https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Jul 2026 14:47:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213521 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 16:42:03 +0000 calsmom 213521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm almost always forgiving. There are a few instances that I have cut people out of my life because I cannot forgive them for their wrongdoings, but that is very rare for me to not forgive. Forget is a completely different issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213456 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 15:47:49 +0000 edelweiss 213456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm not good with either--ha! yes, it's something i need to work on. sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213361 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 14:41:46 +0000 Mrs. Mousie 213361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree Mr Bee. I'm doing much better on the forgiving part, but I'm not so good on the forgetting. I think sometimes when someone wrongs you, it's best not to forget because they've shown their true colours, and it's a lesson you've learned about them. It's a healthy dose of reality that not everyone is the charmer they portray themselves to be. What's the saying, a leopard never changes its spots? I've always found that to be true! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213350 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 14:37:35 +0000 littlebug 213350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the situation, I think. And how often it happens. And if I really felt this was the person's nature or if it was a total f*ck-up. </p> <p>For example, I have a friend who consistently disappoints me and lets me down. I kept forgiving her but I'm starting to not care anymore. I'm starting to just distance myself from her. Were they big hurts? No, but adding them up over the past 10 years, and I've had enough. Anymore, I just feel bitter towards her.</p> <p>But then 3 years ago, my boyfriend cheated on me. I was deeply hurt, but I knew it was a one-time huge f*ck-up and not who he really is. I forgave him, we got back together, we got married, and I don't really even think about it anymore. Will I ever forget it? No. Do I hold it against him? Never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213342 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 14:32:09 +0000 Alivoo01 213342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Forgiving - yes, forget - extremely hard to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213299 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 14:07:13 +0000 MsLipGloss 213299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrBee: I agree. For the most part, I can forgive and forget (sometimes it has come back to haunt me, but I digress). </p> <p>However, for those few times when I have felt horribly betrayed by someone close to me, I can move past it, but the love and warmth either never come back, or never come back to anywhere near the levels they were prior to the betrayal. </p> <p>I don't know that I would consider that *holding a grudge* as much as I would consider it as *proceeding with caution.* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213202 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:29:50 +0000 autumnlove 213202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can forgive and forget pretty easily if the apology sounds sincere. "Just let it go" is the best advice I've been given about grudges! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213201 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:29:33 +0000 Modern Daisy 213201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on who it is and if they actually apologize or not. I'm also a really big keeper-up-of-appearances type of person so I tend to just pretend like nothing ever happened even if I still remember the wrongdoing. But for the most part if someone genuinely apologizes I will 'forget' it in addition to forgiving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213196 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:17:51 +0000 MamaMoose 213196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can hold a serious grudge. It's actually something I'm really trying to work on because sometimes it's just not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213190 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 12:10:48 +0000 SleepyMonkey 213190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I can hold a grudge forever and remember how people have wronged me. I still remember things people did to me in high school and before that. Forgive maybe but I never forget! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213132 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:29:40 +0000 Maysprout 213132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends. If someone apologizes then sure, though if it keeps happening then the apologies start seeming empty.</p> <p>Sometimes it means readjusting how I view them and accepting them for who they are. Sometimes though there might be forgiveness but if they're not at a point in their life where they see how they're hurting others with their actions I don't think it's worth forgetting because it will probably happen again. </p> <p>Forgiveness when the person hasn't asked for an apology seems like conflict is going to keep reemerging because the underlying problem hasn't been resolved. And it's more a way to avoid conflict to just say oh well I forgive them, well what's forgiveness mean if the other person doesn't think they've done anything wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213116 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:25:46 +0000 mrsjyw 213116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With time, yep. Always forgiving, but forgetting is really hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213112 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:22:51 +0000 lilteacherbee 213112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of the time I can, but it usually takes awhile. My friend did something to hurt my feelings in January and we didn't talk until April. I can forgive, but the forgetting part is what gets me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213107 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:20:37 +0000 LuLu Mom 213107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on the situation and how close the person is to me. I have a hard time forgetting for sure, but I am easy to forgive if it's a person who means a lot to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213072 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:58:08 +0000 matador84 213072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed. I can definitely forgive...but sometimes it's hard to let bygones be bygones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213062 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:49:11 +0000 Honeybee 213062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the offense; I don't usually hold a grudge, but I might remove someone from my life, if they've proven themselves to be untrustworthy/too dramatic/etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213057 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:47:59 +0000 chopsuey 213057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Sometimes I hate that I can though.<br /> I'm way too forgiving of a person. But s'all good I suppose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-forgive-and-forget#post-213055 Fri, 06 Jul 2012 10:47:11 +0000 mrbee 213055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I feel that someone has truly wronged me, I can forgive them... but the love and warmth that I had in my heart often disappears. I can try and try to bring it back, but I have never been able to do so.</p> <p>I'm a big believer in forgive and forget, but I haven't had a lot of luck with the forget part.</p> <p>Can you forgive and forget? </p>