https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 13:01:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-823179 Fri, 31 May 2013 21:19:43 +0000 78h2o 823179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I wasn't upset about either daycare or the babysitter, just thought it was kind of funny/mildly annoying (in the case of the daycare). I wish they would just trust me. (yes! @Andrea)! I am grateful that the babysitter was worried about the milk being spoiled and checked with me before giving the milk or pureed food... no complaints about that. The funny part was that she seemed very skeptical that it was okay - I really had to convince her! No biggie though :) </p> <p>The daycare workers I actually like a lot, even though some things bug me a little here and there... maybe by posting I am making it seem like a bigger deal than it actually is... the form they had me sign the other day was kind of annoying and DID cause me to worry a bit, but I know they are just trying to help. In general I feel that they are very good with my LO. However, they ARE quite pushy about solids. Again, they are just doing what they think is best... many of them have kids of their own and gave them rice cereal in their bottles &amp; felt it helped satisfy them, so they really push that with my LO. I finally had to fib and say that my pedi said no (I never asked, but I know the AAP doesn't recommend cereal in bottles). They also say all the time that she needs more milk (even though I've been sending 20 oz and she only drinks 12-16) and they compare her to the ff babies who often get 8oz bottles. I keep telling them that it's different and that she doesn't need much more as she gets older, the content of the milk adjusts. It just gets old always having to explain myself, but again, it's not a huge deal or anything!</p> <p>@regberadaisy: @Meltini: I agree. I don't think the daycare worker meant any harm, but I think it's kind of rude to say, "Did you finally start feeding her?" - it makes it sound like I've been starving her!!! I know that by "feeding" she meant solids, but it came out wrong!!! :)</p> <p>@scg00387: Yeah, J really doesn't care when she sees me eating. She really hasn't shown any interest yet.</p> <p>@BlueWolverine: Yes! That's happened to us too. They were always saying she need more milk, but when I started sending 20 oz (which required me to wake up an extra time to pump), she was almost always being send home with an unfinished bottle. </p> <p>@edelweiss: I hope you had a good experience. In my LO's room, some of the babies started purees between 3-4 months! The one baby is 1 day younger than my LO and has been eating solids for months! My LO is definitely the only one over 5 months who is not getting solids, so that's why they think I'm nuts! Nevermind that it's the WHO recommendation! I promised them though that I would try solids next week when she is 6 mo.</p> <p>@mewtill: @rattles: It's just annoying because I've been working SO HARD to pump enough milk for her. Giving her formula or solids would be SO much easier, but I'm doing what I think is best for her. I wish they could see that instead of always giving me a hard time about it, like I'm depriving her in some way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822803 Fri, 31 May 2013 17:58:38 +0000 immabeetoo 822803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that is so obnoxious. I hear ALL the time that he had to be so excited for "real food". Frankly he could take it or leave it so far.... and he is a chunky baby so I'm not worried! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822799 Fri, 31 May 2013 17:55:42 +0000 googly-eyes 822799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see those comments as run of the mill comments, personally... I would have thought the babysitter just was worried that she didn't have enough to give lo while you were out, and as for the first comment, it's dumb, but I don't think they're necessarily implying you NEED to give it, just that they'd mistakenly thought you did give solids. Sure, the wording is a little weird, but I think after that she just sensed the conversation was awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822343 Fri, 31 May 2013 14:25:32 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 822343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our sons daycare teacher always brings up the next "milestone" before we're ready. We skipped rice cereal and didn't let them start purées until 6 months (we do baby led weaning at home). But, man, if she didn't mention solids 3 times a week! </p> <p>In our situation, I think she's just comparing him against the other babies (who are all a few months older) &amp; it skews towards her feeling like he's ready for the next step. Sometimes it's okay, since we don't have as much experience with babies as she does, but sometimes it's a pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822220 Fri, 31 May 2013 13:41:09 +0000 rattles 822220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boy, between this and the form you had to sign, I'd be pretty annoyed. Giving them the benefit of the doubt, it's nice that they're concerned. But really? It feels like indirect mommy shaming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822114 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:58:03 +0000 Meltini 822114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed with the daycare worker because the way she worded that