https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 08:42:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2423135 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 09:30:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 2423135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: yeah it's so different. I felt so bonded with my first before she was even born. Thanks for saying that. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2423066 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 08:43:01 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2423066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: :heart: :heart: screw them. You're doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2423062 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 08:40:27 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2423062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: it took me forever to bind with my second. Even at 8 months in sometimes I'm like "man, I really love you but this just feels different than the first time." It's hard momma! Big hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2422979 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 06:32:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 2422979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: first trimester there was so much tv. But sometimes we would snuggle on the couch while<br /> She watched and that made me feel better at least. And sometimes I fell asleep mid episode and she would wake me up saying Hi mommy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2422956 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 04:27:32 +0000 Applesandbananas 2422956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's been okay. I've been really tired (first tri) so LO has gotten more screen time, but I'm trying to be more present for the time we do spend playing and even with screen time, I try to snuggle wih him and we always make a big production of him picking the movie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2422954 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 03:56:13 +0000 Me3 2422954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This thread is awesome!!!!! Thank you thank you all for being real. I've been feeling so down about struggling at home with my two LOs. I feel like no one wants to hear it in real life but this shit is HARD! I have two kids at home all day. My husband is gone 13 hour days and is exhausted. Someone is always awake in the middle of the night because kids. I am tired. This first year of parenting two kids plus residual pp issues plus a move to a new city with no support has been killer. I hate to say it because it was also the first year of LO2's life but it's honestly been the hardest year of my life so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2422464 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 16:49:36 +0000 DillonLion 2422464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, but its hard to be composed 100% of the time with a 3 year old. She's gotten really into watching TV/i-pad and I feel guilty about the amount of screen time she gets, but its only on evenings and weekends. She gets no screen time at school, so I feel like we keep a decent balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2422461 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 16:47:31 +0000 Mrs. Pickles 2422461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: bed time is the best time for random thoughts and deep insightful conversations.. at least according to my son haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2422115 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 14:18:04 +0000 travelgirl1 2422115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I am great with the baby, but I am too short tempered with my three-year-old and too quick to snap. She has been through some major transitions and yearns to spend more one-on-one time with me, and I need to try make that happen for her. But omg, the girl just does not listen and why, for the love of all that is holy, does she suddenly need to eat, drink, pee, poop and chat about everything under the sun at bedtime??? :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421929 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 13:27:14 +0000 gingerbebe 2421929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like we're doing okay overall. We got out of an unhealthy childcare situation involving my mother at the end of last year (she was great to DS, but it was horrible for the adults), so DS has had to switch to an in-home daycare provider at the beginning of this year. He's transitioned beautifully despite how awful the transitional playdates went. BUT DS has been sick off and on since Christmas and is getting this canines and biscuspids at he same dang time so there's lots of crankiness, MOTN waking, and illness going around. He's being a totally normal 16 month old so I can't really complain about him, its just all the external stuff that has nothing to do with him that we're trying to control so that our parenting and marriage doesn't suffer, you know what I mean?</p> <p>I feel like right now anxiety about the next few months is my biggest issue. DS' MOTN wakings are wearing me out, DH and I are both about to enter an extremely busy season at work, we have to assume DS will have to be out of daycare for illness during this time, and I'm due with LO2 in May. </p> <p>I'm trying to proactively keep myself from losing it from the stress and doing the best I can to prepare for the worst. Right now this means that I'm working 3 days a week while DS is in daycare 5 days a week, which gives me 2 extra days to go into the office to do overtime or stay home with DS if he's sick or to clean/shop/run errands. I spent the holidays finding and lining up a list of sitters who may be able to stay with DS on a sick day and creating a line item in our budget for extra babysitting. I also contracted with a nanny agency for back-up nannies in case my sitters fall through.</p> <p>I'm trying to get the house organized enough to hire a regular housecleaning service and to schedule larger maintenance things to get done at the house while DS is at daycare. For example, we have a major tree trimming happening this week, I need to get the filthy carpets cleaned before the baby is born, and we have to get our rusting bathroom sinks replaced. I'm meal planning and trying to batch cook and freeze all our meals so that I can pull and thaw things quickly over the next few months and not stress about meals. </p> <p>Hopefully these preparations will help me and DH to peacefully co-parent and be supportive of each other. I'm just so tired from the pregnancy and DS' night wakings that its hard not to be completely wiped out when DS comes home from daycare. We only get him for a few hours in the evening on the weekdays, so I want to have them be good interactions, but I'm so. dang. tired. that its hard not to stare at the clock until bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421896 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 13:16:27 +0000 yin 2421896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm overwhelmed. I have been a SAHM for the past 5 years, and I'm pooped. I struggle with behavioral issues with LO2. LO1 never feels that we have enough time for him. The house is never clean. I can't keep up with all of the cooking and washing the dishes everyday. Laundry builds up. I barely find any time for myself, and most days I feel defeated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421860 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 13:00:08 +0000 pinkcupcake 2421860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly good, but that's because my almost 4 year old is the most easy going kid in the world, not because of anything special I'm doing. She has been getting into a little "teenager" phase the past couple weeks which is so not like her (talking back, throwing mini tantrums). I'm assuming it's a part of turning 4?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421844 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 12:54:52 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2421844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty good lately. DS is almost two and really fun and talking a lot and he is wild but behaves pretty well...</p> <p>Today however he has been a terror! Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421829 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 12:47:30 +0000 Cherrybee 2421829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like Im doing pretty good right now but that's all because I have been off work for 3 months but E has still been going to daycare - so I've had unlimited time to get her up and out of the door in the mornings, plenty of time to do housework and errands, lots of time to rest and therefore lots of patience with E in the evenings/weekends. I'm really not sure how I'm going to fare when I go back next week and its back to the old, intolerable routine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421822 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 12:45:40 +0000 Mama Bird 2421822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not good. I've had it made very clear to me that the entire family thinks I'm a crap mother. They would not let me cut the three year old's hours in day care because (gasp!) he won't nap at home. Clearly not going outside at all and not spending time with his own mom is better for a child, as long as he sleeps. I even get chewed out if I pick him up right after naptime instead of right before closing. Not sure why they let me take care of the baby, maybe it's just because I come with the milk. Looking forward to being back at work in a month so I don't feel like I have a choice about whether I'm there for the kids. Definitely not how I expected my maternity leave to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421738 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:55:31 +0000 NovBaby1112 2421738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: @hilsy85: hugs! Been there more times than I can count lately...</p> <p>Not feeling too good right now. I feel like I'm constantly yelling at the 3 year old to stop doing thiS and that, and she just doesn't listen and I lose my shit. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421734 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:51:51 +0000 sorrycharlie 2421734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have good and bad weeks. No one in my house sleeps and I'm starting to lose my shit. My 3 year old gets up in the MOTN at least once, usually, gets in our bed and wants to watch a show (because this is what we do in the morning to buy some time and she cannot tell time, obviously). She loses her mind when we bring her back to her room - sometimes goes back to sleep, last night did not (so she's been up since 3:30 am). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421733 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:51:15 +0000 Anagram 2421733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go pretty easy on myself about a lot of parenting related things. So I think I'm doing pretty good lately. Maybe my standards are low, haha.</p> <p>Mainly I miss my girls a lot now that I'm at work. I feel like I don't get any quality time with them because I come home and have to rush to feed the baby and put her for her mini nap; then I have to rush to unpack all the daycare food items and my pump items and clean them; Then I have to rush to start making dinner. The 2 year old is mainly ignored during all this (luckily, she's good at playing independently). And then the baby wakes up and I have to wrangle both through dinner and getting ready for bed. It's so rare that I get to actually PLAY with them now. Such a big departure from my whole maternity leave where I was with the kiddos all day and could give each some individual attention while the other was napping. That's all rough, but I don't blame myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421732 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:50:20 +0000 snowjewelz 2421732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: thank you :heart: i know.. i'd give people the same advice haha but i just know we can prob do better and hate the moments when we cave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421728 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:47:40 +0000 Jess1483 2421728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just moved, and my house is a big old disaster, and painters and workmen and all sorts of people are all over it, stressing me out, and I've completely run out of patience for my 3 year-old. And he can totally tell. It's awful. I'm trying so hard to stay calm and patient with him, but I'm just done. So we've been watching a ton of TV, which makes me feel like an awful parent. </p> <p>But I'm rocking it with my 6 month-old, who just started sleeping through the night and is so happy and easy. But that's more about him than me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421726 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:45:56 +0000 Foodnerd81 2421726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At this very moment, ok, but overall at this time, pretty bad. I'm trying to be easy on myself but adjusting to life with two has been really hard. I feel like I'm not bonding well with the baby, too impatient with the toddler, losing my temper too quickly. It's not great. But today is going better than yesterday, extra tv won't do long term damage, and eating only carbs and cheese and fruit for a few weeks is ok. Right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421721 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:43:01 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2421721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: @hilsy85: &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 Big hugs!! I am right there with you. It is SO hard and the guilt after losing your shit doesn't make it better... </p> <p>@youboots: It's good that you are catching any issues now and I hope she'll move past them quickly</p> <p>@snowjewelz: Don't beat yourself up too much on the screentime- We've been caving on it, too, just because it's easy and we are exhausted. We actually took it away from our 4 yr old for 2 days due to how bad she's being, so it's forcing us to come up with other things to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421716 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:41:14 +0000 babypugs 2421716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not too bad. We're potty training and I get frustrated, but I've done a decent job keeping it all positive. I need to get better about not snapping at the animals--it made me sad when I heard her tell one to go away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421704 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:31:09 +0000 snowjewelz 2421704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So-so. I've been reading up on Janet Lansbury and I really want to implement a lot of what she teaches, but it's so hard! So I'm being kinda hard on myself that I suck at following through and being firmer (with myself), etc. </p> <p>Also feeling guilty how much screen-time she gets sometimes b/c I cave :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421695 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:24:37 +0000 hilsy85 2421695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, considering last night I sat on top of my 3 year old and screamed in his face about him not wanting to take antibiotics (all while my 3 month old was hysterically crying)...not feeling so great. But things have been better this morning so that's a plus. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421688 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:21:18 +0000 youboots 2421688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly good. T's sleep/wanting to sleep with us is an ongoing issue. She's a great eater. She's such a happy baby with a lovely disposition. We recently had our concerns about her legs confirmed with X-rays- she has orthopedic issues. We have been referred to Shriners- so that makes my Mama heart sad, I'm anxious to hear about interventions. But she seems to be progressing fine with her physical milestones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421681 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:18:28 +0000 JoJoGirl 2421681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I *totally* lost my shit with my 2.5 year old the other day so not feeling so good :( Like, snapped out of my rage and she was just standing there crying. Ugh. Although to be fair she was already crying before I lost my shit... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-how-do-you-feel-about-your-current-state-of-parenting#post-2421678 Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:17:12 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2421678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm mixed. I feel like I'm doing awesome with my almost-2 yr old, but I still feel like I need to spend more time with her individually. </p> <p>I feel like I'm struggling, or even failing, with my 4 yr old and her newest personality shift. Yet, just two weeks ago I was absolutely loving how everything was going for us. </p> <p>Oye! </p> <p>How is it going in your parenting world? </p>