https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:43:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1045394 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 00:02:20 +0000 yoursilverlining 1045394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I had a nanny, or were a nanny, I would handle social media in the same way I would handle it in any other profession: don't abuse it during work hours, and don't bitch about work online. Are you going to hop online now and then during work hours? Yes, and that's ok. </p> <p>With a nanny, there are more privacy concerns than some jobs, but to expect someone to not have a personal Facebook account or to not hop online at all all day long seems frankly, crazy. Let's not all pretend that we're not ALL on a type of social media (a forum) during the day, when we're suppose to be working, whether we be SAHM or WAHM or WOHM.</p> <p>I wouldn't mind my (hypothetical) nanny sharing about her day now and then; that seems totally normal, and understandable. </p> <p>I dunno...it just seems like a basic conversation; set up expectations. Social media isn't going anywhere, so it's good to talk about what's ok to you, and what's not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1045392 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 00:01:36 +0000 lamariniere 1045392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to be a nanny (live out), although it was long before social media existed. ;-)</p> <p>I think common sense is the key here along with full disclosure to the parents. I also think that with ANY job related to working with children the caregiver should have an open discussion with the parents first as to if and under what circumstances any allusion to or photos of the children could be made public. </p> <p>If I were a nanny now in the days of social media, I personally would not post about children under my care, it is just not my thing. However, I see nothing wrong with it if the parents are fully aware of what is going on. I have a few fb friends who are either nannies or families with nannies and the nannies will occasionally post photos of the children, but the parents are always informed and are tagged in the photos. </p> <p>As a side note, I find it unprofessional in general when people make comments about work related things that give too many details about one's job, especially when the jobs involve children, patients or allusions to specific coworkers. It's one thing to day "I love/hate my job", but another thing entirely when someone could potentially piece together information about a specific person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1045364 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 23:23:23 +0000 Purpledaisy 1045364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm the odd one out here. If we had a nanny I wouldn't neccessarily mind her post some pictures of my daughter on fb or writing a little bit about their day sometimes. I would ask her not to check them in places because I don't do that either and find it kind of creepy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1045295 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 21:30:41 +0000 Boheme 1045295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A nanny/SAHM will be watching DS and another little girl when I go back to work. She posts pics of her kids along with the other girl, but I am going to have to tell her I'm not ok with her posting pics of DS. I don't know who her FB friends are. Also, with my husband's job, we don't post pics or locations of our son on Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1045265 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 21:09:51 +0000 PinkElephant 1045265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our live-in nanny has Facebook but she does not (and would not be permitted to) share pictures of my daughter, nor does she do status updates about her. Her profile is way too public for my tastes, and I don't know who her FB friends are, so for safety reasons I definitely would not want her to check in anywhere with LO or share where they are going. If she wants to meet an approved nanny-friend at a park with my daughter that's fine, but it can be arranged offline.</p> <p>Our nanny does photograph our daughter and shares the photos with her mom in her home country via email. That I'm okay with. It would be sad not to let her share her life with us with her family at home, in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044889 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 18:08:47 +0000 Cole 1044889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been a nanny/teacher for a long time and I have definitely adjusted my privacy standards as a result-- but I am also a very private person. I don't use Facebook, my twitter and instagram accounts are pretty anonymous, rarely used and never include any info at all about the families I work for. I occasionally will ask a question on message boards about a situation I am dealing with but I keep any remotely identifying info private or change non-important details around (and I have chatted with the parents about it, they are fine with it and don't see the need to be as private as I am.)</p> <p>I often work long days and an odd schedule, some days I benefit from a 3 hour nap or maybe I have to just sit and wait for an after school activity to finish up so I might visit this site or poke through instagram briefly during that time. Again, I have chatted about this with the parents and they are all more than ok with how I manage my time. All media is off during my time with the children and my attention is given to them. </p> <p>I do often wonder what people think when I am responding to texts or am on the phone when I am with the kids but it is always job related (parents, grandparents, play dates, doctors etc.). We live in a small close knit community and there is always someone around who knows me or the kids and if I just have the big kids they do not need hovering attention like a toddler might. </p> <p>All in all, I think I handle it about as well as possible but again I think that is simply my nature. I do think it is slightly off putting to people when I am interviewing because I am almost impossible to google :happy: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044880 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 18:04:34 +0000 travelingnanny 1044880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie- Oh, ha! Oops!