https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 01 Jun 2026 19:30:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/care-for-3-month-old-considering-covid-19#post-2916265 Mon, 08 Jun 2020 08:22:50 +0000 hellobeeboston 2916265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go with the nanny personally.... Although I live in MA and we've had a rough time with Covid, and I'm worried about the second surge in the Fall, so to me, having the nanny for the baby and the older one while you work remotely and will also be in the house seems like the best option. You will just need to make sure if you quarantine that your nanny is on the same page as you in terms of social distancing and her feelings on staying as safe as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/care-for-3-month-old-considering-covid-19#post-2916214 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 22:07:07 +0000 Mama Bird 2916214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you can hire a nanny, and work from home for a while so you can get a sense of how she interacts with your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/care-for-3-month-old-considering-covid-19#post-2916213 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 21:10:07 +0000 Littlebit7 2916213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I read your post, it seems like you want a nanny. And can possibly afford one? So I’d go the nanny route for a year more or less, or until there is a resolution for covid or you feel more confident with daycare. And add cameras inside your home and be upfront with the nanny about their presence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/care-for-3-month-old-considering-covid-19#post-2916209 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 18:08:03 +0000 bhbee 2916209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you start looking for a nanny and just see what happens? There is a definite gut feel aspect ... you may find someone where your heart says yes or you may feel, ok yes we want daycare for sure. I don’t know if that fits in your timeline but sometimes I think checking out the options helps the decision. Michigan has been pretty serious about shutdown so far from what I’ve heard, so it doesn’t seem impossible you’ll have school closed at times, that alone may make it worth exploring </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/care-for-3-month-old-considering-covid-19#post-2916204 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 15:53:54 +0000 karenbme 2916204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh... we’re in the middle on a similar conversation. DD is 7 mo and went to daycare for 3 weeks before everything shut down. We’re also in a low density, low risk area, but I worry so much about sending her back where on top of everything else she won’t be able to see faces for her development. And even though they say they’re following all the recommendations, some of them are impossible for babies (ex. change their clothes when they get drool or other fluids on them—tell that to my teether). Im a FTM and was already struggling with feeling disconnected from her day to day, and now I can’t even go into the room with her... </p> <p>DH and I are both working remote long term (probably until January or longer) so for now we’re paying for her spot and just keeping her home, which I think is crazy to commit to long term but he sees as necessary just in case because we can afford it and it takes months to find a spot around here. I would consider a nanny, but with rates what they are and taxes and health insurance it would only be a little less expensive than me quitting my job so I’m not sure it’s worth it. Because we’ll be remote (in the house with a nanny) I’m less concerned about trust at least initially. What I really want is to find another family for a nanny share, but have no idea how to figure that out.</p> <p>There isn’t a right answer to all of this. And it feels like every option has these huge risks associated. What I think I want most is to take 8 months to a year off work to care for DD. And then go back once there’s a vaccine. We could swing it financially, and I have skills that are and will continue to be in demand, but DH is worried about what would happen if the recession continues and he gets laid off (which he admits is unlikely given his role and industry). He wants to send her back to daycare “at some point” but that’s really a nonstarter for me right now while we have other options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/care-for-3-month-old-considering-covid-19#post-2916203 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 14:42:01 +0000 SweetCaroline 2916203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so torn on what to do regarding care for our newborn when I go back to work early September. I know this is a very personal decision, but I love to hear the perspectives of everyone here.</p> <p>We are in a rural area of MI where overall risk of COVID is currently assessed at low (for what that is worth since we are discussing 3 months from now...September). We will have a Kindergartener in the fall who will be attending a private school, no bussing, carline only. DH and I both work FT. I can work from home, DH cannot.</p> <p>In our area, nannies are not common. The cost of a nanny is approximately 5x the cost of daycare. The likelihood of us finding a nanny that someone we know personally can refer is extremely low.</p> <p>I am involved with a daycare in town that we have an infant spot at. They are following all CDC recommendations. One of which is that parents are not allowed inside. This freaks me out but I understand. Our 5 year old attended daycare from 12 weeks on, so we are familiar with the daycare scene.</p> <p>At the end of the day, I just can't reconcile the two very different risks: COVID-19 at daycare versus trusting a stranger alone in my home with my non-verbal infant. Cost is also a factor. If I feel overwhelmingly that a nanny is the right move, I'll happily spend the money. If Kindergarten ends up being remote, depending on circumstances, nanny could also take on 5 year old.</p> <p>Obviously there are a ton of uncertainties (that we are all facing). The planner in me feels like I need to commit to nanny now if that is the right choice, and start searching.</p> <p>Anyone else faced with a similar decision. Or, what thoughts/questions/ideas pop into your head while reading this. Thank you! </p>