https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 04:30:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814700 Fri, 06 Apr 2018 07:43:09 +0000 PixieStix 2814700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wake ups, not way cups. Lol. Speech to text, yknow. 😋 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814699 Fri, 06 Apr 2018 07:42:03 +0000 PixieStix 2814699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: thank you dear. When I used to let her nap in the carrier, she was able to have an hour nap or so previously. However, those days seem long gone. She has been doing the 15 minute naps in the carrier now as well. The carrier was how I coped with the regression for so long. I figured it was something we just had to wait out, not train through. The carrier was the way that I was able to get things done, and spend time with my four-year-old. But things are looking better today!</p> <p>As of last night, she slept the whole night in her crib. She had less wake-ups and was able to put herself back to sleep a couple of times. I even nursed her at about 4 a.m. this morning, and put her right back down to sleep. I also learned that the more checks I do, the more of a detriment it seems to be. At one point, my four-year-old had to come get me because he wet the bed. She was crying at that point, and when I walked out the door she stopped crying and fell back asleep. It was still a bit of a rough night for me with the way cups, but was still big progress that I got her to sleep in the crib the whole night. I feel very optimistic about the progress we are already seeing. Thank you all for your advice and support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814676 Fri, 06 Apr 2018 00:02:29 +0000 Corduroy 2814676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PixieStix: I don’t have any advice, just hugs. I had one horrible napper that I didn’t figure out. When she learned to walk her naps got longer. </p> <p>You mentioned letting DD nap on you or in the carrier. When you do that does she still nap for 15 minutes or significantly longer? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814648 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 19:22:21 +0000 DesertDreams88 2814648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PixieStix: I hear you, we're just all trying to figure it out together!! :heart: Like I said, DH &amp; I tried lots of things and we weren't always consistent. However there were some things that worked, and life is so nice when they sleep through the night and have predictable naps! I think it sounds like you're on the right track, hopefully your daughter will figure it out soon! FWIW, despite our inconsistency, LO1 started STTN at 12mo and kept at it 100% for over 6 months. I think *part* of it was developmental. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814645 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 19:16:19 +0000 PixieStix 2814645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: They don't have pack and plays. Just a play pen. They usually have her in the swing so she falls asleep there most of the time. Some how amidst all the noise she can sleep there but the length of time is usually the same - 15 minutes or so. Then we either go grocery shopping while out or straight home. She usually falls asleep in the car and then, you guessed it, awake shortly after. </p> <p>Her previous naps, she would vary. Some times awake for a long while and then nap quickly, other times short periods of awake time and then back down for a cat nap. </p> <p>For night time, her crib is on my room with just me at the moment. She went to bed quickly last night and tonight. But of course last night was so challenging. I took all I could, only comforting her a few quick times. She would get quiet for am extended amount of time and then start crying again, like she was fighting it. I know I need to be consistent in my training but the nights get difficult because at some point I just need some sleep. </p> <p>I'm sure it would probably help if her crib was in her room but there's some other complicated sleep issues going on right now with hubby and N, so I was hoping to get her used to her crib and then move her later.</p> <p>I appreciate your advice and interest btw. I feel so backwards and like a rookie when I shouldn't be. I've got 2 kids but I'm just bad at this sleep training thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814643 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 18:53:36 +0000 DesertDreams88 2814643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"we went to the gym today, and she should have slept while there, but didn't."<br /> Just curious, how would she sleep at the gym? Do they have pack-n-plays in the childcare there? Is it semi-dark and semi-quiet for babies to sleep? I can't imagine that any baby would fall asleep in a gym-style childcare unless that was their routine every day or most days. I wouldn't be going to the gym during what "should" be naptime. And a part of you might think "well I never know when it's going to be naptime!" but the thing is, if you stick to a routine, her naptimes will start to get so much more predictable and that makes life SO nice :)</p> <p>and that's great that she took an hour long nap! Hopefully more of those will be in your future as her sleep rhythms get sorted out! With her previous 15 minute naps, was it that she was awake for long periods of time and would only nap a couple times a day, or that she would be awake for short periods and then asleep for short periods?</p> <p>As for the night wake-ups, if your goal is for her to sleep through the night, I think trying the crib consistently at night is your best bet, which you are already doing. I know it's hard - my son only STTN like every other month, 6-12 months. We'd get a good month, and something would disrupt it, and we'd "coddle" him more in terms of sleep, would would just lead to him being more needy at night for awhile. </p> <p>For us, what always worked best was talking to him and singing to him over the monitor. He'd wake, we'd let him cry for 5-8 minutes, and then we'd talk to him: "(Name), we love you, lay back down, it's night night time, go back to sleep, we love you" and sing our lullabies (we have 3-4 that we use exclusively.) I think this helped him feel like he was safe and not alone, but, it kept him in the crib, in the dark, in his own room. He quickly learned that this is a place where he could safely sleep.