https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 22:35:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2813935 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 10:31:31 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2813935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can it be done, of course. Is it always easy/feasible, no. </p> <p>I think this totally depends on the ages of the kids. When the youngest is under age 2 or 2.5, its tough going out whether you have one kid or four kids. Thats just a tough age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2813015 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 02:36:08 +0000 Purpledaisy 2813015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that it totally depends on your personality. I know people that can barely handle one (like my BIL and SIL won't take their only child who is 5 to the grocery store) and people that have 3-4 and go out with zero issue. I feel that the more laid back you are the easier it is to deal with multiple kids. </p> <p>I have two and hope to have a third. I have no issues taking my two out and about by myself. I'm hoping that adding on a third won't push me over the edge😬😂. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2812644 Wed, 28 Mar 2018 15:59:55 +0000 MrsTal 2812644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I SAH have to get out of the house otherwise I would lose my mind. My oldest is 3 and I had twins four months ago and we have already done a couple trips to our zoo and usually get out and about several times a week. I never expected to have three, the twins were a shock. I had decided before baby number two that I wasn't going to change the way the oldest and I did things just because DH and I added to our family. That motto carried over to the twins but I did give myself a little more leeway at first with getting them all out of the house. We too do an annual trip to Disney and December will be our first trip with all three, I'm nervous but we don't have much choice since number three came with number two, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2812636 Wed, 28 Mar 2018 15:06:01 +0000 anonysquire 2812636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I have 4 and I SAH and we go out alone everyday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811407 Fri, 23 Mar 2018 04:54:54 +0000 Pumuckl 2811407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not quite what you're asking as we have 4 LOs and I don't SAH but we do take them out a lot. It is always a little funny because people will seriously stop and stare at us (not sure whether that is because it is uncommon to see 4 kids in general or whether it is because it is a set of twins). We get a lot of comments about how brave we are. While we prefer taking them out together both of us have regularly taken them out by ourselves as well. I think it is just very much a personality thing. I have found that people which are probably more laid-back parents generally seem to have an easier time than anxious and type A-parents. But that is just my subjective POV. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811392 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 21:06:48 +0000 cabbagerose 2811392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had three children , before the youngest was one I was a single mom. So I had a one year old, two year old and a five year old. I had to have rules and worked hard to make them behave. I was at home with them and started a home daycare. Since I worked at home I could not wait to get out of the house. We went to all of the weekend festivals , went on vacations (cruises, Walt Disney World , trips to the beach and lake). It can be done it is a lot of work. Loved it and would not change anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811379 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 19:48:46 +0000 skipra 2811379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely doable and once you get used to it, it's just a new normal and you don't even think about it. For reference I am SAHM to a 5, 3, and 1 year old..<br /> The thing that's different with a third is that your oldest is that much older than when your second was a baby, he or she already knows what it's like to share attention, and is better able to help out when you need it. Even little things like walking through a parking lot you can carry the baby, hold the middle child's hand and tell your oldest to hold a siblings hand and s/he is probably old enough to understand and do it.<br /> The hardest thing, like others have mentioned is that to get out and do things you are just juggling the mood of another temperamental person and for a while someone may forever either be napping or needing a nap but those days are fleeting and before you know it no one will be napping anymore. To be honest i am more nervous about being able to handle 3 teenagers than how can i manage to go food shopping with 3 kids 5 and under. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811373 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 19:27:02 +0000 Tanjowen 2811373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: So my best friend has 3 kids under age 5 and I have 2 kids under age 4. Both our husbands are pilots that are gone 4-6 days a week. I think you find your rhythm and you just...survive. It's hard but manageable. Having a daily schedule and sticking to it works for us, so that when DH steps back in from work he can easily know what is going on and step in to help.