 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:57:47 +0000 ValentineMommy 2212280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa. She sounds .... crazy.</p> <p>I have a very similar situation with my MIL. She fed dh's nephew peanut butter as a young child, after his mother told MIL that he hadn't had it yet and had risk for allergies. She waited until the minute the mom was out of the house and gave it to him. When the mom got back, MIL literally laughed in her face and was like "see, he's fine!". CRAZY.</p> <p>I wouldn't trust her with your kids, I think you're totally justified. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212265 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:49:07 +0000 edelweiss 2212265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>so proud of what you said and how you handled it. her comments/behavior are bizarre and dangerous. sounds like she is super attention seeking or something, making weird comments about the tattoo and hair dye. glad DH is on board with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212254 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:39:57 +0000 LulaBee 2212254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Crazy pants. All of it. Good for you, mama! The hot tub, the sweets, the hair dye, and the tattoo?? That's the sort of attitude that can make your DD feel bad about her birthmark. My DD has one on her ribs, and I would never tell her it's ugly/she needs to cover it up! And I have lots of tattoos (and have had pink hair in the past). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212232 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:28:22 +0000 yellowbird 2212232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What!?!?!? I just can't fathom her not rescuing her own grandchild!! I'm glad you told her the truth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212191 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:00:47 +0000 Adira 2212191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What the WHAT??? She sounds insane!! So glad you gave her a piece of your mind and that your husband is totally on your side! What a nut! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212163 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:39:21 +0000 regberadaisy 2212163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok I totally did a fist pimp. Go you for having the balls to put your MIL in her place. The sweets part would've pissed me off and the hot tub? I have no words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212158 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:37:10 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2212158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Good for you for standing up for yourself! I'm glad that your DH is on your side. Who wouldn't save their grandchild?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212155 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:35:06 +0000 LuLu Mom 2212155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG what grandmother doesn't have the maternal instinct to JUMP up and prevent baby from going in water?? that is a no brainer that any parent (and most non-parents) would feel to "save baby" who obviously can't swim. I would NEVER allow her to babysit, I couldn't trust her. The snacks are one thing (DH aunt is notorious for doing this and I have a hard time biting my tongue with her.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212154 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:34:49 +0000 Anya 2212154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow.. the sweets things seems par for the course for grandparents (not that that makes it ok) but holy moly the rest is just crazy town! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212144 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:22:09 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2212144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa!! I can't believe what you are dealing with there! I mean, she's the grandmother! There's spoiling and then there's just crazy, nonsensical behavior. My DH &amp; I are already having the no sugar conversation with his parents, b/c they give so much sugar to our nieces and nephews, when our daughter is older we know this will be an issue. but I certainly would trust them regarding safety and not doing crazy things like dying hair of a two and a half year old! :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212126 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:08:36 +0000 DillonLion 2212126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UGH! I have similar issues with certain family members. I'm so sorry that is awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212121 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:06:50 +0000 MamaG 2212121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I applaud you standing your ground and speaking your mind. Family is harder than it should be most of the time, which is truly unfortunate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212115 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 11:00:44 +0000 kjpugs 2212115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG, that sounds awful. I can't get past the hair and the hot tub but the rest is pretty awful too. I would be limiting visits period. This sounds like how my MIL would be if we allowed her to be at all involved... one of the few times having 1,000 miles between us and family is good. Hope you can take some time off and allow yourself to decompress... it is just so much on a parent to deal with stuff like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212105 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 10:55:57 +0000 avivoca 2212105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is absolutely justified! I can't believe her. You said the right thing. She needs to respect you as a parent.</p> <p>Gah. I'm sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212095 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 10:52:13 +0000 Mama Bird 2212095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:shocked: your venting seems every bit justified. Glad you stood up to her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212093 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 10:51:25 +0000 shellio 2212093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy cow. Good for you for standing up to her - I'm glad you said something. I agree with PPs - I would not want my kids there even with me present, and it sounds like you aren't excited to go back anyway. And no way would I want her alone with my kids, pool or no pool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-vent-about-my-mil-for-a-bit#post-2212069 Thu, 18 Jun 2015 10:38:21 +0000 simplyfelicity 2212069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WOW! :shocked: Good for you for standing up for yourself and your girls. I know grandmothers like to give sweets etc but the hot tub?! </p>