</p> <p>I know three hours of intermittent crying is hard to deal with. You do have draw the line somewhere. But, the more you "rescue" her, the more persistent she will be in crying for you, because she thinks she can get back in bed with you that way. With modified CIO, I'd go in there and calm her down, but really try not to take her out of the crib. You decide how long you're willing to stay - most modified CIO - people will say to make it short, like 1-3 minutes. I will admit, we stayed longer, rubbing his back through the bars of the crib. It probably took longer to "train" him that way, but its what we were comfy with. We did start to limit our back rubbing time more and more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814635 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 17:34:06 +0000 PixieStix 2814635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: Sigh. I thought someone might say that about the gym. lol. :) I assume it'd only be for a couple weeks maybe, so we can figure it out. That's not bad, and definitely worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814600 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 14:23:20 +0000 erinbaderin 2814600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did 2/3/4, but at 8 months my son was down to 2 naps - he’d get up around 6, nap at 9 and 1, and go to bed at 7. The thing is that you may have to prioritize naps and a consistent schedule for a while - you mentioned that she should have napped at the gym, so I’m assuming you’re a SAHM right now - until she gets out of the bad habits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814582 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 13:28:16 +0000 PixieStix 2814582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I'll keep this in mind and see how she adapts to the new habits. Curious to see what kind of nap routine I can get out of her. And for bedtime, too. Any thoughts on bed time wake ups? They're short, but several every night. (We never have to get out of bed, and they're only like 2 mins long and right back to sleep. Paci or nursing is usually needed) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814579 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 13:16:01 +0000 gingerbebe 2814579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, it sounds like bad habits to me. There are regressions, but for my kids (who were both sleep-trained) they never lasted more than a few weeks and then they went back to how they were sleeping before. </p> <p>At 8 months, both my kids were taking 2 naps a day, 2 hours long each usually, but at least 90 minutes a piece. 2-3-4 never worked for my kids. It was more like 2.5 hours of waketime before naps. So they were up at 730am and were down for naps at 10-12pm and then 2:30-4:30pm, with bedtime around 7-730pm depending on how tired they were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814577 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 13:15:03 +0000 PixieStix 2814577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: sounds about right, in terms of bad habits. I can't quite do the 2-3-4 thing atm, or maybe modified, because I'm figuring out her schedule. For instance, we went to the gym today, and she should have slept while there, but didn't. So she was awake from 7 am until about 12:15 before her first nap hit. So I'll see if she's ready for a nap 3 hours after that (she slept about an hour - yay! a new record).</p> <p>Any advice for night time wake ups? I tried the crib last night but after 3 hours of intermittent crying, I gave up close to midnight. I think she had maybe two 15 minute cycles of sleep during that time. She takes the paci or nurses to go back to sleep during her wake ups at night (usually cosleeping). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814567 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 12:59:47 +0000 DesertDreams88 2814567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Regressions don't last that long - sounds like bad habits that have just continued. I've been there - when my son hit the 18-month regression, we started laying down with him at bedtime, which spiraled into longer and longer times to fall asleep, which spiraled into night waking and needing us in there to fall back asleep. We let these habits linger for 3 months before doing anything about it :( 3-4 days of CIO sleep training and talking to him on the monitor, then it was over.</p> <p>At 8 months, it's pretty normal to be on a 2 nap schedule. In terms of awake time, a 2-3-4 schedule seems popular. This means wake up, awake for 2 hours, nap #1, awake for 3 hours, nap #2, awake for 4 hours, bedtime. If I were you, I'd try sticking to that schedule strictly for a week at least, with a clear naptime/bedtime routine. Hopefully you can tap into your child's natural biological rhythms that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-sleep-train-out-of-a-regression#post-2814522 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 11:25:27 +0000 PixieStix 2814522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, back again! While things are starting to show improvement with sleep training my baby (8 m/o girl), I'm now wondering how long her sleep regression will last. </p> <p>Already it's been going on since about 3 months of age. She used to have naps for a good 2 hours, or at least a solid hour. But ever since the dreaded 4 month sleep regression, it's been awful! Is it typical to last 4 months or longer? Or perhaps it's over lapping in to the 9 month regression? I also theorize that perhaps it's because I've just been on the road of least resistance (letting her nap on me in the carrier, etc.) that is the culprit in her STILL being a famous 15 minute napper. Whatever it is, I'd love to hear your regression stories and tips while I sleep train her on this 3rd day.</p> <p>* Also if you're curious, we're doing modified CIO atm. She goes to sleep rather fast in her crib with less crying now, but once she hits 15 minutes, she's up and won't settle back in. Oy.</p> <p>TIA. :) </p>