https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 21:24:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135560 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:59:58 +0000 prettylizy 1135560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a rule in our family that I discuss things with my family and DH does with his. That way there is no need for hard feelings between his family and me because of how I addressed something. If you're concerned about how he will handle it then I'd make my discussion with him a priority about DD's safety in the car. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135512 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:43:09 +0000 Foodnerd81 1135512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was doing it incorrectly I would rather someone be direct vs sending me an article, which would leave me wondering if it was pointed at me anyway. I would not be at all offended if someone stopped me from putting a baby in an unsafe situation, but I guess for that kind if stuff I'm not easily offended. </p> <p>Could someone link to an example of an article you would send? I'm still worried I'm not doing it right myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135501 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:37:30 +0000 regberadaisy 1135501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I wish I would have thought of that earlier! I honestly thought they would know because they used to drive DH's nieces around all the time. </p> <p>My MIL is a huge email person so an email with an article will likely do the trick. I'm so not a direct person when it comes to her bc I just never know how she might take a suggestion. Depending on her mood. She's been on menopause mood swings for a decade! LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135489 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:33:33 +0000 looch 1135489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought of another thing, it might be too late for this, in this case, but if you think about it, you (general) didn't know how to work the seat when it came out of the box, you had to play around with it a little to determine the correct tightness on the straps, so what if you both learned how to use it together? Kind of like, here's the new seat, let's see how it works?</p> <p>I am a fan of being direct, all these suggestions for videos and articles are lost on my parents, in all honesty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135485 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:33:01 +0000 mrbee 1135485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Maybe you guys could practice the conversation a few times?</p> <p>Inlaws are so tricky!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135481 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:30:44 +0000 regberadaisy 1135481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: probably DH but he has a tendency to be very casual too about these kinds of conversations. So if the article doesn't work I think I might do a better job getting the point across. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135460 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:24:27 +0000 mrbee 1135460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: would she respond better to a conversation from you or your DH? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135437 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:19:19 +0000 regberadaisy 1135437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: lol I'll send a article and cc DH too so it's not like I'm singling her out. Then probably bring it up casually the next time I see them.<br /> If no change, then a more direct conversation a la @Mrs. Polish: ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135413 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 09:10:50 +0000 mrbee 1135413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: a link to an article sounds smart! Maybe a good YouTube video might work too? That way, they can see pictures of how it should look and work... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135369 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 08:54:34 +0000 loveisstrange 1135369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Thats what I would do. if it doesn't change anything, then go like @Mrs. Polish: for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135360 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 08:50:25 +0000 regberadaisy 1135360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: I think I'm going to do that. I'm always afraid of putting my foot in mouth. So this is better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135356 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 08:49:04 +0000 jmarionsmith 1135356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with @Mrs. Polish: i would be very direct and firm, feelings be damned. she needs to know how serious you are and how important it is. to me, there is nothing casual about carseat safety.</p> <p>now i'm not saying you have to offend her but i would not skirt around it at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135329 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 08:40:45 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1135329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When there is anything to do with my lo's safety I'm very direct. I don't care who gets their feelings hurt, if I'm trusting them with my child, they need to do it right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135223 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:57:45 +0000 loveisstrange 1135223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just say "Hey, I read this great article the other day on carseat straps. I learned a lot and thought you might enjoy it!" And send them an article.</p> <p>If someone was going to be regularly driving my kid around, Id definitely make sure they had it right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135209 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:50:26 +0000 Bao 1135209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I deal with this often. The other day my sister buckled A in for me. When I got home the straps were not as tight as they should be. I kind of told a white lie but texted and said she got her shoulder out a little (actually it was pretty close) so if she could make sure the straps were tight, and tighter than what seems comfortable (everyone thinks the way it should be is too tight), she felt so bad bc she says she always checks the carseats. So then I mentioned how A's car seat was kind of a pain to get tight so it's not her fault. Her car seat really is a pain in the rear DH and I both hate how hard it is to get tight. Anyway, I was real light on the situation and didn't attack her and it went well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135206 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:50:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1135206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I'm so sorry. It is so scary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135200 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:42:41 +0000 regberadaisy 1135200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: oops yeah I meant the buckle by the chest. They always have it lower by her stomach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135198 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:41:07 +0000 looch 1135198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dealt with this with my parents, they were worried by pulling the straps tightly, they were making it difficult to breathe.</p> <p>So one day, I was putting my son in the car, in the seat they would be using, and I showed them that if they can pinch the straps together, it was too loose and they needed to go tighter. When you say chest strap, do you mean the buckle, or what? I showed my mom that as well, that she has to put it further up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135197 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:41:00 +0000 regberadaisy 1135197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: that is a great example. Unfortunately we do know a child that recently died in a car crash. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135195 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:40:28 +0000 Beebug 1135195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom used to have the chest buckle wayyy too low. I told her "at the carseat safety clinic we went to" they told us it is safest like this (and then I show her).</p> <p>That way it's a "we" learned too, and not "you're doing it wrong" type message with the focus on "safest for baby"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135192 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:39:45 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1135192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would try to be pretty direct, or use a fake example. </p> <p>"I just heard about a LO that died in a car crash because the buckles weren't properly adjusted. I researched how to do it properly, and even I learned a few things. Would you mind if I showed you how it should be done?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/car-seat-safety-and-grandparents#post-1135189 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 07:38:05 +0000 regberadaisy 1135189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's a different twist on the car seat safety question. </p> <p>My ILs watch LO once a week now so naturally we bought a car seat for their car. When they just started watching her the straps were VERY loose. When i saw it I adjusted it and tightened it. But even now the chest strap is always down low an d not by her chest. :(</p> <p>How do I mention it to my ILs without being insulting? </p> <p>Sometimes my MIL can be very sensitive and I never know how she will take something! </p>