</p> <p>Also key for both our family's is a mom's morning out program. It helps for scheduling doctor appointments/ hair cuts/ etc. for ourselves when we don't have extra hands to help. My friend joined a local mom's group that offers child care while mom's get to have coffee and chat. Figuring out ways to carve out even an hour a day for yourself I think are important - and so is an early bedtime. :silly: </p> <p>I would totally have a 3rd if I knew I could handle the post-partum period better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811366 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 18:58:14 +0000 coopsmama 2811366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 4, 3 and 1 and it is not a problem to get out with the three of them by myself. Honestly I have had to train them though - if they start getting crazy and not listening, we go home. (Obviously I account for the fact that they are kids and if they are loud and make messes or something that is one thing - but if they run in a parking lot or leave me in a store we have left immediately. Usually only takes once for them to miss out on something and they never do it again!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811358 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 17:56:28 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2811358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamatimes3: love to hear your perspective. I know things will change when my littlest gets mobile and mine are a similar age spacing as yours. One thing that's hard is doing some toddler classes with a baby. So far we've had to rotate between me dh and grandma coming over (she stayed overnight and helped out but now those days have ended) and taking my toddler while the oldest is in school and the youngest is with the other adult. Haven't totally figured out how we will do things long term! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811321 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:49:35 +0000 rattles 2811321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: oh my gosh, the laundry! It's such a Sisyphean task! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811320 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:46:08 +0000 rattles 2811320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally manageable! I know it varies by person, but for me it has been easier to adjust with each new addition to the family. Mine are 5, 3 and 9 months. The youngest are home with me full time, and the oldest is in preK three days a week. I'm always out and about with them, and contrary to what I expected, it's really no big deal. I prioritize afternoon nap time, but the baby gets stuck with car/carrier naps a few mornings a week. Otherwise, it's just not a big deal, and the big sibs are only getting more capable and responsible. It's definitely nice if you can have a couple of families with multiple kiddos too to make play dates less specific to one kid. In sum, wear the baby, and you still have a hand for each kiddo :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811313 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:32:50 +0000 winniebee 2811313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 3 (almost 6, 3, and 9 months) and at first it was hard to be out and about with all 3, mostly b/c the middle child would run off if I was nursing or something. But now, it's not bad at all. The oldest one helps me out and keeps the 3 year old in check and baby is on a schedule. We go out and about all the time and I solo parent a lot b/c of my husband's work schedule. The laundry is INSANE though. Ha! We have a nanny 4 days b/c I work and thankfully she really helps in that dept. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811312 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:29:35 +0000 DesertDreams88 2811312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend has 3 - they are 6, 4, and 2. She is a SAHM and there was a year where all 3 were home with her - when the baby was a baby and the older girls were 3-4 (the oldest went to preschool when she turned 5). </p> <p>She would go out every day with them and baby would just nap in the carseat. She felt all the kids were better behaved when they were out, vs. stuck inside. They mainly went to the park, library storytimes, and errands/grocery shopping - so it was all short car trips. She kept a bag packed in the car for each kid, to minimize prep time for going out. </p> <p>Park time: Our weather is good 95% of the time here so the park is always an option. She would go with many other moms, so they could help watch each other's kids.</p> <p>Library times: Tons of adults around available to help if need be.</p> <p>Errands: Some combinations of babywearing, carts with 2 seats, and/or her oldest walking (her oldest is great at following directions and "helping")</p> <p>Two things that help:<br /> - Her 2 older ones are close in age and same gender, so they have similar needs / interests / ability levels.<br /> - Her husband is a teacher so he's home at 3:30pm, off on breaks, and does grading/planning after bed or during work lunches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811309 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:23:48 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2811309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I got pregnant now, absolutely. We have 2 boys who are 5.5 and 2.5, so by the time I would have another, they'd be over 6 and 3. My older boy is very self sufficient. He would help with the middle, and I would have the youngest. I wouldn't say it would be simple, but DS2 is far more self sufficient at his age than DS1 was. It might be a first child vs. second child thing, but he's much better at communicating his needs as well. </p> <p>I would think that people who do it back to back ...it may be a bit harder for them as they have a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a newborn. That would be a bit harder as those ages for my kids were harder. I think it has to do with the spacing of children too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811303 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:13:26 +0000 snowjewelz 2811303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@annem1990: Yess I have some friends with just 1 asking me ALL the time how I have 2 close together b/c they can barely handle 1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811300 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 14:07:48 +0000 josina 2811300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a great question and I'm loving all the answers!