Hellobee Boards Topic: Can your spouse put LO to bed?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Can your spouse put LO to bed? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 02:21:46 +0000 mfa_lady on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2465215 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 21:44:09 +0000 mfa_lady 2465215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep. DH has put her to bed every night (unless he's out of town, of course) since she was about 4 months old. Around that time, we started giving her a bottle of pumped milk before bed because she slept better that way. Now that she's 13 months old, they have a hilarious routine where he plops her in the bed and hands her her blanket and then about five stuffed animals, announcing each one: "Here's Teddy, here's Piggy, etc..." and she grabs them for a squeeze and then just tips over and goes to sleep when he leaves the room. It's adorable! petitenoisette on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2465214 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 21:42:21 +0000 petitenoisette 2465214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really because I nurse her right beforehand. Not quite to sleep but halfway there. He can get her to fall back asleep though when she inevitably wakes up a couple hours later - that is a new development though so I'll take it! I'm sure he could do it though if I were gone (and he has a couple of times) but those occasions are rare. Boogs on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2465203 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 21:27:33 +0000 Boogs 2465203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The oldest yes, youngest no. We just had a talk about how I want to wean and I need him to step up. He didn't get it. Mrs. Sketchbook on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2465201 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 21:25:12 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2465201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. He does older DS every night and both every Wednesday which is my night to get out of the house solo and do something fun. ETA: I started working nights when LO2 was 4 months old. So he had to do both. That really got him up to speed! LilSprinkles on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2465196 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 21:18:53 +0000 LilSprinkles 2465196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Either we put DS to bed together, or DH does it. Finfan on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2464508 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 12:54:04 +0000 Finfan 2464508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We each take one kid (ours are 3.5 years and 3 months). yerpie110 on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2464015 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 07:34:10 +0000 yerpie110 2464015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He rarely did for dd1, but since the arrival of dd2, he's done it every night. I really think it's helped their relationship (dd1 is a strict mama's girl)! Dd2 is only 10 weeks, so for now, it's me due to nursing. Adira on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2464013 Wed, 17 Feb 2016 07:18:33 +0000 Adira 2464013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep, we usually trade off since bedtime has become a hassle lately. No matter which one of us does it, there's always crying though because Xander's trying to delay bedtime as long as possible. Neither of us have issues putting the baby down though! mrsrain on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2463928 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 23:58:17 +0000 mrsrain 2463928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He actually does bedtime almost all the time. DD goes down pretty easy, though, so we've never had any trouble with either one of us OR anyone putting her down, as long as the routine is followed. gentlelunette on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2463899 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:29:02 +0000 gentlelunette 2463899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really. He's only done it a handful of times and it hasn't gone very well. He's a big part of the routine when he's home, but nursing/songs/snuggling is the last thing we do before she goes in the crib and so its just been easier for me to do it. Plus, I'm always home and he often works late. She's 11 months and I'm not sure it'll change much until I stop nursing. PawPrints on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2463562 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 17:13:35 +0000 PawPrints 2463562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not 100% solo since she likes to nurse before bed. But sometimes I nurse her and then hand her off to him and he does the whole bedtime routine from that point on. He is totally capable of the non-lactational bedtime stuff. If it were necessary, he probably *could* put her down with a bottle instead of nursing, but I just normally make sure to get home before her bedtime. Dahlia on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2463560 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 17:11:07 +0000 Dahlia 2463560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Wow, I didn't realize I was so in the minority! I think will we work on him being able to put her down. For now I don't mind doing it (in fact, I love it because she's all sweet and cuddly), but I'm sure there will come a time when it's much harder and I'll want to trade off! lemondrop on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2463555 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 17:04:12 +0000 lemondrop 2463555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh absolutely! I would go nucking futs if we didn't alternate nights. After spending the day with them, I appreciate the break. Not that we don't get the mini fits for mommy preference, but negotiating with the little terrorists over bedtime is wearing. The nice thing is that on the few nights a week I work, they are perfectly fine with him. lovehoneybee on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed/page/2#post-2463517 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:39:34 +0000 lovehoneybee 2463517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The 3.5 year old, sure. D works a flexible out second shift so he's almost never home for bedtime, but when he is we do it together. Some things change if he does it on his own...he has his own books to read, for instance. The 8 wk old gets nursed to sleep, though. JerricaBenton