https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 21:36:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103949 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 12:33:24 +0000 tequiero21 103949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wow. no offense, i'd be miserable with your fil. i think my fil and mil talk to me more than my hubby, their own son.... there's sometimes some communication barrier because they pretty much speak strictly korean but we get basic stuff through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103927 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 12:26:44 +0000 mrs. wagon 103927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that's bizarre. Thankfully my MIL is very communicative and sensitive so we do have good communication... that is, when I let it happen. She's a little too much to the other extreme-- she wants us to be best friends, she calls me her real daughter, etc. I don't even have that close of a relationship with my OWN mother! But we have a good understanding of each other... it just takes work to be on the same page all of the time. But I know I'm lucky because at least she's willing to meet me halfway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103917 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 12:23:34 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 103917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, that seems a little odd to me, but then again I think everyones family situation are just like mine. A+.</p> <p>I have great communication with my inlaws. I speak on the phone with them regularly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103892 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 12:04:31 +0000 joyjoy 103892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly. I get along very well with MIL, BIL, SIL and the aunts, uncles and cousins on his side of the family. FIL is a different story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103885 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 11:59:19 +0000 Modern Daisy 103885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm intrigued to hear what the rules of the house are!</p> <p>Thankfully, yes. We keep in touch with emails about DH and upcoming visits and when we're together we get along very well. My FIL definitely isn't a big talker, but I feel comfortable around him just lounging in silence so it works out either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103876 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 11:54:47 +0000 winniebee 103876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Jeepers! Sorry he is so awkward!!</p> <p>My FIL is deceased (he died many years ago) but MIL and I communicate well - she speaks her mind and generally so do I : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103869 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 11:50:45 +0000 heffalump 103869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got very lucky with my inlaws. They're like a second set of parents to me, and always there when I need them. Especially to talk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103834 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 11:24:12 +0000 lilteacherbee 103834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we lived with them for a few months, so thankfully we communicate well. I don't have the typical "in-law" issues that many people have, though DH has them with my family. My in-laws are amazing people who I think of as a second family and have since we started dating. I'm very comfortable with both of them. My family, though, is a whole different story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103828 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 11:17:14 +0000 BSB 103828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I can. Although, I do feel like I can easily offend the MIL, so I try not to talk to her about anything serious. </p> <p>My husband can probably say he can't communicate with my parents. My mom is quiet and doesn't talk much to him. My dad is off in his own little world. They don't have anything against him, it's just the language barrier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103797 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 10:55:20 +0000 mamabolt 103797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL is a social worker so she's a great communicator, but we still don't talk much. DH talks to her almost every day though so she stays up to date with our lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103775 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 10:34:47 +0000 Alivoo01 103775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's a slight language barrier between me and my in-laws, but I have picked up a lot of their language and they speak/understand English fairly well. However, they're still considered "old school" so even though I tell them one thing, they'll continue doing it their way because that's how it "always" done. If it upsets me enough, I let the hubby know and he sets them straight. LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103742 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:50:11 +0000 kml636 103742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>omg. That is so wierd. I don't really communicate with mine though, ocassionally over email or text but mostly through my husband. I dont' know why, we are still in that awkward stage I suppose after three years and seeing them twice a year !!! ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103740 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:49:07 +0000 PBandBaseball 103740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: I'm the same way with the phone calls. I always ask the hubs to call my MIL if I have a question. I still feel sort of awkward when I talk to her on the phone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103737 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:46:39 +0000 LuLu Mom 103737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I communicate great with my in laws. Although we don't talk on the phone, whenever I need something from my MIL I have my DH call her, I don't know I just feel weird calling her for stuff. They have always made me feel part of the family from the very beginning! My MIL is just happy DH found someone to marry (and that they like me), they thought he was going to be a bachelor forever (her words not mine!) haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103736 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:46:35 +0000 mediagirl 103736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: it is a miracle. I think he got the good from both and none of the bad that I can't handle. :) Otherwise we wouldn't be together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103734 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:45:13 +0000 MrsBrewer 103734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Sometimes you have to wonder how your own SO turned out the way they did :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103733 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:44:47 +0000 MrsBrewer 103733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Same at our place! Although I have to say both of our families (his side and mine) are very relaxed and open. Sorry your in laws aren't easier to work with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103726 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:42:55 +0000 PBandBaseball 103726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a good relationship with my in-laws when we see them. They are in NC &amp; we're in GA, so it's not very often. We don't talk on the phone or email each other, but they are very nice people. </p> <p>The hubs has two brothers and a sister and we aren't really close with them either. One of his brothers has lived in the same town as us for almost 2 years and I think we've seen him here in town 3 times. Super weird but the siblings just aren't very social with each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103720 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:38:32 +0000 Nskillet 103720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I communicate well with all my in-laws. Both DH and I have divorced and all remarried/in committed relationship parents so we have double duty. The only thing I need to work on is being more assertive with my husbands Dad/stepmom. Example, im planning a surprise party for my husbands 30th and my husbands stepmom has been a bit overbearing with ideas/cost of things. She also made me miss an appt with my caterer last week because she's so flighty. I need to learn how to put my foot down more! We are both way too accommodating with family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103712 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:31:11 +0000 mediagirl 103712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: well there certainly aren't any at MY parents house other than treat everyone and everything the same way you would like to be treated, you know? I just shake my head... :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103709 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:30:35 +0000 regberadaisy 103709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl:<br /> That is really weird. Is there a "cultural" reason?</p> <p>But yes, I can. I was quite shocked at how open they were in welcoming me into the family especially his grandmother! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103707 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:29:13 +0000 MrsBrewer 103707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Hahahah ohhh, I'm just like......man....I don't think I know any rules? hahaha But that makes sense now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103700 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:26:23 +0000 mediagirl 103700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Like no shoes in the house, where the dogs are allowed to go, that sort of thing. We don't see them all that often....it's a good thing. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103697 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:24:07 +0000 sorrycharlie 103697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sheesh! what are the rules of the house?? that's so bizarre.</p> <p>we live in the other side of my ILs duplex (yay, us..) so I'd say we communicate pretty well. they have a *great* amount of views I do *not* agree with, so I am pretty vocal when they're doing it in front of me on purpose (mainly FIL and BIL). I just leave. they've learned now because I never go over - and if I do, they're generally on good behavior. doesn't mean they don't say/do those things behind my back..I just don't like to associate myself with it.</p> <p>(not saying I ignore everyone who disagrees with me! but personal issues such as gay marriage/homosexuals in general, and racial issues they really push my supportive buttons on) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103690 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:19:30 +0000 MrsBrewer 103690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rules of the house? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103685 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:16:44 +0000 mrsjyw 103685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Fortunately, yes. Throughout dating, I would be invited to dinner, family functions. Being that DH is an only child, they treat me like the daughter they never had :) </p> <p>We try to eat dinner with them a couple of times a month and I spend time with them alone as well (my office is only a few miles away from their house). I call MIL every once in a while to check in on her if we haven't seen them in a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103680 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:15:32 +0000 chopsuey 103680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws are GREAT communicators! I sat talking with them for hours after my LO went down for the night (when we were visiting a couple months ago). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-communicate-with-your-in-laws#post-103677 Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:14:26 +0000 mediagirl 103677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whenever we go to visit my in-laws (which isn't very often) my FIL pulls my husband aside to tell him the "rules of the house." He expects my husband to pass these on to me. He hardly ever speaks to me directly. This makes communicating with him very difficult. I mostly just avoid him when we're at their house or if they are at ours. It makes me passing on our "house rules" very difficult, as well (see the shoes in the house post). </p> <p>Do you communicate well with your in-laws? </p>