<br /> I have 2 LO's right now and I rarely run errands with both of them so 3 does seem very daunting! It's a good perspective as I talk myself out of 3 for my husband's sake. (He wants to be done). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811294 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 13:59:40 +0000 annem1990 2811294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nanny twins and have my own LO who I bring with :happy:<br /> It’s definitely challenging at times, but I love it. We go places almost every day. The only place I probably wouldn’t feel comfortable going on my own is a pool. My LO is in the Tula carrier a ton and naps in it like a champ. I don’t feel like we have to be tied down just for his sleep. </p> <p>I have friends who have a hard time just getting out of the house with one. I think it’s all perspective. If you’re a go-getter and enjoy being out, you’ll make it happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811292 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 13:55:50 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2811292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's harder to do things that require sitting still or a strict schedule but honestly just like with two I have a much harder time when we spend too much time in the house. It's harder because of three different schedules and sets of needs. Two of mine are napping age. But this part is temporary! It was overwhelming for me the first two months in the middle of cold and flu season but we are coming out of our fog! They are almost 3 months, 2.5, 5.5. Don't get me wrong it's for sure harder so far but I can't imagine not having my third! Also if you have a lot of support/help it'll be easier. We moved to where it's an hour or two drive each way from MIL who is mostly our only help besides lo1 going to school. And my dh works a schedule that always changes even up to the day or week before. They change times add or move days etc. Usually 10 hour shifts right now but he's done 8s, 12s, days, nights, mids (worked up to like 20 hrs straight no breaks when it gets busy even when we were expecting him home..). I work very very pt and that's when we use our MIL help! We had two dinners out last year sans kids. So I totally get where you're coming from with needing to be able to do it alone! I just remind myself a) eventually bedtime will be here 😂 And b) people have more than 3 or less than 2 parents and sometimes both. Can't imagine not having my third anymore! But I'm def done, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811287 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 13:45:02 +0000 birdofafeather 2811287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i sure hope so because #3 is due in 5 weeks! DH works 24 hour shifts (sometimes 48s or 72s) and if i didn't go out solo with the kids, i would go crazy. but i'm very social, have a pretty high tolerance for tom foolery (to a point!) and my kids are fine with a flexible routine so i'm not freaking out if i don't get someone to bed at the exact right time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811249 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 11:52:46 +0000 cyndistar3 2811249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It totally depends person to person, I have 3 girls ages 9, almost 6 and 3, I'm also due on the 28th with our first boy. We go out most days of the week, it's been harder being super pregnant but it's still doable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811234 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 11:18:12 +0000 PinkElephant 2811234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have three kids (5.75, almost 4, and almost 18 months), and am definitely capable of doing pretty much anything alone with all three of them (going out to dinner, the grocery store, etc.) - but my tolerance for doing any particular thing varies widely, and depends on the day/everyone's moods! :) </p> <p>We do park/fun outings all the time, dinner once and a while, and I avoid non-fun-for-them things (grocery store, Target) with all three whenever I can, simply because it's less productive for me/takes longer, and more importantly, I can't make sneaky purchases (gifts for one of them, Easter Bunny candy, etc.) with all three present. I don't like to do long drives with all three - two hours is probably about my max at the moment. I'm flying alone with all three for the first time tomorrow, so I'll let you know how that is! </p> <p>I have to say, it's less about "handling" them and more about what is convenient/fun/age appropriate for all three. I find that there are some things we haven't done as a family (water park, skiing) because someone is still too young and one adult would miss out/we wouldn't really be doing it "as a family" - but there's rarely anything we don't do because we "can't handle three kids" out and about. Are there days I skip things because someone is in a foul mood/conditions aren't optimum, and it seems like more than I can handle? Sure, but I'd probably still do that if I only had two...it might just be a tiny bit more frequently since I have the needs of three (more) kids to consider. My "it'll get easier" milestone is for my youngest to be able to walk independently...although then I'll be chasing her, so I agree with previous posters and think that things will REALLY get a little easier when they are 3, 5.5, and 7.5 (gosh that sounds a little far away right now!)