was just rude. I think the babysitter was just confused and concerned that the milk might not be good so I wouldn't hold that against her. At least she cared enough to say something, even if she was wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822057 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:35:22 +0000 regberadaisy 822057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: wow. I would be SO annoyed that these people I'm PAYING said that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-822051 Fri, 31 May 2013 12:32:03 +0000 Andrea 822051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really bugs me when caregivers question things like that! Just listen to the mommy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-821560 Fri, 31 May 2013 10:11:55 +0000 BlueWolverine 821560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: Mine are giving me the "She needs more milk" crap all of the time. So I finally gave in and sent 4.5 oz bottles rather than her usual 4. Guess what? She didn't drink the last half ounce. She stuck to her normal 4. Trust the mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-821538 Fri, 31 May 2013 10:04:10 +0000 kiddosc 821538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, my daycare ladies were like counting down to his 4 month appt so he could stay solids and bugged us ALL the time until we started at 6 months. They went so far as to tell us that babies who start solids late just never eat as well. Ummm, guess who's the best eater in the class. He was also the only BF baby and they were always saying he would need more milk... people just don't get it sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-821475 Fri, 31 May 2013 09:48:00 +0000 ladyfingers 821475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! Yeah, a few babies in LO's room are already on solids and the room only goes up to 6 months. So I wonder if they'll say anything. But they are really good about breastmilk and understanding that he's hungry when he's hungry, and there are a few other babies there who are breastfed, so I at least don't have to worry about that BS.</p> <p>Man, that would really annoy me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-821002 Fri, 31 May 2013 07:01:21 +0000 Adira 821002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh, this would annoy me!!! I hope my daycare ladies aren't like that! Xander's the only breastfed baby they have at the moment, so they're always confused about when to feed him and stuff since he can't go as long as the FF babies sometimes. They're like "But but... it hasn't been three hours yet... what??"</p> <p>Sorry you have to deal with the crazies! You're a good mom - keep it up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820992 Fri, 31 May 2013 06:54:49 +0000 edelweiss 820992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm a little nervous about the reaction we're going to get from daycare because i don't really feel like starting solids until 6 months, whereas i think most babies are starting rice cereal at around 4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820977 Fri, 31 May 2013 06:46:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 820977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okkkk... just follow mama's lead puhleaze. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820906 Fri, 31 May 2013 05:01:47 +0000 78h2o 820906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmenow: yeah, I know. She has a baby herself and bf for 6 weeks, but my guess is that she never pumped/stored milk. I just thought it was funny that she seemed so reluctant, even after I said it was okay. </p> <p>@katsupgirl: Yeah, so annoying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820881 Fri, 31 May 2013 02:53:48 +0000 katsupgirl 820881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously what is wrong with people?!? Breast milk <b>IS</b> food!! So ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820707 Thu, 30 May 2013 22:42:28 +0000 mrsmenow 820707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: I had no idea until I BF my second (FF my oldest) that breast milk seperated. I probably would have thought it was bad too, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820666 Thu, 30 May 2013 22:19:21 +0000 78h2o 820666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops, can't edit from my phone, but babysitter didn't say if I have to. I just looked at the text again and it says i guess ill feed it to her if you're sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/caregivers-amp-breastfeeding#post-820638 Thu, 30 May 2013 22:09:11 +0000 78h2o 820638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daycare worker: "J is getting chunky. Did you finally start feeding her?" Me:"We're still planning to wait until 6 mo before giving her any solids. But, hey! I am feeding her, it's just that it's all milk.." Daycare worker: "Oh, well I thought that by now she'd surely be getting real food. Plus she's getting chubby, so I thought you were feeding her. "</p> <p>Sigh.</p> <p>The day before, a new babysitter (who I called to come over to help my husband in a pinch) texted me: "J drank 5oz. She needs more food. Can I give her baby food?" me: there's 3 more oz in the fridge. Babysitter: "it's spoiled. Looks weird." me: no, it's ok, it's from this morning. Swirl it to mix it. Don't bother heating it. Babysitter: ok, I guess I'll feed her that if I have to. </p> <p>Whaa? </p>