on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2463494 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:28:12 +0000 JerricaBenton 2463494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Generally we trade off with no problems, but LO is having a mama only moment so dh can't help even if he wants to. mediagirl on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2463484 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:26:00 +0000 mediagirl 2463484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. We do bedtime together when we're both home (most of the time). When one of us is out, it is business as usual for bedtime. Mrs.KMM on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2463478 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:24:07 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2463478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes - DH or I can put her to bed without issue. MOMTOLITTLEB on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462976 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 11:10:11 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2462976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, we take turns because we didn't want him to get too used to one of us always doing it. It works with both of our schedules so it's fine. Sometimes he'll request one of us but that happens more for naps for some reason and we don't mind since it's not all the time. erinbaderin on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462971 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 11:06:39 +0000 erinbaderin 2462971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We almost always do bedtime together, and the rare time that we don't it's because he's stuck at work or on the train so I do it myself. I don't think my husband has done solo-bedtime in over a year, and probably only twice in his life. We had a close call a few weeks ago when I got stuck in Labour & Delivery for monitoring, but I got myself home just in time for stories and even that threw my son off - I had to sit in his room and hold his hand because he was crying that he wanted to see me (unusual). We're actually going back and forth on this right now because I'm going to have to spend at least one night in the hospital for #2, and we're debating whether it's better to have my husband leave the hospital and go home to do dinner/bath/bedtime so at least he has one of us or whether it's better to have my parents do the whole thing so everything is weird and hopefully he doesn't think too much about where I am. Alivoo01 on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462962 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:59:45 +0000 Alivoo01 2462962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't know how he does it, but he can. I was in the hospital last week for 3 days and DH had to put DS to bed. hellobeeboston on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462954 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:53:41 +0000 hellobeeboston 2462954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DS 1 (3yo) - DH does bedtime every night, it's a rare treat when I do it! haha DS 2 (4 months) - I have been the only one to put him to bed, mainly because I nurse him to sleep still.... Miss Ariel on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462946 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:47:29 +0000 Miss Ariel 2462946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. When it's just the two of us I always do bedtime since I still nurse before bed. But once a month or so I'll go out so he'll do bedtime. She's 14 months so she doesn't really need to nurse before bed, but I'm not ready to give it up. meganmp on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462935 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:42:17 +0000 meganmp 2462935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Since they were two months old, yes, and they were EBF. snowjewelz on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462803 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 09:42:11 +0000 snowjewelz 2462803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When she was EBF, no since I nursed her to sleep. But if I didn't nurse her to sleep, he can definitely put her to bed, tho I'm usually the one that does it. blackbird on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462755 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 09:09:41 +0000 blackbird 2462755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh yeah. I work nights/weekends and am easily not home for bedtime 2x/week. Foodnerd81 on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462754 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 09:07:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 2462754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The toddler yes- she would prefer me but once they are in the room it's fine. When he is home he does it more often since I usually have to nurse the baby or make our dinner. The baby, not yet. She's only 8 weeks and we either nurse to sleep, or nurse until very drowsy and rock to sleep. So he can do that last rocking part but we have never put her to sleep without nursing right before bed. I want her as full as possible so we get a good stretch of sleep! Mrs. Pickle on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462746 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 09:02:01 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2462746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He can't do it completely alone because DD is EBF, but he is a big part of her routine. Last night she was crying until DH took over. Then she went down easily. lawbee11 on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462745 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 09:00:25 +0000 lawbee11 2462745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep, we usually alternate nights putting her to bed and she goes down easily for both of us. ElbieKay on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462716 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 08:40:26 +0000 ElbieKay 2462716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes but my son has a mommy preference and asks for me to put him to sleep. He cries if I hand him to my husband, but he settles down very quickly. yin on "Can your spouse put LO to bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-your-spouse-put-lo-to-bed#post-2462707 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 08:35:02 +0000 yin 2462707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We split bedtime duties. He does a majority of the prep, and we divide and conquer at the very end.