</p> <p>@chopsuey- I don't actually post where we are going. Actually saying we were going to the beach was the first time I even mentioned going anywhere. It was pretty vague. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044876 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 18:02:32 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1044876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a kid yet, but I would not like anyone sharing their picture/information on social media. It makes me cringe to see teacher friends posting about their students on FB. The children and the parents have a privacy right and without express consent I would not be okay with sharing their information/image online. </p> <p>Although I blast myself all over FB, I think it's different with children -- they don't have the awareness/choice in what gets posted about them. It makes me really uncomfortable to see that some of these kids have an extensive online profile already and they're just a few months old. But that is just me personally. I don't plan on sharing ultrasounds on FB and only limited photos of the kids. But I totally enjoy seeing updates from my friends/family so I guess I'm just a huge hypocrite ;-)</p> <p>ETA I totally wouldn't care if they had their own FB account, I just wouldn't want them posting about my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044873 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:59:57 +0000 chopsuey 1044873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just looked back at the thread and saw that I commented! I wouldn't want my nanny on FB or on her phone while she was watching my kids. Wouldn't mind if she hopped online while the kids were asleep though (unless part of her job description was to do household chores). </p> <p>Definitely wouldn't want her posting pics of the kids or telling her "friends" where she was headed with them either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044872 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:59:47 +0000 sorrycharlie 1044872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought the commenters meant on Facebook while working - not that they couldn't have a Facebook account for personal use :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044871 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:59:33 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1044871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I watch a few children, and never ever talk about them. The most I've ever said is here when I've said I watch them. I posted gold about a girl one time and thought better of it and had the thread deleted. </p> <p>I think it's common sense though to not talk about someone else's child on social media. I tell parents that I'll never talk about their kids or blog. The only reason I ever take a picture is to send it to the parent.</p> <p>Your situation sounds unique, and it is truly between you and the parents. Based on the other thread, I would assume you will get similar responses here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044869 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:59:18 +0000 travelingnanny 1044869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks- Your nanny sounds like me. It definitely does boil down to common sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044865 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:56:31 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1044865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our nanny is family at this point. She shows great judgment with her social media use. Sometimes she'll make an oblique comment about her job, but not about the girls.</p> <p>In her contract, we actually wrote in that she should not do check ins or post pictures of the girls and she happily obliges us on that!</p> <p>She knows a ton about our lives, but of course she's going to. She spends 40+ hours a week with the family!</p> <p>I think good common sense and a strong sense that the parents are indeed Facebook friends with you should be the guiding principles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-we-talk-about-nannies-and-social-media-privacy#post-1044857 Mon, 26 Aug 2013 17:51:43 +0000 travelingnanny 1044857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry this is long and rambly. Hopefully as we chat I can clear things up :)</p> <p>This has been on my mind for a while and I'd love to talk about it. There was once a thread (<a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nannyfacebook-status-is-it-just-me" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nannyfacebook-status-is-it-just-me</a>) that talked about a nanny using facebook to talk about work stuff. Some of the commenters said that they would not want their nanny on social media at all. I may be biased but I thought that was a bit extreme. I mean, nannies do have lives outside of watching children, right? What do you think is ok/ not ok to do? Again, I might be biased, but I don't think saying something about your day is that bad. I know my FB/ twitter friends don't want to hear all about the my day to day stuff but sometimes I say things like baby and I are headed to the beach with X friend! What a rough life, right ; )</p> <p>I know I censor myself a lot. I mean, sure I'll answer things on here but it isn't anything major. I don't post pictures but the parents would totally be ok if I did. They even encouraged me to blog about our unique situation. I absolutely, under no circumstances say anything about the parent's life (like money, where they work, or most things, actually). </p> <p>Going off of this- some bees (is that what the commenters refer to themselves as?) said they would never want to have a live-in nanny due to privacy reason. As a live-in nanny this did surprise me. Can you elaborate more on that? </p> <p>So, long post later, I'd love to chat about privacy and nannies (or childcare works in general). I really want to become more open on here because I could use some advice on a few things. </p>