</p> <p>I also think that it helps that I live in a community where TONS of people have 3, or even 4 kids. So there are ALWAYS other moms in the same boat, or moms who have been there (and now some or all of their kids are in school full time) who are willing to lend a hand, or at least a smile and a hi and a "I remember what that was like, you're rocking it!" So if it's a little chaotic when I'm out with all three, I generally don't feel super judged. We're in the burbs now - I feel like were we still in the city, things might have been a little different/I would have been more stressed out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811224 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 11:06:19 +0000 Mama Bird 2811224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so, but I can't really imagine going out solo with three until the youngest is 4-5 months. I've gone out with two when DD was a tiny baby, but we were with friends and DS would just play with them while DD nursed and nursed :meh: I'm not sure it would be safe for me to let two kids loose on the playground while I'm parked on a bench for ten minutes at a time. Maybe I'll feel differently when DD is older, but even older kids can fall off stuff or need an urgent bathroom break.</p> <p>Also, yes, personalities. One of my kids went through a long phase of hating to go out. You couldn't get him back inside once he went, but getting dressed and putting shoes on... omg. The other one was an incredibly high-needs baby and still has moments when she just gets mad and won't even explain why. She just stands there making angry faces and mooing like an upset cow :silly: none of that really helps one get out of the house fast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811220 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 11:01:25 +0000 Mrs. Peas 2811220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for posting this question! I have 3 boys (4 1/2, almost 3, and 9 months). I am a full time WOHM right now but am seriously considering a transition to either a part time WAHM or SAHM, so I ask myself this question a lot!! </p> <p>I know I would need to get out &amp; do things if I stayed home with the kids to stay sane so making this transition really depends on how confident I feel in my ability to handle all 3 on my own. I agree with all the other posters said - a lot of it depends on the ages your older 2 kiddos (my oldest will go to kindergarten next year which really helps), your personality (I am not a neat/ control freak and am OK if we miss something we planned or even naps or have to change plans last minute), and your support system/ living environment (if we made this transition, my husband would occasionally travel, which would be hard, but the rest of the time he'd be home from work fairly early and we'd live in a place where we can go outside most of the year). Anyhow, I'm not much help since I'm still figuring out but I am really glad we had a 3rd baby and do think it's possible to not just handle 3 kids on your own but to really enjoy it as well.</p> <p>I am working on a few blog posts related to this topic, so I'd love to continue the discussion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811219 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 10:55:04 +0000 gingerbebe 2811219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I think its totally dependent on the personalities of the people in the house, like PPs have noted. While I do not SAH, I take very long maternity leaves (1 year for each kid), and then typically work part-time, so I sort of have SAHM periods in my life. And until recently, DH had to commute 150 miles roundtrip a few times a week for work, so he was either out the door at 5am or coming home right at bedtime or later.</p> <p>I have 2 boys (3.5 and almost 2) and neither DH and I like taking the kids out solo. If we have to (like during winter break when DH was solo-ing during the day), we pretty much only go to indoor locations or parks that are fenced-in so one of them can't run off in a separate direction. I don't know if its their age or because they are rambunctious little kids, or what, but they would most definitely sprint off in opposite directions without boundaries. </p> <p>DH has a higher tolerance for chaos than I do, so I personally do not take the kids out by myself very often. But I'm an introvert, so I like to be home anyway. I will take the boys out grocery shopping sometimes if they will sit in the cart, but my oldest wants to walk nowadays, which makes DS2 want to get out and its a mess. But again, this could just be a virtue of the fact that my boys are only 20 months apart and they are in a tough to manage age.</p> <p>That said, we are considering a third child as well. Timing-wise, the soonest that would happen is when the boys are 5 and 3. DS1 is so capable now at 3.5 and DS2 is so much more laid back of a kid than DS1, that I feel like it would be more manageable as far as their ages and personalities go. DS1 is my high-strung, easily over stimulated chatterbox kid, but he is good at independent play and will be in kinder at that point. DS2 will be in preschool at least in the mornings. DS2 will likely drop his nap sometime soon after the baby arrives, so the boys being able to play together in the afternoons will also be helpful.