https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 19:54:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-244124 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 18:53:13 +0000 travelgirl1 244124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could never joke about it - but then I didn't tell anyone about it, only DH, and then I couldn't really talk about it without crying. Now I'm pregnant I've told family and close friends about it and tried to educate them a bit about how you never know what someone might be going through behind closed doors. It's a lot easier now we have a happy ending! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-244018 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 17:51:38 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 244018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I joke about it, but I'm the ONLY one who does. Its my coping mechanism. That being said, they're often dark jokes, and more people cough uncomfortably than actually laugh.<br /> Oh well. I have to deal somehow, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-244005 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 17:45:39 +0000 shinystraps 244005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We can joke about it some months, not so much others. It helps sometimes to break the stress. I think I feel a lot of guilt over miscarrying so sometimes it is hurtful to joke about it and other times, it really helps me not feel so much pressure.</p> <p>@Turtledoves I am so sorry to hear about that! Poor things. Another example of how different it can be for every couple. I can't imagine how much it would hurt them if someone made a joke about it! :( I hope they conceive their second baby very soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-243535 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:17:57 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 243535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I applaud anyone who can joke about this and I respect that you have been able to make it less of a sad situation in your own special way:)<br /> We didn't have any issues luckily but my cousin and his wife did. They ended up going through 3 MCs and 2 rounds of IVF before having a sticky baby. They did NOT joke about it. They are fun and easy-going but for them even the mention of it in passing made their eyes well up with tears. For them, I'd bet it was the hardest 5years of their lives. They are trying for #2 right now but they are skipping straight to IVF----They are better now but still not happy about the fact that they have to do IVF. I think the sadness of not being able to do it naturally without intervention still breaks their heart. No joking with them about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-243380 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 12:10:27 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 243380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup we joked about my BIL sperm. But they did also so it was okay. I think it depends on who you are talking about. Some people it passes better than others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-243346 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:56:33 +0000 Mrs. Train 243346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep we joked, along with lots of tears. Our doctor put little hearts on the calendar for the dates we were supposed to Have intercourse. My husband used to laugh all the time about our "prescription". He would laugh and say he at least knew I couldn't refuse, he had a prescription. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-243330 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:50:55 +0000 Meridian 243330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We can still joke about it since we are only about to start round 3... I'm sure once we hit month 5 or 6, we won't be thinking it's so funny anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-243304 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:38:59 +0000 brownie 243304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, sometimes that is the only way to get through it. My husband has Cystic Fibrosis and CBAVD (congenital bilateral absense of the vas deferens). We knew we would have to go through fertility treatments to conceive. We call our son our 20 thousand dollar baby. People joke about taking him away and I say that he is way to expensive for them. </p> <p>We also definitely make jokes about him and shooting blanks. But I am happy I don't have to bother with birth control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-joke-about-it#post-243259 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:13:53 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 243259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Infertility is hard and treatments suck, but sometimes my husband and I like to make jokes about it. I'd rather laugh than cry any day. My MIL even cracks jokes about my husband's sperm. It used to just sort of flop around in one place and now it moves forward very slowly (according to the urologist). She teased him by saying everything else he does is slow, so of course his sperm is. </p> <p>Can you/do you joke about your infertility? </p>