https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 07:50:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890835 Fri, 12 Jul 2019 12:27:36 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2890835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennibenni: yes, I totally agree. He’s completely on board but just concerned for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890834 Fri, 12 Jul 2019 12:22:34 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2890834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your advice is all so helpful. I read and deeply considered each post. So, thank you all. We have decided to go forward. We have parents who can help us if it gets to that point. We know we won’t still be in our current situation in 9 months. I’m also starting therapy next week to start really working on my anxiety and panic. All of this being considered, we have also made sure that we will find any means we can to provide opportunities and great schools for all of our kids. If I have to work more, so be it! I’m currently considering writing a book, so we’ll see if that might be anything.</p> <p>Anyway, we’re going for it. Leaving up to God or the Universe or what’s “meant to be”. If this cycle fails, we will reevaluate next month. But, I have a strong feeling that it will work. </p> <p>Again, thank you all. I appreciate your honesty. SO MUCH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890802 Fri, 12 Jul 2019 09:46:18 +0000 fuzzypeaches 2890802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry you are in this position 💕 it is so difficult when the brain and heart do not agree. I’m hoping you feel better either way you decide - feeling anxious and awful is in and of itself such a difficult thing to endure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890741 Thu, 11 Jul 2019 21:06:25 +0000 Jennibenni 2890741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Putting aside all of the other factors you mention, there is no way I would feel comfortable actively trying to conceive if my husband was not 100% on board. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890727 Thu, 11 Jul 2019 19:52:39 +0000 Mama Bird 2890727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, that sounds rough, all of it. I think I'd put TTC on hold in your shoes... For what it's worth, I got pregnant with our third at a really bad time. Things were going wrong left and right (seriously ill family members, a rough pregnancy, work stuff as usual). It was very hard, but we got through it. But financially, we were doing OK. If there was also financial uncertainty in the picture, I don't think I'd have gone for a third. That's where I draw the line between what I can handle, and what makes me panic. Whether rightly or not, my mind goes pretty quickly from "our expenses for May were higher than our wages" to "OMG what if we have nowhere to live?" Adding a maternity leave to an already financially shaky situation... I'd just be scared to go there unless it looked like the financial stuff is temporary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890645 Thu, 11 Jul 2019 10:22:17 +0000 concernedmember 2890645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know you are not in a great place, but I think (hope) you are looking for honesty here. You are not doing well emotionally or financially. You were 100% right to decide to not continue treatments right now. Table this until you are your best self. It sucks that you are concerned about your future fertility, but please re-read what you just wrote. You are 3 months behind on your mortgage - your family could be foreclosed on - this is NOT a joke. You have outstanding bills. You are having panic attacks. Take what you would have spent on an IUI and put it towards debt. Take the energy you are expending towards having a 3rd child (we all know how much that is, TTC is a time and mind suck!) and put it towards finding work and getting back to your best self. The idea of filing bankruptcy being an option (per your previous post) and continuing to try to procreate do NOT jive. It just doesn't make sense to bring another child into this world if you cannot support the two you currently have and yourself. I mean this in both an emotional capacity and financial. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890623 Thu, 11 Jul 2019 08:09:26 +0000 Ajsmommy 2890623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think only you can know what is right in this situation bc for me just the thought of 3 kids is panic inducing. But that is me! As PP's said I'd take a day or at least some serious time to let yourself sit back and process everything.. give yourself a few quiet hours to put things in perspective. Is the job/money shortage temporary? Will you be in a better place in a few months or no? Is it worth it to waste the injections and time already spent on this cycle? If yes for your mental health then by all means skip.. but only you can make that decision. What does the big picture/longer haul look like? What do the next 4-6 months look like? Will things look up and get easier or will they be more of a struggle and being PG might not be ideal??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890580 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 17:43:49 +0000 bhbee 2890580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I so feel for you and get both sides. But you said yourself this feels irresponsible. I don’t think fertility things will substantially change in the next few months. Maybe take a breather and see how things go?<br /> I will also say, I found the third pregnancy and the baby year with three to be mentally/emotionally challenging in a way I hadn’t felt before. So I think going in feeling good is ideal. Big hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890565 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 15:02:22 +0000 Pollywog 2890565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you because I know you want this so badly. A few things to think about-- is the money situation temporary? Do you have a bunch of business coming up that will enable you to get back on solid financial ground by your birthday? Would you be able to afford another kid right now?</p> <p>How does your body handle stress and anxiety during pregnancy? Does it make it worse?</p> <p>If it's a temporary situation I'd go for it. If it looks like you will have to find another job or make major life changes I would hold off. You don't want to sacrifice your health, energy, and stability and that of your children for a hypothetical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890561 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 14:00:00 +0000 pachamama 2890561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I myself get into those anxious "vortexes" and they are truly awful.<br /> DO NOT fret about AMH!! Let's look at the follicle count and the fact you already did some injections. I think you should go forward with IUI. it's a very, VERY simple procedure. I think you should go for it!<br /> What worked for me during my infertility stuff is making a plan- maybe try for 6 more months "all in" then ease up, knowing you truly did all you could? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cancelling-my-iui-treatment#post-2890560 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:55:15 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2890560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m having a rough week. I have been dealing with severe anxiety on and off for the last 10 years. Various things will trigger it and send me into a tailspin of panic attacks and debilitating depression and worry. That’s happening right now. Plus, we are 3 months behind on our mortgage and some of our bills due to my business being very slow this year (I’m a wedding photographer). Among other stressors (such as my dad undergoing chemo), I just feel like going forward with treatment right now, this week, would be irresponsible. However, I’ll be 41 in September. I already have low AMH. I had a good follicle count on Sunday and I’ve already done 3 days of injections. My husband thinks we should stop at least for now (maybe stop trying all together). But he says he’s on board for whatever I decide. What would you do? </p> <p>This would be our third baby if we were to get pregnant. </p>