</p> <p>But I think your thought process is valid and understandable. The only reason we are considering a third child is because DH and I just fully accept that the first year will revolve around the baby's schedule and that the entire family will sacrifice for that. (Its why I took such long maternity leaves). We EXPECT our outings to be limited until the baby is on 1 nap. And we also don't expect to have really "fun" vacations or outings as a family until a kid is like 3 - so we haven't had a "for fun" vacation in a long time. We accept those things as just having to happen, so its less of a bummer to us. </p> <p>That said, being so close to that fun point with my kids and thinking of adding a new baby and pushing that timeline another 3 years is daunting sometimes. But its also why we're hoping to take a really fun family vacation BEFORE we have a new baby and take advantage of the age they are at before things happen. I also fully took advantage of a Mommy's Helper after DS2 was born and made it a point to carve out quality time with DS1 while the baby stayed at home and I expect to do that as well with any new children. </p> <p>Overall, I expect my kids will have to cramp their style for about 18 months, but I really don't think they're going to remember it or be all that adversely affected, so shrug! Its more me and DH who will extend these toddler grind years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811218 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 10:53:36 +0000 snowjewelz 2811218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I so agree with you. I rarely leave DH with our two because he gets scared haha. Meanwhile I am so used to it b/c I'm forced to solo a lot. He obviously can handle it when we have no choice but he thinks it's such a feat, lol! </p> <p>I def think it's the combo of you/your kids personalities. My oldest is more cautious, so I feel like in a public place she would be alright. My 2nd is the more wild one, so if she's still young-ish, I might be nervous. But if I have another newborn, I'd totally just babywear and pretty much pretend you have 2. If you can babywear and also master nursing in the carrier of choice, then you're golden!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811212 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 10:38:48 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2811212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Such a good question. To be perfectly honest I used to do a lot more with just two. Like we would go everywhere and anywhere no problem. Now I still handle three by myself all the time for day to day stuff but I am more likely to do activities that are closer to home and less demanding. Like we will still go to a park but I’m less likely to go to the science museum with all three; at this point it’s hard to divide my attention. Then again, the youngest is a toddler and I really need to be close by to her, so maybe that will still change a year from now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811211 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 10:36:50 +0000 Mamatimes3 2811211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and just to add, yes I can handle all three on my own at home. It was hard with a baby and I was often stressed but now it’s gotten significantly easier since she plays independently and with her brothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811210 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 10:34:09 +0000 Ajsmommy 2811210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is going to come down to you and your personality as well as your kids.... I have 2 kids and for me that is hard enough. Of course as the kids get older I believe it'll get easier. But for me when I have to solo parent, which is a lot (most evenings and some weekends) 2 is enough and I honestly dont' think I could handle 3. But that is me. I don't like leaving the oldest one to her own devices while I tend to the baby and I can barely put the baby down to do anything like make dinner or pack lunches so it's quite stressful for me. My baby is somewhat high needs though so my attitude could be different if he was chill and let me do what I needed to do... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-handle-three-kids-on-your-own#post-2811209 Thu, 22 Mar 2018 10:33:49 +0000 Mamatimes3 2811209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think of variety of factors come into play - age between kids, where you are going, and personality of kids being the biggest. I have 3 (5,3,1) and no I do not go most places by myself with all 3. But I’m not a SAH mom. If I were, I would probably force myself to. I don’t because it’s sometimes not worth it and because of safety issues. For example, my middle child would often throw tantrums when we were out. One day I ran errands with all 3 by myself and he laid out in a parking lot because he didn’t get what he wanted. So trying to carry him and hold a baby and hold a 5 years old hand in a parking lot is tough. But now that they are getting older it’s getting easier. Errands like going to the grocery store are doable. But going to the park or another kid place where all 3 may run in a different direction gives me pause. I’m not a helicopter parent but I do like to keep a close watch on all 3 and my husband agrees. </p> <p>I will tell you this. If you truly feel like you want a 3rd, do it. There will always be things that are hard and yes it’s more expensive. But once that child is born, you make it work and adjust to the new normal. I feel like it gets easier as they get older. </p>