https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 09:50:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-115073 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:59:23 +0000 preggoinny 115073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for sharing!<br /> It really helps to know that others have felt this way and I'm not out in left field.<br /> I tell him often that I appreciate everything he is doing. And he really is doing a lot. It's just that we're ALWAYS a kidding kind of couple. So that's what he does when I complain. And just right now I'm not up to dealing with the joking of how I'm feeling. I did tell him the other night a bit but I didn't go into much detail.</p> <p>@Lozza:<br /> I honestly have had a really easy pregnancy. I've been really happy overall with nothing really to complain about. Just this last week the crying has been crazy and worrying me.</p> <p>@Rubies:<br /> I know he knows that thing will be changing, drastically. He often voices his concern to me and I do feel confident that together we can do it. But you're right in that I do need to find a way to express to him how I have been feeling. I just need to find a way to express it without making it sound like I don't think he is doing enough.<br /> I guess the big thing for me is he IS super supportive in terms of doing things. But I need more in the ways of emotional support right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-115059 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:48:16 +0000 Rubies 115059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Your husband MUST know and realize that things are about to change drastically and that you can't do it alone. My husband didn't know how hard of a time I was having until I cried in front of him. I'm not suggesting that you turn on the waterworks for your husband but he should be made aware that you need him to understand you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-115034 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:25:10 +0000 Lozza 115034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, there is definitely such a thing as prenatal depression!<br /> I had a pretty miserable pregnancy from the get-go, but it got really bad towards the end of the third trimester, to the point where my OB actually put me on anti-depressants (Zoloft).<br /> I felt exhausted, unmotivated, and just incredibly, incredibly sad... and also would get mad at DH (who was objectively a total saint during my pregnancy- he did EVERYTHING and then some) for totally irrational reasons (sometimes I even realized I was being irrational but I couldn't help it). I would also often cry in the middle of the night, feeling sad and alone but not really knowing what to do about it, and I'd go do it in the guest room or the bathroom so I wouldn't wake DH up.<br /> Two things really helped for me: first, I took two weeks entirely off work, and then only went back part-time for the last couple weeks before I delivered. Not having work stuff hanging over my head, making me feel overwhelmed, was really important for me and helped me feel less panicked. I think I spent most of those two weeks just in bed, catching up on rest.<br /> The second thing that helped was giving birth. I was totally worried about PPD, but I luckily had a great support system after having the baby, and was off work for 9 weeks, and I was actually totally fine. I was grateful to not feel nauseous all the time, I had people around almost all the time (DH took off 3 weeks and my mom was around a lot) so I didn't feel lonely, and I think my hormones must have calmed down.<br /> I really, really encourage you to talk to your DH and your OB about it. It's great that your DH is already doing so much- to me, that sounds like he's already in "being supportive" mode, and will be more than ready and willing to support you through these additional challenges.<br /> I kept feeling like I SHOULD have been able to handle everything, and that plenty of women go through pregnancy just fine, and that I should just shut up and deal, but I think you have to remember that during pregnancy you are so totally and completely hostage to the craziness that is going on with your body that sometimes there is nothing you can do about how you feel and how you're coping. And that everyone's experience is different and just because Michele in the office next door thought pregnancy was awesome, it doesn't mean that you're just being melodramatic. And that sometimes you need external forces to step in and help get you through it.<br /> My DH was the one who finally said "this is not ok" and brought me to my OB to talk about it, and both of them helped brainstorm ideas of how to alleviate some of the things that were stressing me out and come up with suggestions of things that might help. (For example, it was my OB who said "I'm prescribing two weeks off work, here's the documentation for your office," which is something I wouldn't have considered on my own but made a huge difference)<br /> I don't want to write a huge essay here, but please know that you are NOT alone in this, and that the best thing you can do is reach out to your support system (DH, your OB, etc.) and they will help you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-114994 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 00:44:30 +0000 lemondrop 114994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are feeling so crummy! My last few weeks, I cried at the drop of a hat. My poor husband was afraid to say anything to me in fear that it would set off the water works. </p> <p>You do need to talk with him, remember that his joking around is probably his way of coping with the big changes and his fears of labor, delivery, and life after your baby arrives. It is scary to bring serious stuff up, but you will hopefully feel a lot better when you get it out there. </p> <p>Remember to thank him for helping out so much (I remember pretty much not doing anything for the house for most of the 9 months!), knowing that his helping is greatly appreciated will probably make him feel good! Another thing you can do is write your feelings down in a letter. </p> <p>Hang in there, life does get better- not right away, since it just gets crazy, but you are about to meet another one of the loves of your life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-114957 Sun, 08 Apr 2012 21:44:23 +0000 Maysprout 114957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry I just re-read what I wrote. I didn't mean like an unwarranted pity party. There's so much changing in life right now. I tried to have my funny show and treat time so I could figure out what I needed to say and express and what was just a bit of getting lost in the moment upsetness. Def talk to your husband and let him know what your fears or concerns are. Even if he makes jokes keep pressing him a bit if you're not satisfied with the answers. If you address your concerns now, even if they seem a bit out of left field to your husband, it will be smoother sailing after baby gets here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-114953 Sun, 08 Apr 2012 21:30:36 +0000 chopsuey 114953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You poor thing!!! :( It's natural to be emotional during pregnancy! My DH used to joke off my worries too! He didn't realize how much it upset me until I sat him down and told him "we need to have a serious talk!" Sometimes you need to spell things out for men. :T<br /> I think it's great that he's helping out more around the house and you should tell him how much you appreciate it.<br /> Hope you start feeling better soon! It's a stressful and scary time--being a first time mom! We're here for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-114944 Sun, 08 Apr 2012 21:19:19 +0000 Maysprout 114944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a few bouts where I would cry and almost didnt know why sometimes. Modern Family, the TV show, helps.<br /> It is hard finding people to talk to when pregnant, I feel like in person if you talk too much about being pregnant people start rolling their eyes or thinking you want a pity party. Well you deserve a pity party sometimes so go ahead and have one. Have some hot chocolate and watch a funny show. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cant-stop-cryinghelp#post-114942 Sun, 08 Apr 2012 21:09:26 +0000 preggoinny 114942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Ladies,<br /> I'm a regular poster and for this I just felt more comfortable posting annoynomously. I hope it's ok.</p> <p>I'm going to be 37 weeks tomorrow and for the past week I just can not stop crying. I am generally not a crier. Pregnancy has made me more sensitive and have cried maybe a half dozen times throughout. But in the past week I've cried five times. Usually in the evenings after he falls asleep and I feel alone. I'll hide in the bathroom so he doesn't hear me. Each time harder than the last. To the point where I fear I'm hurting the baby!<br /> Usually it's because I feel so alone. I don't really have anyone to talk to about pregnancy besides here on the interwebs. When I talk to my husband he tends to joke off my worries. And I don't push it. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't realize I'm 9 months PREGNANT and treats me like I am before. And I know it's not fair to think that way bc he has picked up So much of the household slack. And I only think that way when I'm emotional and crying. I know I should talk to him about how I am feeling bu I don't want him to think I don't appreciate everything he is doing.</p> <p>Honestly Im at the point where I fear if this keeps up I might be a candidate for PPD. Is there such a thing as pre partum depression? I don't really think I'm depressed. Just extremely overly emotional!!!</p> <p>Has anyone else been this emotional towards the end? </p>